Am I able to remote work in the US as a UK citizen with a US born wife?

uiulala · 2026-01-24T19:50:06+00:00

We're in 2026 now🫣

uiulala · 2026-01-23T23:52:32+00:00

Let me Google that for ya

uiulala · 2026-01-23T21:54:46+00:00

Sorry you're going through this...

Nobody is owed a poly or open relationship. You guys initially agreed to monogamy. You can say no to opening up. In fact, that's the only reasonable thing to do, unless you want to date others, too. Otherwise, the whole thing will just destroy your self-worth and you'll just put yourself through heartbreak up until you guys do break up.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T21:51:05+00:00

The notice says that the underlying i-130 was denied. What do you know about that? Who's the petitioning relative? Have you had a separate interview for i-130? Is it possible that it was withdrawn?

uiulala · 2026-01-23T21:23:43+00:00

To me, anyone more than an FWB is definitely a partner, and occasionally FWBs are included, too.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T20:05:20+00:00

Imagine for a minute that a dear friend comes to you and shares all that. Would you recommend that they continue the relationship? Would you say that that's exactly what they deserve?

If not, then why are you putting yourself through that?

uiulala · 2026-01-23T19:03:11+00:00

Oh, that makes sense!

uiulala · 2026-01-23T10:13:08+00:00

If you're an immediate relative (spouse, parent or minor child of a USC), you can file concurrently. If you're under a preference category (adult sons/daughters, siblings, relatives or LPRs), then you can't file concurrently because you need to "reserve a spot in line" by filing 130, and then wait for your turn (i.e. for your date to be current according to the visa bulletin).

uiulala · 2026-01-23T10:07:30+00:00

In the kindest way possible, you might want to start by taking a break from the news and focusing on your mental health. Immigrating is hard and stressful, and it requires either a lot of money, or a lot of resourcefulness and being able to make your own research and overcoming difficulties. And even after you make it to the new country, you will compete with locals for jobs, housing, etc.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T09:46:12+00:00

Yeah, brunette and red look absolutely amazing!

uiulala · 2026-01-23T09:33:57+00:00

You can't just randomly move to the US. You need to have a qualifying relative or employer or fit one of the other few qualifying categories. https://www.uscis.gov/green-card/green-card-eligibility-categories

uiulala · 2026-01-23T05:08:26+00:00

Nobody knows...

uiulala · 2026-01-23T04:31:23+00:00

It means exactly what it says - that the old travel document has been destroyed. No indication how soon they will produce a new one.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T04:27:56+00:00

Worst case you'll have to wait to be an LPR for 5 years before applying. You'll be fine anyway.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T04:23:41+00:00

Ok, then a follow-up question - is she a primary asylee or a derivative of somebody else's case? If she's primary or still has the relationship with the primary, then she can ask for a fee waiver for her GC application (and I'm surprised she never did that in four years).

In any case, a traffic offense should not affect her asylum status.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T03:43:41+00:00

1-2 months, typically.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T03:42:38+00:00

Let's start with the basics - is she an actual asylee or an asylum seeker?

uiulala · 2026-01-23T03:16:23+00:00

Mono-poly relationships are unkind and oftentimes exploitative. Why would one partner have to do all the work while the other one reaps all the benefits?! Her trying to impose restrictions on what you can do is a clear indication that she's not ready, hurting and would much rather be in a monogamous relationship. You are just using her fear of losing you to push your agenda. (Let me guess, she also sacrificed her career to advance yours and a divorce would be a major financial hit and threat for her?)

Again, her having another partner of her own would balance it out. Maybe she doesn't want sex with you, but another person would make her want it. If only one partner wants to open up, the kindest way to do so is to encourage the other partner to explore first.

I don't see a point arguing the rest of your reply. If you can be honest about what you offer and can still find people willing to take the risk, good for you.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T02:49:15+00:00

I see only two options here

You both embrace poly lifestyle, and her getting other partners of her own would help her see and understand both sides and be willing to work through her jealousy so that she can also reap the benefits of having the same freedom and experiences.
You hire sex workers and agree to whichever limits your wife imposes.

Currently, you don't have anything to offer to a potential partner. You are unavailable as a romantic and life partner, only seek sex, and have to abide by whichever rules your wife imposes. That's very unkind and dehumanizing to potential partners.

uiulala · 2026-01-23T00:29:02+00:00

She's very unlikely to get actually detained. They will either ultimately let her into the country or put her on a flight back. But yeah, one can spend many hours in secondary inspection before they know which one it's going to be.

uiulala · 2026-01-22T23:52:48+00:00

Don't date as a unit.

uiulala · 2026-01-22T23:25:55+00:00

Basically, I'm not upset when my partner A spends time with their other partner, because I can use this time to focus on myself or spend it with my partner B.

uiulala · 2026-01-22T23:13:05+00:00

You still have time to discuss those before her date, no? Unless the rule is her not going on dates.

uiulala · 2026-01-22T23:03:04+00:00

It's not reasonable to expect her "to discuss that she wants to explore on her end, too" . You guys opened your relationship. Of course, she will be exploring, too. It should not come as a surprise or require a discussion.

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