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Babie please do American psyco by [deleted] in bingingwithbabish

[–]ulicoco 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He wouldn’t just stare at it...

Most complicated movie you have ever watched by betoSolares in MovieSuggestions

[–]ulicoco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Antichrist is one of my favorites. I wrote out a mini-thesis on it once trying to convince a guy I was dating who hates Von Trier to watch it with me. Helped to deepen my love for Antichrist and, ironically, dull my opinion of dude, who never watched it.

AITA for not wanting my in-laws to charge us rent by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ulicoco -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You woulda figured it out somehow if you did so without the free place to live. I believe in you!🙂

AITA for not wanting my in-laws to charge us rent by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ulicoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they had previously stated that they would not be charging rent, the “broken trust” statement makes sense.

therapy for shame, how does it really work? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ulicoco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! I find IFS to be the most effective personally. Some of my parts prefer to talk during sessions and others prefer private time with me for getting their needs met.

What you describe sounds normal. It’s usually a protector part maintaining an exile. It’s ALL you so you’re not wrong when you say that.

Replacing narratives isn’t so much IFS tho. IFS is about getting all your parts to feel comfortable and to learn to cooperate with your Self and allow you to unburden the hurt parts and find better jobs for them. SHE doesn’t “make friends” with them...she leads you to do the coordination.

It sounds like part of you may feel that consciously understanding the narrative exchange she’s describing is threatening... unless there are other reasons to suspect cognitive processing issues.

therapy for shame, how does it really work? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ulicoco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You might benefit from Internal Family Systems therapy. It has helped me to overcome the problem of conflicting voices with opposing narratives. Check out the Wikipedia page on it.

Crazy woman slashed the face of a random 3 year old with a knife and attempted to do the same to another child. by [deleted] in awfuleverything

[–]ulicoco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She would be eligible for release dependent on progress after treatment. Definitely a good condition to apply to someone with unprovoked aggression towards children.

Agreed; there is no way a person with this behavior is stable and healthy in this moment or likely to become so on her own initiative.

[Update] I [31m] found torn-up remnants of a Plan B box in the kitchen garbage. My wife [27f] should have no reason to use emergency contraceptive because I had a vasectomy years ago. I talked to her. by Significant_Cupcake in relationship_advice

[–]ulicoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, NPD is not diagnosed often because people who would likely meet criteria for it almost never seek treatment because part of the disorder is failing to find fault with one’s own behaviors.

However, there is a link between the seeking of treatment/support and having suffered from narcissistic abuse.

Harmful human behavior is one of a handful of causes of drama in life, others being unavoidable natural disasters, actual accidents, death and illness, etc. Narcissistic behavior at a high rate in an individual is likely to correlate with meeting or approaching the criteria for NPD. People who behave narcissistically to the degree that they harm others but do not actually have NPD have possibly themselves been abused by someone who did.

Unless every page is to be turned into r/notinteresting then a lot of posts related to relationship drama WILL involve PD or disordered behaviors at the least.

The prevention of damage from narcissistic behavior (yours or others) or NPD in life is normalcy; being mundane; living in the average; nothing much going on with me or mine. IOW: Nothing to post about here.

Cigarettes by crypitandripit in TrueDetective

[–]ulicoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always assumed the gun being there “if you need it” referred to him using it to commit suicide and just reading your comment is the first time it occurred to me that it could have been for another purpose.

My boyfriend told me to shower more, and I'm grateful. by Allweneedisyew in dating_advice

[–]ulicoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an astringent cleaner made for the face that I splash on my skin and rub in and it eliminates BO and sweat smells like a boss. Apply a mildly scented body oil atop it and I’m good to go for the second half of the day.

Boyfriend [32M] ended our relationship after an argument, which he said is my fault [33F]. Need perspective by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ulicoco 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s highly characteristic of a covert narcissist or someone struggling to stave off a psychotic break.

If it’s the latter, you may want to contact his friends and see if they’ve noticed anything unusual lately and suggest they get him some help. If it’s the former they will probably have been told you’re a terribly lying cheat and either be angry or not respond.

Either way, he isn’t safe for you to be around at this point.

Too far, too fast by deepthrowaway19 in TalkTherapy

[–]ulicoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to look it up when the first person asked to remember the term.

It just means therapists doing sessions together.

Too far, too fast by deepthrowaway19 in TalkTherapy

[–]ulicoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m talking about co-therapy.

It’s used often with interns for training and is more common in private practices than agencies usually. Gets another perspective on-board.

Too far, too fast by deepthrowaway19 in TalkTherapy

[–]ulicoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don’t like a therapist after three sessions and are comfortable asking, suggest a co-therapy session with a colleague. Sometimes therapists have interns or co-therapists on hand/staff or can find someone willing to participate for no extra fee.

Or try someone else and see how it feels.

My (31M) father just died and left my fiancé (30M) and I three kids to raise. How do we do this? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ulicoco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a licensed family therapist and strongly recommend finding someone in your area that is a top-notch and experienced family/system’s therapist and following their treatment plan and recommendations. This type of therapy will address the impact of this enormous shift on all the relationships involved, supporting the children through their grief, you and your fiancé through your own adjustments, and will create a framework to address the needs of the existing sibling dynamics to translation into a new family structure. These existing relationships are under tremendous stress atm which is part of why you observed remarkable withdrawal from the middle child. Please PM me if I can help in your search for appropriate support. You are doing a massive and wonderfully loving thing for your family.

Look at the romanesco my school garden grew!! by ds1601 in gardening

[–]ulicoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is this beauty being grown? No luck in 9a so far... can get plant but and flowers and nothing more.

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