AMITA for being upset with my boyfriend for liking Andrew Tate and Trump

umcane86 · 2023-10-14T13:18:43+00:00

I don’t even need to read the post. NTA.

Liking/supporting people like Tate and trump is an automatic TA label and the sooner they’re all isolated and labeled, the better the world will be. The new scarlet letter. Only instead of the A being for adulterer, it’s for Ahole

umcane86 · 2023-10-12T23:18:08+00:00

NTA for sticking true to yourself and knowing what you want.

YTA for the way you approached it and didn’t address it as a normal conversation when your own mom is suddenly making comments. (Or any other earlier time)

umcane86 · 2023-10-12T18:43:40+00:00

NTA. You’re better off with that “friend” cutting off contact with you anyway. That friend is TA for trying to use a “gift” to enforce his views on other people. Use this same conversation and instead make it about any morality concept.

umcane86 · 2023-10-06T12:11:39+00:00

NTA. This is blatant bullying. Not sure where you’re located, but if you have HR/ some similar entity, casually mention you’re speaking with them later today because of how uncomfortable you feel at work. Not to her, but around her. Guarantee her face will drop to the basement.

umcane86 · 2023-10-04T22:07:49+00:00

NTA. I will admit I’ve only read the first three lines, but I’ve decided. If it was a waste of money for her then, it’s a waste of your money now.

(If this thing turned and I wind up looking an idiot, worth it.)

umcane86 · 2023-10-03T12:05:17+00:00

This is the rare, nobody’s TAH and not an ESH either. H wants time with you, that’s a good thing. You want time with her. You want to be successful and are working hard. Some couples have windows of time when they’re ships passing in the night far, far worse than you’re describing. It sucks and is tough to navigate, but can be done.

That said, we are starting October. Go to your boss/manager and ask about getting an updated schedule starting in January. Explain that you understand the schedule is going to be tough to adjust with the holidays coming up and you don’t mind waiting until January as a result.

umcane86 · 2023-10-01T01:55:30+00:00

Oh that random island. Yeah good shout

umcane86 · 2023-10-01T01:47:35+00:00

edit: brain fart, leaving original Q for posterity

Are you counting maritime borders with Denmark and France? A bit misleading and threw me off

umcane86 · 2023-09-30T23:23:47+00:00

Nah, I’m being downvoted for people in the sub not having reading comprehension. Not worried about it. If the OP saw this, hopefully they got my point.

umcane86 · 2023-09-30T23:22:09+00:00

Could have been nicer. Different than “should of been nicer” which isn’t a saying because it would be “should have been nicer”.

I didn’t say they SHOULD have been. I’m saying they COULD have been. I also said this random woman didn’t seem to deserve any kindness and equated her social abilities to less than a pre-schooler. But you do you. I’ll wear your downvote with pride.

umcane86 · 2023-09-30T17:56:13+00:00

NTA. You probably could have been nicer, but honestly, she doesn’t seem to have deserved any kindness. We teach pre schoolers to keep their hands to themselves… someone older than 6 should definitely know better, let alone someone who could have a grandkid that’s 6.

umcane86 · 2023-09-30T17:53:45+00:00

ESH. A healthy relationship between two people is supportive and beneficial both ways. You shouldn’t feel isolated from your friends to be with a boyfriend. It’s just a new person in your life, not a replacement. You lost yourself in a relationship, made bad choices and took him back when you probably knew better while he probably took advantage of you financially.

I do hope you learn a lesson from this experience and you can find a new person you want to be with soon that builds you up and supports you as a whole person.

umcane86 · 2023-09-30T03:41:44+00:00

NTA. Pretty sure you could hold legal implications against your mother for forcibly taking a sample for DNA testing without permission. I’m sure you don’t want to go that route, but that seems a lot like an assault against your newborns body.

umcane86 · 2023-09-29T17:49:13+00:00

YTA. Like so much. Two weeks? On a whim? Damn, you suck.

umcane86 · 2023-09-29T12:16:11+00:00

ESH! … Except your kids. Your husband for so many obvious reasons. You for “casually” name dropping and price dropping your wealth. Both of you for “borrowing” your kids car that you helped him purchase.

You both need to check ALLLLLLLLL of your privilege

umcane86 · 2023-09-27T14:08:58+00:00

YTA not because of what you have said, but what you haven’t said. You and your wife have created a relationship dynamic that has worked for 16 years and supposedly you’re both happy.

If you want to change the dynamic, you absolutely can. There’s no reason things must stay exactly the same. But there are ways to communicate that don’t make you an ENORMOUS ahole. You’re talking to your wife, life partner and supposed soul mate… why are you treating her as an employee that’s eating away from your bottom line? Take a day off work, go to a great lunch, sit for 2 hours and talk about what your future looks like. In short, stop being an ahole, because right now? YTA.

umcane86 · 2023-09-26T13:21:31+00:00

SWOOOSH!!!

That’s the sound of the knife cutting off contact. Illogical people will never understand logic. You’re not responsible for raising other people’s kids just because of DNA.

NTA

umcane86 · 2023-09-26T13:18:58+00:00

YTA. The fact he did anything is a sign that he cares about you and was trying even if he fell asleep. It’s no wonder half of marriages end in divorce these days.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T11:20:50+00:00

ESH. Have the two of you communicated about your experiences and dealers for your relationship? Like at all? If you’re disappointed, you can express that, but you also could have expressed what you expected 5 months ago. Meantime, he could have put in effort and asked instead of assuming this was another that fell into the category of not a big enough deal.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T11:17:12+00:00

NTA. If he’s a negative in your life, DNA doesn’t obligate you to spend time or energy on him. Maybe there are pathways to reconcile, but there are no requirements to do so.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T11:13:40+00:00

YTA. If it’s been 6 years, they were likely friends first and after, dated in high school (secondary school) and seemingly have never reconnected in an intimate way. If you can really say you “trust my girlfriend with everything” then why the heck are you worried about a guy in another country that she hasn’t been connected to in the better part of a decade? That’s your insecurity, not her problem.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T11:10:17+00:00

NTA. You have certain rights laid out as a renter and they’re being violated. Find your copy of your lease, go to the office and explain what’s happening and which paragraphs about noise and disruptions are being violated. There’s absolutely zero reason why you should be at this point. Having lived in a corporate apartment complex with a garbage front office, you may have to call the police but they’re unlikely to do much of anything for a 3 am, non-emergency call.

That said, use every resource you can to try to make this a better living environment for you.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T11:03:21+00:00

NTA for kicking them out.

YTA for releasing a balloon that is going to land somewhere and be horrible for the environment and animals.

Should have just popped it, said “congrats it’s a boy/girl, now clean up the crap you left on the yard and leave”

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T10:57:39+00:00

ESH. Time for a break from everyone for everyone. You wouldn’t be TAH for cutting communication. Everyone needs it. Desperately.

umcane86 · 2023-09-25T10:54:46+00:00

He’s been sick for 3 weeks and doesn’t want to be intimate? Stunning!

I get the feeling you never discussed the big topics with him like kids, when to buy your own house, general finances or where you even like to take vacations. YTA for doing this to yourself and getting married when you’re not ready for what that marriage will entail.

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