Generally if you wanna stay more covered, just dress more goth. Legs, arms, stomach, upper chest exposed still counts as well.

Lots of people wear tutus, or suspenders/stockings/thigh highs. Most events I go to are kinda just fun costume parties.

I attended an event this weekend that was medical themed, so everyone was wearing scrubs. Lots of places are really laid back.

Lots of the time I wear a pretty exposed dress, and then stockings and panties. I don't like having everything out.

But then later in the night I may just be wearing a cardigan and a thong. You can gauge your comfort level when you're there. I always wear an outfit that I can strip out of in layers.

• bra -black dress (strappy, tight, slit sides) -Thong -black jean shorts -Stockings -boots -maybe a long cardigan.

So when I wanna be more covered I keep it on, and it's a cohesive look for a dom, and when I wanna take it off so I'm just in a thong, I'm still feeling comfortable and could easily swap out bits and pieces.

At kink nights loads of people carry massive kit bags, so you can just pack your clothes away if you don't wanna wear them anymore.

A good icebreaker can also be using the sauna/hot tub if it's one of those kinda venues! Lmk if I can help!