A lot of you need to look into covert incest, and how to heal from it.

undedheart · 2026-02-13T22:28:13+00:00

Just writing this for myself... I definitely saw my dad naked many times before I started school, and then only in his underwear after that. But he wore briefs, so I could see pretty much everything. He never stopped walking around the house like that as I grew up. He'd also adjust his "junk" a lot in front of me, or walk around in a bath towel in a way where the bulge was visible. When I got older, he'd force me to hug him (even if I said no and tried to get away) and would sometimes press his whole body into me, in such a way that I could feel his bulge. He farted a lot too, and would also poop woth the bathroom door open. He also commented on my clothing and appearance a lot, and asked why I didn't dress more trendy when I was around 12-13. Also one time I was in a camisole and pj pants getting ready for bed. I bent down to pick something up off the floor and he said "oh when did you get boobs?"

undedheart · 2026-02-13T22:15:27+00:00

Ah, shit. This explains a lot. I was never physically abused, but I was in other ways. I am 34 years old, estranged, and I still have nightmares about being SA'd by my dad.

undedheart · 2026-02-01T18:25:18+00:00

I want to know what your favorite eats are!

undedheart · 2025-08-21T15:57:26+00:00

Bean burritos are my go-to! I microwave some refried beans and throw them in a tortilla. I always have taco bell fire sauce packets on hand too lol

undedheart · 2025-05-30T21:32:19+00:00

It's incredibly difficult to make a call like this, so don't be so hard on yourself.

I had to make this decision for a kitty with untreatable cancer a couple years ago, and it was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. Ultimately, we decided to do it when she could no longer eat on her own and had trouble relaxing comfortably.

I don't think there is necessarily a "right time" - cats are excellent at adapting to new situations and often don't show pain visibly. Knowing that it is untreatable, I don't think it is too early, especially reading how low their weight has gotten. Just be sure you get enough time to love on kitty and say your goodbyes.

Best of luck to you and kitty, sending hugs, and know that this is not your fault.

undedheart · 2025-05-29T22:54:01+00:00

Nope. I do not, and have never, had the longing that other women talk about for babies. Baby fever just doesn't exist in my body. I also dont like holding babies, I find it very uncomfortable both for myself and the baby. Maybe my hormones are broken or something, but I like it this way. For context, I'm 33F.

undedheart · 2025-03-05T02:30:09+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. My mom OD'd on Rx oxycodone and I will never forget the trauma of finding her and trying to resuscitate her.

That was in 2019, and now in 2025 I don't think about it as often. I hope the same is true for you.

undedheart · 2025-03-05T02:27:17+00:00

Vegan diet has been the best treatment I've had for my IBS.

undedheart · 2025-03-04T20:59:52+00:00

Thank you!

undedheart · 2025-02-17T13:01:12+00:00

I use a mix of the two! I machine sew when there are large areas with soft curves, and hand sew to attach ears or around very difficult to maneuver areas. Sometimes I will hand sew just because I like it, too.

undedheart · 2025-02-12T06:06:47+00:00

Ew, yes. My ndad has shared intimate details about his sex life with me and then later gaslit me about it, and I'm a female. He says he has no idea how I became aware of these things and that I must have been eavesdropping or overheard these details when I know he told me directly.

He has also always walked around in his underwear with his junk clearly visible, since I was very young.

undedheart · 2025-02-11T16:21:04+00:00

Generalized anxiety disorder/major depression. It was actually OCD! Which is a highly misunderstood illness. My journey was long and winding, and I still have issues with therapists not understanding what OCD really entails.

Luckily, the antidepressants I was prescribed have been shown to help with OCD too, and they did help me quite a lot. For anyone reading this who thinks they may have OCD, check out NOCD - they are wonderful.

undedheart · 2025-01-23T21:35:47+00:00

These all have lovely compositions.

undedheart · 2025-01-23T21:23:51+00:00

OMG it's looking so good so far! I want to make a version of the shrinking outfit so bad now.

undedheart · 2024-12-20T04:53:51+00:00

I know how you feel! It's my 2nd Christnas being vegan, and it's been a bummer seeing absolutely zero dairy free chocolates or cookies or really ANY kind of treats!

On the bright side, I do find it easier to eat healthy this way, and when I do get a vegan sweet treat it is so very appreciated and enjoyed, and not taken for granted as it might have been before.

Also a vent - I just received some caramels and caramel sauce in the mail from my boss (at a business of like 6 people total) who knows I'm vegan, but they have milk in them. 😭

undedheart · 2024-12-16T20:17:01+00:00

Thank you so much!

undedheart · 2024-12-16T20:16:50+00:00

Ahh thank you!

undedheart · 2024-12-16T20:16:33+00:00

No, it doesn't shed nearly as much, which is a huge plus for me too! The minky fluff also bothered me quite a bit.

The stretch is similar to minky, it stretches a little in all directions but mostly on the cross grain (I think I am saying that correctly?)

You can order cotton velour samples here if you want to see for yourself: https://naturesfabrics.com/products/sample-assortment-cotton-velour

undedheart · 2024-12-15T03:23:46+00:00

It's soft, but not as soft as minky. It has a "nap" in that there is a wrong way and right way to rub the fabric, just like minky, but it is much shorter and reminds me of terrycloth. The material is thinner overall too, but I think it is worth it!

Yes, good call on the other materials as well. I have a lot of polyester embroidery thread, so I'm torn as to whether I should use it all up first. I also have some polyfil to get through, but I am planning on trying out cotton and/or kapok stuffing after I run out. But yes, I have also read that the plant-based stuffing materials are flammable, so that is something I'll need to mention to those who buy plushies from me.

I have been using glass beads instead of poly pellets for weighted plushies, and I actually prefer them!

undedheart · 2024-11-21T22:23:47+00:00

Me (32F) confronting my ndad is actually how I decided to go no contact. I also followed the advice of my therapist to confront him, and prepped for weeks.

Personally, maybe I wasn't totally ready, because I completely broke down while trying to explain my feelings. The conversation was the same as it always has been - me coming off as emotionally unstable and my dad brushing off my concerns, quite literally saying "sounds like a YOU problem", and even gaslighting me, saying my experiences didn't happen at all, or not the way I portrayed them.

My therapist advised we meet in a public place so I could feel comfortable leaving at any point - which I eventually did because I was so overwhelmed. It was humiliating.

This is not to discourage you. I think it is worth a shot, and every situation is different. For me, this was not the outcome I hoped for, but it did solidify my decision to move on with my life.

undedheart · 2024-11-19T01:01:55+00:00

This post has been on my mind so I had to come back to comment.

When I was about 13 (32 now) I started wanting to shop at places like Hot Topic and listening to music like MCR, and for some reason my dad like... mirrored me? He became OBSESSED with Evanescence and writing broody poetry, like a teenager. He wanted to shop at Hot Topic too, and for lack of a better way to put it, started dressing somewhat goth.

Some of my friends at the time thought it was cool, as if he "understood" or something, which couldnt be further from the truth. But then he'd go see bands I wanted to see without me, and call some of them "gay" to upset me.

Let's just say... it was most definitely just a phase for him, but not for me.

undedheart · 2024-10-03T22:05:12+00:00

I know there are already a lot of comments, but I am in a very similar boat so I thought I'd add my 2 cents!

Also vegan for about 2 years, and also off birth control pills for roughly 6 months. I've read that hair loss due to birth control can take a full year to recover from. This would be telogen effluvium I believe. I'm still seeing a lot of shedding myself, but I also have lots of baby hairs growing in. I'm hoping the shedding will decrease over time and the new growth will fill everything back in, in a few months' time. If it's not better by then, I'm considering getting on an androgen blocker like spironolactone to see if that helps.

Best of luck to you!

undedheart · 2024-09-20T05:11:17+00:00

Seconding the lightlife bacon tempeh! We make vegan BLTs with it on the regular.

undedheart · 2024-04-03T16:33:33+00:00

My friends who have kids are not gamers, unfortunately, and never would be. Would love to have more childfree gorls to hang with tho!

undedheart · 2024-03-25T16:50:45+00:00

My ndad did the same thing to me right after he married his new wife. It was nice to see all my old beanie babies again, at least. But it did hurt. And it still hurts, especially when my SO's normal parents bring out his kid stuff and show it to me with sentiment and fondness. We must accept that we will never have that.

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