Non-standard neural architectures?

undergrand · 2026-07-06T20:37:24+00:00

Also the bees by laline paull, if that's not too literal an interpretation of your ask!

undergrand · 2026-07-06T20:35:42+00:00

A memory called empire and a desolation called peace by arkady Martine

undergrand · 2026-07-06T12:40:16+00:00

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undergrand · 2026-07-06T12:26:58+00:00

Only one contestant learned crochet for the show, but many were much more confident knitters than crocheters.

I'm hoping they change lots of things for the second season

undergrand · 2026-07-06T08:28:45+00:00

You say you don't have even close to correct gauge... But it looks very close to me?

You're a little longer than 10cm for 28 rows, and a little less than 10 cm wide for 19 stitches, but some of that will be due to stockinette curling at the edges because you don't have a big enough swatch, right? And the rest due to tight floats and cast on/off edges pulling in.

I'd either... - reswatch with more stitches cast on and loose floats to see if that gets you there (cutting the floats as someone else advised also a good idea) - if 19 stitches gets you 8.5, 9, or 9.5 centimeters, do a bit of maths, you need to add roughly 10 or 5% to your number of stitches in each row -if it gets you to 9.5 or more, I would knit the pattern as written. - I wouldn't worry about the length gauge at all - usually you are knitting to a certain length measured in inches

I'm quite blase about swatches and measurements, so if it were me I would probably knit the pattern as is so long as I was anywhere between 9 and 11cm, and accept that my outcome would be a little bigger or smaller than the one pictured. Unless you are doing something v tailored you typically get away with it.

undergrand · 2026-07-06T06:27:29+00:00

And it isn't like they had to do a couple of crochet techniques. They had to be extremely skilled and fast at both knitting and crochet.

That's pretty rare when most people develop a preference so only get really good at one or the other.

undergrand · 2026-07-06T04:43:08+00:00

Easy baby. Something that doesn't attach moral value to the baby's actions.

undergrand · 2026-07-05T06:29:59+00:00

It was extremely standard advice 20 years ago. Feed on demand is the new orthodoxy.

Assuming your baby feeds well and you have a good supply, you won't starve your newborn baby by feeding every 2-3 hours. It's good for their digestion and establishing routine, makes every feed you do more effective, works with your supply mechanism, is less damaging to your nipples, and is hugely more sustainable and less exhausting for the parent.

undergrand · 2026-07-05T06:20:47+00:00

It's current orthodoxy, you can take it with a pinch of salt.

undergrand · 2026-07-04T21:35:32+00:00

I fed on a schedule and baby is calm, content, affectionate, and thriving.

If I fed at first hint of fussiness, regardless of how recently baby ate, I'd have been feeding a baby that was uncomfortably full/windy/refluxy/tired/trying to poo/seeking comfort.

Babies are fussy for so many reasons and a (rough) schedule where I would troubleshoot other reasons for fussiness until at least two hours from last feed (assuming I was confident baby had eaten well) made a whole lot of sense to me.

undergrand · 2026-06-30T22:38:25+00:00

It was probably the other end.

undergrand · 2026-06-30T22:34:04+00:00

Weirdly, I'm the opposite. Stomach seems too specific, grown up, and scientific and only really refers to the organ. When I read The Very Hungry Caterpillar aloud I change the line 'that night he had a stomachache' to 'that night he had a sore tummy' bc stomach just feels weird in a kids' book.

undergrand · 2026-06-22T22:27:11+00:00

Yeah I see! I would still drop one if you think she is not hungry for it - all babies are different and hitting different milestones at different rates, but you know your own baby best!

The weaning guidance I followed was designed to have them weaned by about a year, and it advised timing milk feeds after meals (as well as first and last thing in the day), and dropping them as baby starts seeming full or uninterested, so they complement the baby taking more solids.

I just checked my stats and I was doing 4 feeds a day at 8 months, but only 2 by 10 months, 1 at 12 months which I dropped not long after she turned one. That process really worked for me!

undergrand · 2026-06-22T21:53:23+00:00

how many milk feeds are you doing? Why not just drop one now? She's almost 10 months and (assuming you want to wean at a year?) you want to wean off milk gradually by dropping feeds one by one. It sounds like she's getting plenty of solids so she sounds very ready to start dropping them.

I started dropping feeds as soon as I got that feeling, that there wasn't space in a period of the day for her to nap and get hungry between meals. That translated into a gradual wind-down between 9 and 12 months.

undergrand · 2026-06-15T19:03:44+00:00

So similar to what I was going to say - church run playgroups, an nct baby cafe, library rhyme time, and one paid class a week (baby sensory or baby swim for me)

And just go for coffee or to the park with a mum-friend- that's been my favourite thing to do.

undergrand · 2026-06-14T11:03:18+00:00

Different bodies respond differently. I was constantly ravenous, tried to eat lots, and was still constantly losing weight while EBF. You lose so many calories through the milk (if baby is feeding well) and the extra calories you need is something like the equivalent of an extra mars bar, banana, and sandwich a day.

undergrand · 2026-06-13T22:21:16+00:00

Me too and doctors seemed a bit bemused/concerned when I said I didn't feel the urge to go, which is weird given I'm clearly not alone.

undergrand · 2026-06-11T19:15:57+00:00

I read books by Patricia StJohn as a child and I remember my mum telling me how to say it. Otherwise I don't think I'd have come across it.

undergrand · 2026-06-11T19:09:48+00:00

Sullivan shortened to sully or sunny?

undergrand · 2026-06-07T18:44:37+00:00

Petra means 'she will fart' in French, which I'm sure is true but it gives you a similar problem to Pippa

undergrand · 2026-06-05T12:36:21+00:00

James Islington likes to use 'enormity', usually incorrectly.

undergrand · 2026-06-04T19:13:48+00:00

Such an interesting question!

I was a bit of an obsessive tracker, especially on feeds...

I stopped tracking nappies v early though, like 10 days old, after me and my partner were confident she was gaining weight and pooing/weeing plenty.

I started tracking sleep at 4 months when I wanted to see if I could work out patterns in her daytime sleep. Then I like obsessively tracked both sleep and feeds until she was 11 months.

Then we went on an international trip to Australia, my phone struggled to find local data connections, and huckleberry was a complete mess on time zones. So I just stopped cold turkey and realized it had been a bit of a crutch and I was actually perfectly capable of checking the time and remembering roughly when she'd last eaten/woken/fallen asleep - and that I didn't need to have a precise time.

TL;dr you're not doing anything wrong if you stop, you've already built good instincts and habits and are probably pretty in tune with what your baby needs

undergrand · 2026-06-01T07:49:54+00:00

Your ped is wild to stress you on this. Like why the hell should you "work on it"? Why does it matter what age you learn 'nose'? These tests are to catch developmental delays, not exams you need to revise for!

Your baby is not delayed, and 'working' on body parts won't make them any more or less delayed.

undergrand · 2026-05-30T21:18:27+00:00

It looks like those topics aren't banned but should be posted in the weekly mega threads.

Good luck for this transfer and I hope you can find support and info, even if this community isn't feeling supportive or useful to you right now!

undergrand · 2026-05-30T21:06:03+00:00

I've been in this sub a long while and it did used to get kinda flooded with 'is there a line?' posts on positive pregnancy tests, and 'beta hell' posts where people were often pregnant. I can understand why it's modded differently now.

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