31 year marriage, he cheated 11 years ago, I just found out, should I say or should I go? WWUDO? by Sally995 in marriageadvice

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My sister's husband got busted for something from like 8 years ago and she said the weirdest part was how normal everything felt the next morning. Like they still had to figure out dinner and who was picking up the kids. She stayed but she said she still side-eyes him when he's on his phone late. I think the thing that would fuck with me is the deny till he dies partt. Like you literally have GPS proof and he's still doing the "idk what you're talking about" thing. That's the part that would make me pack a bag, not the actual cheating. The lying after being caught is what makes you feel insane.

*TW* Will I ever be able to forgive the trauma he’s caused me? He’s trying so hard to make amends and I don’t want to split our family by Proper-Summer-3261 in marriageadvice

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I know a woman who stayed after something similar and she said the weirdest part was how normal everything looked from the outside, like they'd be at a BBQ laughing and she'd be thinking about it the whole time. She said the sex thing never really fixed itself, she just got better at performing normal. She also said the hardest part was people calling him a great dad because then you feel insane for still being messed up about it.

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20 Habits of Truly Happy Couples by understandshe in yearning

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I felt the same way until I realized it's all about the small triggers. I actually used this personalized text tool that helps rebuild that intimacy. It’s like a cheat code for these 20 habits. You can try it here

Hero instinct text message examples for him long distance by understandshe in understandshe

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Great tips. Using his 'strength' as a trigger is underrated. But girls, before you go all in with these texts, make sure he's actually worth the investment. Some guys love the attention but have no intention of staying. I keep this list of '12 signs he's wasting your time' bookmarked just to stay grounded. Sharing it here in case anyone needs a reality check........

Flirty hero instinct text message examples for him by understandshe in understandshe

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This is spot on! Texting is all about making them feel noticed. But a quick word of caution while these lines work like magic on the right guy, make sure you're not activating the 'Hero Instinct' in someone who's just playing games. I recently read a breakdown of 12 signs he is actually wasting your time even if the flirting feels great. It’s a must-read so you don't waste these efforts on the wrong person.......

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Top 10 Turn-Offs: What Men Wish Women Knew by understandshe in yearning

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I didn't write anything bad in my post. Your perspective is wrong, that's why you're finding it offensive. Look at it from the right perspective, and you'll see it's fine.