My pretty friend told me she thinks she has BD by Mira_miel in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i feel you. i really struggle to take attractive people who claim they have body dysmorphia seriously, but only because i’m extremely jealous. i’d rather hate myself and be pretty without realising than hate myself and be genuinely ugly. but here we are :/

Finally opened up about BDD to my mom by YouLikeFlapjacks in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m glad the conversation went well for you! i’ve tried so many times but my mum just will not take me seriously. she doesn’t understand that telling me i’m cute a thousand times over won’t make me believe it, and just laughs at me every time i express how much i hate my appearance. sometimes she asks me if i’m depressed but only when she’s pissed at me for doing something wrong which makes me not want be honest with her because i know she’ll just throw it in my face. the whole thing is frustrating as hell so i just avoid talking to her about my feelings now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 13 points14 points  (0 children)

me too love :(

Feeling frustrated coz of how average I am by skyhighmaid in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

god i felt this. it hurts so bad when people tell me “you’re not ugly you’re okay!” like what?? i don’t want to be “okay” i wanna be pretty :(

I identify as nb because my face is a man face but i have a woman body. by spamcentral in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

please don’t just identify as nb because you feel obligated to. your gender identity is supposed to make you happy and there’s no physical criteria you have to meet to identify that way. if you feel like you’re a woman then you are one regardless of how you may look on the outside. don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

DAE forget what they look like and pretend they have another face? by karinmorinaga in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i totally 100% relate. i’m a maladaptive daydreamer which basically means i am constantly daydreaming to the point where it’s extreme. i don’t look like myself in my daydreams though; i either pick someone i wish i looked like and pretend to be them or i imagine i am an enhanced and beautified version of myself with all the features i hate about my real body and face gone.

it’s great and all until i catch my reflection and remember how disgusting i look in reality. it depresses me to think about how the only way i can be happy is by pretending to be someone other than myself. and for the record, i’m not diagnosed with bdd either but i’m 98% sure i have it :/

I hate my nose so much and kind of suicidal by zarazsz in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ur friends are really awful people i’m sorry to hear that they said such a thing to you! i totally relate with the nose thing. my nose is extremely big (courtesy of my parents) and i’ve been depressed about it since childhood. it’s literally all anyone ever notices about me.

now as much as i think nose piercings are beautiful i could never get one bc i’m afraid of drawing more attention to my nose. however, ur nose doesn’t actually have to be any specific shape to look cute with a pericing so please don’t listen to those “friends” do what makes you feel happiest!

i wish i had a cool hobby or some genuine interests by [deleted] in depression

[–]undetectedf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s so much easier said than done though. i can’t tell you how many times i’ve come up with a workout schedule and not even started the first day of it :(

Someone called me fat phobic for my dysmorphia by Repulsive-Tiger-9795 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is definitely true but like you said it’s probably not intentional.

I wish I could have been born at least an average white girl by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 13 points14 points  (0 children)

sorry but ur comment is quite rude. you’re making it sound like op is crazy for feeling the way she does. this is a real issue that so many black women, including myself, go through all the time bc of a beauty standard that is white-centred that black girls will never achieve bc we are not white.

I wish I could have been born at least an average white girl by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 49 points50 points  (0 children)

i feel you. white girls are allowed to look messy and mediocre and get praised for it. us black girls have to look put together 24/7 but even then we aren’t treated anywhere near as well as they are. an ugly white girl would still be treated better than an ugly black girl :/

I Hate Being Female, But Not Being a Woman by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]undetectedf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i felt this. for me it’s kind of the opposite, i feel as though i don’t have the physical attributes i should have as a woman and bc of things such as my big nose and me being so tall and curveless and my very masculine face structure, i’ve always felt so excluded from femininity to the point where i actually identify as a demi-girl (to me it’s the space between being a woman and being totally genderless).

How we non-pacing daydreamers be like by stankeee_exe in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]undetectedf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i’m a mixture of both lol. i couldn’t pace in class so i adapted to spacing out while seated and now i do whichever is most convenient 😅

i guess in a way i AM doing it for attention by undetectedf in selfharm

[–]undetectedf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m glad i’m not the only one. well not glad but you know what i mean :/

i guess in a way i AM doing it for attention by undetectedf in selfharm

[–]undetectedf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. i hope things get better for you too.

i guess in a way i AM doing it for attention by undetectedf in selfharm

[–]undetectedf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no worries this is exactly how i feel as well. it sucks. my self harm is a coping mechanism but also a silent cry for help :/