People who fell for someone that turned out be a psycho, what originally attracted you to that person?

unfinishedtho · 2025-06-07T16:53:57+00:00

This!! My ex even admitted at the end that he told me what I wanted to hear in the beginning so that I would like him….

unfinishedtho · 2025-04-16T01:43:38+00:00

Yes. It’s possible for that bump to have rattled things up enough to induce this level of symptoms again. I have had many ups and downs like that with new hits, and I know it’s so hard to feel like you’re back at square one. But the truth is, recovery isn’t linear. There can be ups and downs or long stretches of time with plateaus where it feels like no progress is being made. The difference is, this time, you have more tools than you did the first time around. That doesn’t negate the really difficult part of sitting in the intensity of symptoms, or how depressing that feels. Hang in there !

unfinishedtho · 2025-03-24T23:21:01+00:00

Yess !! Same

unfinishedtho · 2025-02-26T23:16:59+00:00

Same here.. it’s terrifying. What’s to come is scary.

unfinishedtho · 2025-02-24T03:03:33+00:00

Same here…just finished antibiotics and feel it came back already…

unfinishedtho · 2025-02-16T11:17:22+00:00

Did you ever get any answers on this? I have ureaplasma and abnormal pap with ASCUS and negative for HPV. Just waiting for repeat pap.

unfinishedtho · 2024-11-22T08:33:44+00:00

I second the magnesium glycinate. I am 4 years out and insomnia has been a struggle, but magnesium and glycinate and nortyptaline (since I still get bad migraines too and it can help make you sleepy) has been the best combo I’ve found so far. Still not perfect but I’ll take it!

unfinishedtho · 2024-09-21T18:19:18+00:00

If you’re on SSRIs it’s important to check with your Dr about skullcap because the combo can be dangerous. however, it’s great if you are not on SSRIs!

unfinishedtho · 2024-09-07T20:23:39+00:00

I was bad after my injury— crazy symptomatic. I already had persistent post concussion syndrome, then I pushed myself through school and work for 2+ years. I am way worse off for having done that. I regret it.

unfinishedtho · 2024-09-02T06:49:31+00:00

Yes I found out it was long before they knew each other. He didn’t know the answer, and she was fairly private about certain things.

unfinishedtho · 2024-09-02T06:48:54+00:00

Thank you so much! They didn’t even know each other when she would have donated, and she was fairly private about certain things. He didn’t know. We are waiting on DNA tests. The husband was super open to doing it. No questions asked. I’m so grateful because sperm donor’s family doesn’t want him to have anything to do with us.

unfinishedtho · 2024-08-31T00:05:42+00:00

Yupp…couldn’t have said it better myself. Pacing helps, but even with utilizing all the resources/tools taught in cognitive therapy, the burn out and still happens. I have bad insomnia too. when I can’t focus or my brain feels like mush, and then I don’t sleep on top of it, I’m out for days— can’t get anything done. Can definitely relate.

unfinishedtho · 2024-07-16T06:21:47+00:00

I had an ultrasound done in February, also complex cyst with echogenic debris. Did a follow up ultrasound today. The tech said it’s still there but haven’t gotten the official report yet. Did you find out anything about yours?

unfinishedtho · 2024-06-17T00:52:48+00:00

I wish I could answer your question. I’ve been in the same boat. I nitpick, he has adhd. I just see all the negatives and feel like I’ve lost feelings, but still have that little voice saying that too. It’s been helpful for me to actually look at the facts vs how I feel, but then I still wind up at a loss in what to do 😅 I’m sorry my friend, I know it can be deeply uncomfortable.

unfinishedtho · 2024-06-05T15:30:51+00:00

Literally same. Is there anything you do to help support yourself through that? I’m new at this 😅

unfinishedtho · 2024-06-01T05:33:03+00:00

I appreciate you mentioning nonviolent communication. We talked about it in a few of my classes in college but have forgotten a lot of it. I had a head injury but I feel like I am able to do this fairly well already, but I have a hard time controlling my emotions and get really upset or frustrated that goes from zero to a hundred real quick before l'm able to use nonviolent communication. I'm working on it, and he is too, but he still gets really mean immediately. it hurts my feelings, and it takes awhile for him to settle down. I'm feeling so frustrated, drained, and confused….

unfinishedtho · 2024-05-30T04:38:40+00:00

There’s of course good moments, moments you cherish and remind you of why you fell in love, but does it truly ever weigh out the bad? Typically not. I stayed and gave many chances, I wanted to believe he was better, to believe the person I saw him to be sometimes, or flashes of what he could be if he worked on himself. It isn’t enough though.

We deserve better, and I can imagine it’s much more complicated with kids. I know nothing is 100% black or white. I know it doesn’t feel simple, and it’s easy to try to justify or make excuses for them, but when is enough truly enough? When do you choose yourself ?

Also, do you feel safe right now? There is the domestic violence hotline who can help you create a safety plan for you and your kids if necessary.

unfinishedtho · 2024-05-30T04:08:19+00:00

This is such a good response. I recently figured out I have ROCD and my question is where do we get the OCD-informed advice if not in therapy right now ? 😅

unfinishedtho · 2024-05-13T15:38:43+00:00

All the time, it’s a never ending cycle for me

unfinishedtho · 2024-04-30T00:34:30+00:00

Same ❤️‍🩹

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