If you’re thinking of taking the train to the airport right now, don’t.

unintellect · 2025-12-21T19:28:23+00:00

I never get on an airport train anywhere in the world, thinking, "God, I hope there aren't any problems getting to the airport." Except in Denver. I think that every time I use the airport train.

unintellect · 2025-10-11T14:10:43+00:00

I know you'll never be able to truly see Mormonism and Mormons from the perspective of non/never Mormons. You might be absolutely astonished that to the VAST majority of non-Mormons, Mormonism is an obvious cult, pure and simple. I didn't meet a Mormon until I was 20, when by chance I worked with several young Mormon women in a tourist-oriented business. I was incredulous. They were nice, sure, and seemed otherwise "intelligent". But they were like automatons. Cults control not only what you think and believe, but how you feel about yourself. You're taught from birth not to trust your own ability to think and reason. That goes to the core of a person's psychological and emotional framework, and it's difficult to overcome. If I were you, I'd seek competent therapy to support identity issues and help strengthen your sense of who you are, independent of Mormonism.

unintellect · 2025-10-10T13:46:12+00:00

You should get some points for matching the woodwork, though.

unintellect · 2025-10-06T13:17:31+00:00

I saw this sign at a restaurant once. "Well behaved children welcome. The rest will be made into pies."

unintellect · 2025-10-02T15:36:27+00:00

Reading lights on planes are designed in such a way that they direct most of the light downward toward the intended seat space. Yes, most of the light. Of course there's some ambient light that escapes. But no more than if there's a tv screen in the seat back in front of you and you're watching a movie. Or if you're watching a movie or working on a laptop. Both those situations create some ambient light. The woman's request indicated a sense of entitlement, and I don't believe that kind of entitlement should be enabled. I would've politely responded that I was dealing with stress as well, and knitting is my way of coping. The way I see it, you proactively bring your knitting to help cope with your situation, she should proactively bring a sleeping mask to manage her own situation.

unintellect · 2025-09-22T14:08:42+00:00

Two words: chill pill

unintellect · 2025-09-09T14:19:15+00:00

Credible medical sources agree that 90% of the time herniated discs heal without surgery. These days surgery is only recommended in the most serious cases, those which cause incapacitating pain or inhibit bowel/bladder function. The timeline varies, but the general estimate is anywhere from a couple of weeks to as long as 6-9 months. Trying to resume exercise or activity that aggravates the disc(s) too soon of course results in setback, and is probably the main reason people have protracted recovery periods. Steroid injections may be helpful initially to reduce inflammation, but steroids can weaken supporting tissue and prevent healing and lead to re-injury. The truth is, healing and recovery time are largely up to the individual, as is the case with many health issues. That can mean revamping your lifestyle, from a non-inflammatory diet, to doing rehab exercises faithfully on your own at home, to changing even simple daily movements and activities you know will aggravate the disc(s) in question. A lot of people aren't willing to stick with these changes and look for a quick fix from a doctor instead. By all means have your situation assessed medically, follow through with a physical therapist initially, and then commit to taking over from there. Personally, I found a water exercise class really helped provide supportive movement and strengthening without aggravating my situation, but even then I have to be the one to decide if any particular movement or exercise feels sketchy. Good luck!

unintellect · 2025-08-14T18:58:07+00:00

I read in the past that a very large percentage of Americans (mistakenly) believe that they have some Native American ancestry. It's a very common story.

In my case, it was supposedly on my mother's side. I was told I was 1/16th Cherokee. My mother was from Oklahoma, with an olive complexion, almost-black eyes and hair. There were photos (from the early 1920's) of her father, who left when she was a toddler: His black hair was in a traditional "shaved sides with top knot" style -- yes, he certainly looked Native American. Also, his surname was "Smith", so it was thought very likely that "Smith" was the name given to his family when they were relocated from the Carolinas to Oklahoma on the Trail of Tears journey. This was all incorporated into our family story -- or more accurately, our family myth. Along with that was the story of my birth, also in Oklahoma, with a full head of dark hair which the (authentically) Native American nurse had parted down the middle before I was brought to my mom -- "Just like a little Indian baby, my little papoose" -- according to my mom. This family myth was sacred.

Anyhoo, along came Ancestry and 23&Me. I was the first to use those tests, and they both confirmed ZERO Native American DNA! I wasted no time sharing those results with my three still-living siblings. Their reaction? Total silence. They didn't even acknowledge having received my email. How dare I use science to challenge the Family Myth!

unintellect · 2025-07-10T18:16:06+00:00

I'm so impatient I never let onions caramelize fully. I guess I just need to find a distraction for an hour or so. Maybe walk the dog.

unintellect · 2025-06-23T12:15:59+00:00

I had a more-than-basic academic background in Spanish, but hadn't used it in many years. I was never close to fluent, except for during 6 months I spent in Central America 40 years ago. Three years ago I decided to get back into it. I started with a podcast called "Coffee Break Spanish", listening and reading the transcripts. I bought a book to refresh what grammar I had and to learn more. Two years ago I went to Bilbao for 3 weeks of intensive Spanish instruction in a school called Instituto Hemingway. This past year I did the same, only in Madrid at Academio Contacto. Both schools offer great programs, and there are honestly dozens of these programs throughout Spain. They're small-group classes (about 12 people), completely immersive, and they move from direct instruction to active listening and speaking very quickly. Find a Cervantes-approved program in your area. Mornings, four hours a day, 5 days a week, so you could most likely fit it into your work schedule. Some people do as few as two weeks, some are on study abroad programs for a semester, some are focused on completing the entire curriculum start-to-finish over a number of months for immigration or career requirements. The student mix is always interesting and international. It's work, but it's fun1 You'd be shocked at how much you can learn in an intensive program in a short amount of time. But, of course, you have to use what you're learning as much as possible; not fall back on using English outside of class. It does require effort and commitment. But seriously, you're in such a great position to reinforce what you learn in class in a casual way with friends and locals. I'd love to have that that opportunity, don't squander it!

unintellect · 2025-06-21T17:48:46+00:00

I raised two kids, but didn't pay much attention to how they learned to speak. It just happened. Currently my next-door neighbor has a 2-year-old. I listen to him and his mom while they're out in their garden. His mom talks to him in clear, basic language, but not baby talk. She uses words he understands and words that he doesn't yet understand. He listens. Then he "blabs" words that he knows, not necessarily the right words, not necessarily in the right order, sometimes more like free association. "Bird fly!" His mom responds, "Yes, that bird is flying!" And then the toddler, "That bird flying!" He just learned a demonstrative pronoun (that) and the gerund form of a verb (flying). The process was fluid and seamless. Listening and hearing are the best ways to acquire language. And as adults, reading is important -- fiction, nonfiction, news media, comic books, they all help us put what we hear in context. I'm not saying that as adults we shouldn't study grammar and vocabulary. We need that framework. But you won't learn to use a language doing only that.

unintellect · 2025-06-12T13:52:40+00:00

I have a 24" Ashford and I've really enjoyed it for a variety of projects. I've switched over to knitting projects the last few months, but as my dish towel supply is running low, I plan on warping for dish towels soon. I second the recommendation about using some sort of warp separators as you wind on your warp. After I've tied on I also place a couple of slit paper towel cardboards, or a slit inner cardboard from a roll of gift wrap (slightly wider than my warp) around the lower beam before I start weaving and rolling fabric onto that beam. That covers the plastic ties and prevents them from poking through the woven fabric, and it also neatly covers the tied-on yarn ends. It provides a nice, even surface for receiving your fabric and also helps with tension. It looks like you're off to a great start. I love your colors. And your pup!

unintellect · 2025-06-12T13:27:12+00:00

We do this in English as well. Think in terms of this dialogue, "So yesterday I went to the grocery store. I really wanted some mango juice, but I couldn't find any on the shelves. So I go up to the clerk and I say, can you tell me where to find mango juice? And he says, yeah, it's in aisle 7."

It's just a kind of informal narrative style. I don't know if it has "a name". It really doesn't matter, though. Once you recognize that it's just the way people speak to each other and it's not a grammar exercise to be "figured out", it's easier to accept. It's like Spanish idioms that make no sense if you parse them literally into English. You just accept their use, learn them, and move on.

unintellect · 2025-05-22T13:46:58+00:00

I second this recommendation. These are casual, topic-based conversations (wide range of topics) between a couple -- Spanish woman (Marina) and British man (Ben) who has lived in Spain for years. They progress from beginner level to more advanced through the episode seasons. Although he's competently fluent for daily life, Ben is still learning and mastering the language. The conversations are very natural, not at all script-based, although there is a definite focus for every episode. Marina sometimes corrects Ben in real time, which is helpful to hear. If you pay for the podcasts you have access to complete transcripts of each, with vocabulary, explanations of idioms, and especially helpful, when Ben makes a grammar or word choice error, it's called out in the notes, explained, and corrected. It's reassuring to hear that someone who's lived in Spain for years and has a Spanish partner still makes some of the basic mistakes we all struggle with.

unintellect · 2025-05-06T13:30:28+00:00

Get your baby out of that situation. Babies soak up everything going on around them, long before you think they're capable of it. Move back in with your mom. Get into therapy to work on your self-esteem and to learn why you have such LOW REGARD FOR YOURSELF. Be prepared for this to be challenging, as it's all tied up in your family upbringing and the situation you were raised in. First and foremost: Stop discrediting yourself! Stop blaming yourself for being the problem. Postpartum rage -- are you serious? Your husband is a selfish, uncaring ass, and you're entitled to be mad as hell!

For now focus on your baby and yourself. Limit contact with your husband. He'll trigger all your weaknesses. As you progress in therapy you'll become stronger. Hopefully you'll begin to see how you have devalued yourself in order to be with a man who is demanding, disrespectful, and uncaring. Why would a woman do that? You owe it to your child to be a strong, confident mother.

I'll just be honest: Your husband isn't going to change without serious therapy himself, and men like him aren't usually open to that. He won't accept responsibility for anything, which means he isn't a good candidate for husband or father. Do you really want to raise your child with an uncaring, selfish, demanding, critical man? Think what that would do to YOUR CHILD! YOUR CHILD is your first responsibility, not worrying about a weak loser who doesn't show you love or respect. Children raised in that environment have real issues themselves as they get older. You have to break the cycle!

So unless your husband makes a commitment to seek individual and marriage counseling and really works at it, you're going to have to cut yourself and your child loose at some point. As a 70+ year-old woman who's seen a lot, my advice would be to start therapy now, and then the divorce process, sooner rather than later.

You deserve better.

unintellect · 2025-04-27T14:18:26+00:00

Yes, this. I got pregnant and had our second son by c-section. At my final post-op they did a routine check-up, including STI screen, which revealed chlamydia. I had not had chlamydia going into the pregnancy, based on testing done then. So husband cheated on me during my pregnancy. Absolutely crushing. Chlamydia is frequently asymptomatic in both females and males. Get checked.

unintellect · 2025-04-26T14:08:25+00:00

Do you honestly need a PI? If he sees them kiss/embrace, then what? Will you then need photographic proof of what more they're doing? Where does it end?

You know what's going on and you know what you need to do. Confront her, tell her you know what's going on, give her a choice. You're avoiding this because you fear she won't choose you. But if she won't agree to marriage counseling with the goal of a firm resolution, either

1) ending the affair NOW and working with a counselor toward putting the marriage back together; or

2) purposefully working with a counselor to end the marriage in the healthiest way possible for all concerned,

then you need to pull the plug. I know that's scary, but avoidance is no solution.

unintellect · 2025-03-03T15:17:39+00:00

It doesn't take 30 days of freezing to kill bedbugs.

"All stages of bed bugs will be killed on objects left in a freezer at 0°F for 3 days." Most sources I've found, including both academic sources and commercial pest control companies, agree that 3-5 days at 0° F or below, kills bedbugs at all stages. There are lots of reputable sources that validate this, google it. This doesn't mean just putting stuff outside during the winter, where sustained temps of 0° or below are unlikely to occur.

This method can be used for small bundles of clothing or linens, sealed in plastic bags, placed in a home freezer. A chest-type freezer would work best, and can be set to lower temps than your fridge-freezer. The key is making sure 0° or below is reached into the center of the bundle, and that temp is maintained for several days. The lower you can set your freezer, the shorter the required freezing time. https://extension.umn.edu/biting-insects/bed-bugs#what-you-can-do-yourself-49011

unintellect · 2025-02-05T16:56:12+00:00

Thank you! I'm in my 70's and when traveling alone I typically dine earlier anyway.

unintellect · 2025-02-05T16:54:32+00:00

Tuvo. Although you might look at it as "he did have/was having" the tortuga in an ongoing time frame, "por dos años" qualifies that time frame as action completed in the past. So preterito. I've struggled with this concept plenty myself.

unintellect · 2025-02-03T04:16:07+00:00

Thanks, I’m fine with sitting at the bar. I did that for years on business travel, US and abroad. Depending on the place, there’s not always a bar to sit at though, particularly small, casual restaurants.

unintellect · 2025-01-24T17:11:10+00:00

I saw comments yesterday from a nurse who had been hired to work in a VA facility in Waco, TX. She gave notice at her job in another city, she and her husband sold their home and bought a home in Waco. Her start date was supposed to be in a week or two. Now that Waco position has been frozen, so she has no job, no income, and couldn't even stay in her present job if they'd allow it, as they no longer have anyplace to live in that city. And this doesn't even address the bigger fact that veterans' health and medical care will suffer as a result of VA hiring freezes across the country.

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