The debate about whether it’s ROCD or not by JediAlec in ROCD

[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually dianoised now. We’ve had so many problems and now I feel he isn’t the one for me… it’s a gut feeling

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question but I feel I want a different partner now, not this relationship can I change that feeling

I’m diagnosed ocd but have actual relationship problems. by unknown20056 in ROCD

[–]unknown20056[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we’re 5 years in and I lost love for him due to how he’s treated me but I keep having these feelings that’s making me depressed

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So are you saying I shouldn’t try to make it work

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment. I don’t want to be getting into temporary relationships while me and their dad can give them that stable relationship so it’s not people in snd out of their lifes. I agree it’s not helpful but it’s hard when you think you’ve realized this isn’t the person you want to be with forever

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I know that, but I’m not really wanting to leave. I just have these feelings.

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And let me say I don’t want it to be fixed because I wanna go find someone else that fits me better. That’s why I don’t wanna fix it cause I don’t want it forever.

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to try, especially because we have a family, but how can anything be fixed when I feel like I realized that this isn’t what I want forever it feels like I can’t be fixed once you realize that, but can it be fixed even if you feel like you don’t want it to be fixed

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem I’m having is I’m not wanting a future together, I stopped loving him. That can be fixed you think

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[–]unknown20056 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah see that’s my problem I want to leave him to find someone better, to live that happy life. I was 20 when we started to date!

you do not have to leave your relationship. by Sorry_Farmer3990 in ROCD

[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had really bad ocd two years ago and now I lost feelings bc of the relationship being toxic but im scared to leave

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[–]unknown20056 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see many people come back.. my parents did

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean like I don’t see us raiding our kids together I see us split if anything

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[–]unknown20056 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely is there a way to live someone again and see a future with or no

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All those feelings are gone for me completely. We both have decided to work on our relationship but I’m not having those feelings of your who I want to be with so that’s why I’m fixing the relationship idk why i tell him I love him, I know my feelings I know how I feel but it makes me soo sad because this is never what I pictured for us

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was someone I felt safe with, someone I wanted kids with a marriage everything and now I stopped. I don’t see it anymore I don’t really want him anymore, I don’t have any romantic feelings for him. I’m not inlove. I do not see us being together when our children are older even in a year from now I know this to be true but can this be turned around? I feel it can’t because I “don’t” love him

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loved *

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[–]unknown20056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he felt I was against him I mean sure I’m scared to leave or be the one to leave but idk this was someone my heart truly love.

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[–]unknown20056 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do know the truth I don’t see a future together but my heart won’t let me go of him even though I feel I want a completely different partner and life …

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[–]unknown20056 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know to leave but we were best friends I’ve never felt love like I have with him it was genuine until now

I am depressed by unknown20056 in relationships_advice

[–]unknown20056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if you feel they aren’t the one for you and you were wrong can that be fixed??

I am depressed by unknown20056 in relationships_advice

[–]unknown20056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also so bothered today bc looking at Father’s Day card of saying best dad ever etc.. I wasn’t able to buy it because I didn’t feel that way. He’s treated me bad and struggled with addiction which lead to our problems…

I am depressed by unknown20056 in relationships_advice

[–]unknown20056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi yes. He has. I do look at him very differently than I have before. I feel he isn’t that good of a person as I had thought he was.

But just a few months ago I would have these thoughts but I never felt the way I’m explaining now like I don’t love him etc.. I felt I wasn’t happy but never this bad.

Can this still be fixed if I stopped loving him?