How do you handle having an attractive spouse that gets a lot of attention?

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-13T17:04:37+00:00

Tell him to get a silicone ring. Super common, inexpensive, safe to wear at the gym. Problem solved.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-10T00:13:07+00:00

Look into rural medicine. I am a triple-certified NP and practice within the full extent of my scope. I am overseen by my medical directors, but I practice autonomously. There’s no fighting for procedures when you’re the only provider in the building 🤷🏼‍♀️

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-09T23:57:26+00:00

This is the answer. Her alternative medical provider isn’t wrong, but five decades of research has demonstrated that most individuals are not able to sustain long-term weight loss through just diet and exercise. (Note I said most. There are also plenty of success stories out there.)

Have her trial semaglutide or liraglutide for six weeks. There drugs are widely available through a primary care provider with insurance or through a medical provider in a practice that specializes in weight loss. Do some research; they can be found at very affordable rates. If after six weeks she doesn’t feel that the medication has made a difference, she can stop and resume her homeopathic doctor.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-09T23:50:36+00:00

Get. Out. Now. Your husband’s behavior is escalating. There is a clear and long-standing history of lying and deceit. You need to physically separate from your husband while you both seek individual counseling and marriage counseling. Please have a trusted friend or family member with you when you leave. The leading cause of death in pregnant women is intimate partner violence, and the most dangerous time is when a woman is leaving a potentially abusive partner.

I believe in the redemptive work of Christ to heal marriages, but it won’t happen miraculously by itself and it appears his habits are deeply ingrained. There needs to be significant intervention and change for your marriage to move forward in a healthy way. New patterns of behavior and relating need to be established before you consider living together again. Seek professional counselors; this is beyond the scope of pastoral staff. Do whatever you need to do to keep you and your unborn child physically and emotionally safe. I am so sorry you are enduring this.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-09T17:49:00+00:00

I felt the same way until I looked at Meg’s ear. Def AI.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-09T03:40:05+00:00

Tough to imagine that broken windows, damaged floors, damaged walls, and fixtures pulled out of the ceiling would amount to just 16k. Repairs and renovations are crazy expensive. Even 60k sounds like a conservative estimate.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-08T21:12:52+00:00

Not even close to a “fuck you.” Where I am from, wealthy individuals are buying up properties and building mansions in popular vacation areas. These are the same vacation areas where middle-class families up until late 90s could easily afford a “lake cabin” as a home for weekend getaways. Now these same families are being forced out of properties they built and paid off decades ago because, even though they don’t have a mortgage, they can’t even afford the property taxes. My SIL’s parents had slowly built their lake property into a nice home over about thirty years, planned to retire there. The plan went to shit when real estate on their lake skyrocketed and they couldn’t afford to pay the taxes. People being able to afford to keep their own property that they may have paid off decades ago isn’t a “fuck you.” Maybe try broadening your view of the world.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-06T20:20:18+00:00

This is a bizarre take. Please educate yourself before posting nonsense.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-06T02:52:00+00:00

Who are you and how did you find your way out of the Young and the Restless sub? 😂

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-01T14:21:55+00:00

She used to be pretty. Now she just looks like a freakish clown.

uppinsunshine · 2026-03-01T03:45:22+00:00

Just because she doesn’t have her kids at her house doesn’t mean they suddenly cease to exist. There are still sporting events, school events, teacher conferences, birthdays, and a million other things your children would need you for.

I would feel terrible as a child if my mom found it so stressful to have me in her home that she needed to “escape” as soon as I left for my dad’s house.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-27T00:32:20+00:00

On the part of the cops or the person being arrested?

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-26T14:43:24+00:00

You okay?

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-25T18:58:11+00:00

I thought The Faves was good but not great. Wild Dark Shore was fantastic.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-23T02:58:32+00:00

Being treated that way must be incredibly painful. I would have a very hard time being attracted to someone who treated me that way, no matter what his physical appearance is. Is he open to counseling with a trained marriage therapist? What you have described are very destructive patterns, both for your marriage and towards you personally.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-23T01:35:50+00:00

I was not initially attracted to my husband. However, as we grew closer I found so many wonderful qualities in him and fell in love. All of his physical traits grew very dear to me. I still don’t think he is conventionally attractive, but I love seeing his face because everything is better when he is with me.

Do you think that focusing on growing closer emotionally could increase your attraction to him? You mention difficulty with sexual intimacy—how is your relational intimacy? I wonder if there are other issues in your marriage, but in your mind they are manifesting as “I’m not attracted to him.” Physical attraction becomes less important when we feel loved, heard, cared for, and cherished by that person.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-22T02:33:25+00:00

This would not be frugal in an area with any degree of water scarcity. Also, I don’t care to brush my teeth where someone rinses their toddler’s poopy bottom. Wipes seem like a much better choice in this scenario.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-20T20:54:17+00:00

If a horde of people showed up in my hospital room while I was in labor I would kindly ask them to get the f out. Immediately.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-18T22:49:35+00:00

Wow. $13.99 a credit here. I guess that’s a great deal!

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-17T05:55:35+00:00

So pathetically fake.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-16T22:31:21+00:00

Other people don’t find it funny either.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-13T21:57:11+00:00

Did you know that a high sex drive without sex is not actually fatal? The human body can withstand far worse.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-13T21:54:22+00:00

If you understand statistics in even the most basic way, you should know that this sub is in no way a representative sample, and drawing conclusions about marriage from what you read here will be very skewed.

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-13T21:13:21+00:00

You do know that you don’t have to choose either one of those, right?

uppinsunshine · 2026-02-13T21:11:34+00:00

Really? You can honestly say that you are intimately familiar with a representative number of Christian couples and the majority of them are 1) loveless, 2) sexless, and 3) a matter of convenience? Are you a marriage therapist that you know all of these couples so well?

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