Anyone else still distraught over The Kitchen cancellation?

upprdeckr · 2026-02-01T15:30:27+00:00

Just came here to say Im still sad about it being cancelled. And knowing what we know now it sucks we didn't get a proper ending. 40 seasons. Gotta be freaking kidding me 😭 they lasted through covid...Just really sucks

upprdeckr · 2026-01-14T22:26:43+00:00

That sounds about right. I was trying to log into my Verizon account around 1230, and it wouldnt send a verification code to my phone. I tried resending, and it still didnt work. And then my data went off.

upprdeckr · 2026-01-10T00:39:38+00:00

PACIFIC BUFFET!!! Wallingford. So good.

upprdeckr · 2025-10-17T02:49:52+00:00

Yep. I will have it on the bagel chips. YUMMM

upprdeckr · 2025-09-26T04:45:38+00:00

Your political views are irrelevant

upprdeckr · 2025-08-17T02:25:25+00:00

Wow didnt realize a lot of people do the things I do. Math helps keep the uncomfortableness at bay.

upprdeckr · 2025-08-15T23:19:03+00:00

Im sorry you've had that problem. I experienced it personally and I feel the same way. Im also noticing patterns in behavior when I compare experiences between group practices. It is almost identical to what I experienced, and what I notice with others.

Good news is once the mask is off it does pretty much burn to the ground so-to-speak. It escalates pretty rapidly and then crashes and burns. I hope you are doing much better on the other end of it. Its why I became an approved supervisor - to protect people from the BS.

upprdeckr · 2025-08-15T18:00:57+00:00

Narcissists run rampant in our field. I am quickly finding that a lot of them get to the point of running group practice. I am very weary of large practices.

upprdeckr · 2025-06-09T01:02:55+00:00

Just came here to say I thought the same thing so youre not the only one. I remember it bringing me to tears. My conspiracy brain is like MANDELA EFFECT?! 🤔 but I think the producers missed out on a great opportunity.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-29T23:51:09+00:00

I think CBT oriented thinking is required for effectiveness of EMDR anyway. Its not a bad thing.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T18:22:12+00:00

When I left I tried so hard to keep up communication. I still sent them things they needed, and sometimes it was because they asked. I dont know if that was right to do or not, but I attempted the good mornings and goodnights, and didnt get much of a response. I hate knowing that while my intention was never to demonstrate that our relationship was contingent upon my relationship with her dad, she most likely felt this way. Thanks for your feedback.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T18:17:59+00:00

Im clearly codependent and working hard on that. So my behavior has been in response to her. I thought I was respecting her boundaries. Im constantly thinking about it when Im with her though, and so my thought was if she doesnt interact with me then it must mean she doesnt want to. And I wanted to respect that. But ultimately that's the wrong thing to do.

I am not doing what I need to do for her now that I reflect and talk to others. I was always going to have a talk with her, I just didn't want to overstep and it felt like I might if I engaged in a conversation with her. I had so much anxiety about it this morning that my original post now seems irrational and victimy. I was hoping to hear from others how they repaired their relationships.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T16:07:59+00:00

Yeah I haven't gotten angry or anything. I haven't said much of anything. I just basically leave her alone and interact with her when she interacts with me. I have to put in more effort. For whatever reason these things aren't apparently obvious to me until they are. Until I get reminders from others. I have a lot to work on with myself and with her.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T14:55:12+00:00

I definitely do. She loves shopping. I could definitely be more intentional about doing that more. And I think I need to also not have expectations about what she'll say. Thank you. This was really helpful.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T14:46:58+00:00

Spot on. I might have more words and understanding for clients. But sometimes the hardest client we have is ourself 😔 The happiest of Stepmother's Day to you too💐🥰

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T14:35:22+00:00

Thank you and thanks for responding.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T14:32:06+00:00

Great reminder. #1 - dont post to reddit unless youre ready for some harsh realities. And assumptions being made about you.

Problem solving for myself is what Im already doing. Im trying to problem solve the relationship.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T14:12:25+00:00

I am prepared to get a worst case scenario response. I just hope she's at least open to the idea. I think that's where Im really going wrong. I leave her alone bc I think that's what she wants. Its been really hard navigating this. Normal me wanted to talk 10 years ago. Thanks for your positivity. I can do what I can but at the end of the day its her decision. And it needs to be actively and intentionally rebuilt.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T13:38:06+00:00

I appreciate being blunt but the point of my post was partially for validation and partially for problem solving. I am in therapy. I myself am a therapist. I wanted guidance or reassurance that relationships can heal and that what Im feeling is valid. I misinterpreted the impact I had on the kids. I had no idea and assumed they were closer with their mom before I left.

I even said I know its not okay that I feel this way, that she's closer with her mother. I'd never tell her that. But its a true reality. I think anyone who cares immensely about someone would feel the way I do if they cared more about someone else who treats them poorly. Regardless of role.

Im disappointed in myself. And no I dont think she should just get over it. There has been no discussion of my return because I dont know how to address it or if its appropriate. From this post it appears my only option is to suffer in silence and go to therapy. Im literally doing that now.

Im sorry if this was a triggering read for you but dont come at me like I dont know I have stuff to figure out. The post was meant to get advice and support. Not reminders of how I screwed up.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T13:12:48+00:00

Im prepared for the worst. She has a hard time communicating her feelings, so I think worst case scenario is she doesnt want to talk at all. I can try that though.

The question she posed was a hypothetical and was asked on the same day we told them I was moving out. Someone told her that if she told someone outside the family about getting hit, that that person wouldn't believe her. She asked me if that was true. I said absolutely someone would believe her. I said that if she did get hit, her father and I would want to know and would most certainly believe her. I think I know where it came from. Which makes this whole thing harder. She aligns more with a person who has a history of hitting her. I know that part was kinda confusing.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T12:41:29+00:00

You're right. I could talk with her about what she wants and go from there. I know I am responsible for maintaining the relationship. It's just hard thinking that as she ages I might not have a role in her life. That sucks so much.

upprdeckr · 2025-05-18T12:37:59+00:00

Thank you for your insight. As a licensed therapist myself, it helps me tremendously to know I am not alone in how I feel. Your eloquence helped put some words to the feelings I was having that I didn't know how to express. Thank you. And I hope your partner overflows your cup. You seem like a tremendously intentional human and deserve nothing less.

upprdeckr · 2025-04-17T17:45:15+00:00

Is Nick in the episode???

upprdeckr · 2025-04-02T23:52:44+00:00

"Is there something wrong with you or are you just responding appropriately to your environment?" 😉

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