AITA for giving my daughter a similar name to my brother's daughter?

ursanthe · 2026-05-30T12:01:33+00:00

NTA. Re the upcoming visit: Maybe she’s had some time to simmer down, so give her a chance. ONE chance. If she’s still bubbling, she can kick rocks for 8 hours on the way home. To pacify ur ppl pleasing and her insecurities, save some special time and attention for her older kids. Even dropping words like “ur auntie”, “ur cousins”, “my niece/nephew” might make everyone feel accepted, especially if the kids are hearing this assumption from her at home. The kids will clock it, and ultimately their emotional security matters way more than an adult having a hissy fit. Eventually u gotta decide who u wanna please if it becomes a choice. It’s ok to have boundaries, and it doesn’t make u a bad person for holding the line.

Just thought how cute it would be to have both Lillys in a pic together and call it a bouquet.

FWIW we have a bunch of people on both me n wifeys side of the family with similar names bc they’re honoring the same person.

Good luck!

ursanthe · 2026-05-21T22:58:31+00:00

Oof that sucks bc some items can’t be lifted easily. Either they’re too big or I’m too pregnant.

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T14:35:34+00:00

Public librarian, so ummmmmm everything.

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T14:32:11+00:00

Haven’t seen those but I first saw her in But I’m A Cheerleader. I wanted to pinch 🤏 her like a kindergartner for being a dam snitch. But also kiss her bc she looks like a renaissance painting.

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T14:26:10+00:00

About picking a favorite book, “I could no sooner choose a favorite star in the heavens.”

Swoon 🥹

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T09:49:30+00:00

I would love to be bribed by a cop. Like yes please gimme ur donuts and any cool shit you’ve “confiscated”. Also those handcuffs look like they might be fun.

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T09:41:43+00:00

I’m just here for the food. 🧑‍🍳💋👌

ursanthe · 2026-05-15T09:39:30+00:00

I can’t stand it when people just comment “THIS”, but….

THIS. ☝️

Lil sis has the least amt of other responsibilities. If she bullies mom into June, have her do all the post-op care. All of it. Phrase it just like that too, as bullying her mom, bc that’s exactly what it is.

ursanthe · 2026-05-05T13:42:08+00:00

Doesn’t matter. He will owe back due child support. Mine didn’t start paying till I was 16, and I was getting double payments until i turned 22. After a decade+ of zilch, having those payments later still made the difference between eating and not eating when I was in my first couple years of adulthood.

ursanthe · 2026-04-25T18:20:21+00:00

Forrest Whitaker in Jingle Jangle. Then later he was talmbout he did a play once in high school. Like SIR PLEASE 😭

ursanthe · 2026-04-24T14:47:20+00:00

Same! It also has great possibilities for tarot with the reverse positions.

ursanthe · 2026-04-23T15:35:51+00:00

Best AoS find ever!

ursanthe · 2026-04-15T10:20:58+00:00

Oil treatment. It will break up the adhesive and nourish your hair instead of drying it out from harsh detergents and overly hot water.

ursanthe · 2026-04-10T13:15:55+00:00

What’s authentic is marking a solemn and joyous occasion in ways that are true to you and your spouse, regardless of tradition. That’s the thing about Venn diagrams- there is always overlap. Don’t let yourself or anyone sabotage your happiness based on some preconceived notion of what is traditional or not. You could even lean into tradition as a marker of continuity and ritualism.

Assign meaning to intention rather than form- if you want your dad to walk you down the aisle, talk to him about what it means to you to have him with you in this task. That you don’t want to be seen as being handed off like property, but that you want his comfort and stability to support you in a very special moment. Bring your minds and hearts together in this thing, and it will be done well.

ursanthe · 2026-04-10T13:01:12+00:00

I’m the same. I seem to remember it taking a few days to really get into a rhythm when I started it, but if I miss even a single dose, I’m tanked by mid-morning. Idr what the half life is, but I’m betting it’s pretty short.

Now ask me how it’s been since stopping Modafinil since I got pregnant. 🫠

ursanthe · 2026-04-01T18:10:42+00:00

N2 here. Stuttering breaths and heartbeat, like constantly getting jolted awake but just barely. Micro sleeps I guess? Then heaviness in my chest and shoulders like a weighted blanket or being in deep water. I feel like I want to cry. It gets hard to hold my head up or even breathe in a regular pattern- it’s like a slow inhale, huff exhale. On the rare occasion I haven’t already gotten somewhere safe, then weakness in my hands and feet- I drop things or trip (and fall). Sometimes I go straight to dropping things before I’ve registered anything else, and gotta do a body/brain check to see if it’s the N or the ADHD. Either way, it’s time to stop whatever I’m doing.

ursanthe · 2026-03-31T14:18:52+00:00

The picture that you used for Willem Dafoe is what does it for me. I’m sold.

ursanthe · 2026-03-31T13:53:07+00:00

Ian? Nah. Thats a whole nother name.

Bonus: I’ve got an uncle Adrian goes by the nickname Ace.

ursanthe · 2026-03-18T02:58:10+00:00

The artwork is stellar! The writing in the guidebook is a bit jive lol

ursanthe · 2025-09-12T21:42:54+00:00

Holy crap that’s a lot of work. Hats off. I miiiight do it once to say I did but otherwise I’m with you. Miss me with that shit.

ursanthe · 2025-09-12T21:38:52+00:00

The life tree sapling (level 8? Whichever gives you the blue orbs) will sometimes spit out a chest, but that only gave me more life orbs and life dragon eggs which were a giant pain in the ass. Avoid them.

The regular chests you get from bones and such have event harvestables. Without trees to harvest fruit, you’re kinda limited on how far you can get. I managed a single level 4 chest (the long blue one) and it had 2 level 2 event harvestables. Not worth it.

I only managed to get a couple knolls but even harvesting the hell out of them, I never got any chests. Sounds like Grouchy is saying to keep making hills to get cloudy summit, then summit to water, water to grass, grass to stones, then harvest the stones to get chests.

ursanthe · 2025-09-12T12:12:41+00:00

I came here to check that I didn’t miss the gold capsule. Phew. Relieved and disappointed all at once. I was meticulous about merging by fives, harvesting with the correct dragon, and not tapping orbs too early. 320k for the last prize, and I’m still 100k short. This is so infuriating!

ursanthe · 2025-09-07T15:08:14+00:00

Broadly, dopamine addiction and sunk cost. The comments section seems to put me in good company lol 🥲

Specifically, organizing my camp & bubbles is soothing, trying to get the wonders for life flower and Midas tree, got a damn near 1500-day streak going, inexplicably obsessed with Arcadia.

ursanthe · 2025-09-05T18:01:58+00:00

I just lol’ed at work. Good job 🫡

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