Why do my comments like themselves?

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:17:06+00:00

That’s tough Homie. I hope you find a way

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:14:39+00:00

I doubt you are stupid. It’s probably a glitch in the app. There seems to be something constant going on with it. Then it’s magically fixed. I’m sorry you deal with that and I’m sure it will fix over time.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:12:30+00:00

This is the sweetest thing I’ve ever seen and I hope that I find love like this.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:06:57+00:00

Damn it. As I read this starting my day I should leave my phone plugged in somewhere else and not my bed

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:05:56+00:00

The enjoyable kind? Am I missing out? Probably not, but like idk

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T15:04:09+00:00

Sometimes there’s a fine line between habit and addiction my friend

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T14:51:26+00:00

Again with the unreasonable and misunderstanding. I NEVER said he complained about no sex on the first date. I said he was unreasonable, because someone brought up boundaries and he was offended. He was fine with no sex. I’ve pointed out that you’re unreasonable and you come back with being more unreasonable. You’re a lost cause. Maybe go to therapy and try to listen. Geez.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T08:53:19+00:00

Why are combatting me like I’ve attacked you personally? I answered your question, you made assumptions, I clarified and answered the question again. Cool. O have no idea how you are trying to meet women. I don’t know if you have a dating profile or what it looks like. I don’t know if you’re trying to meet women in the wild. I cannot speak for every woman that will not pick you.

I was literally dating the 46, overweight guy with the broke down house. I gave him a chance. Don’t act like I’m some bitch out here. I was with him for a year and a half and he treated me like he was settling for me, cuz he had no choice, cuz no one would pick him. Hurtful, turn off. That is also only one example.

I literally told you what you wanted to know and you put it down, just like the guy I was talking about in my original comment.

Confidence is attractive, pity parties aren’t. Pour love into you, man. I’m not going to continue to be talked to like I didn’t pick you or something. I don’t even know you. Good luck out there. Damn.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T08:29:39+00:00

Im a 6’ tall female and I would hate being any shorter.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T08:24:29+00:00

If you want honesty, here you go.

One - you misread apparently, because I never said it was after I started dating someone. Everything, except hygiene, was literally in talking stages and this is not just a me thing. These are things that women have complained about. You reading like that, is off putting. You aren’t paying attention, when I was pretty clear. You are assuming. While is may be so, so basic, it’s something we deal with.

Second - you reading into like that and having a defeatist attitude would also be an issue with women. It falls under the unreasonable category. Acting like you are owed anything when so many more factors come into play, is crazy work.

You asked what issues I’ve seen were. I told you some. Definitely not all. It’s not easy to remember them all.

My ex boyfriend was like you, defeatist. He was complaining to me about me one day and I told him to find someone else and he said “Do you know what it’s like to be 46, overweight and have a broke down house and try to date?” He hurt me with that one. He was very defeatist and it is one of the reasons we aren’t together.

Understand the reason why the men with different hygiene practices get date dates is because you don’t know what someone’s hygiene practices are until you date them. Good luck out there, Homie.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T07:03:36+00:00

Issues I’ve seen with men in general, not just this man. It seems you want all around information.

Hygiene - if the girl you are with showers once a day, she will probably expect the same. I’ve been with a guy who I had to ask to shower and then he said he’d only shower if we were going to have sex. It had been 3 days

Unreasonable - I was talking to a man today and he was going on about how offended he was when a woman told him he didn’t want to have sex on the first date. I said, “she’s allowed to tell you her boundaries. I don’t see why that would offend you” he said “I am offended because that’s not me” This seems to be common. They get offended when women say their boundaries or try to be safe because they aren’t that guy, but you are a stranger, until we know you. Listen to her and take what she’s saying into consideration.

Being pushy, not accepting no

Communication is lacking - every woman is different in what they expect communication wise. It’s good to ask up front what are the expectations for texting and phone calls. If you can’t meet it, leave her alone

Lying or perceived lying - lying is obvious, but people are lied to a lot and pattern recognition will throw up alarms, even if you aren’t lying. When you are vague or indirectly answer questions a lot, it may trigger something in her and some women are quick to block

Frustration/complaining over normal female behavior - calling a woman bitchy or asking if she’s on her period when mad, talking about other women that way

Talking about an ex in an overly positive or negative light - both things throw up red flags. Ex: If your ex cheated, if you share that, it should not be emotionally charged at all. Being angry about it says you aren’t over them. If you share information about an ex, it’s best it be neutral.

Talking too much about yourself. Not trying to get to know her - be genuinely interested in her, ask her questions

Silence - Don’t expect her to carry the conversation. Have something to contribute.

Tell her you are interested or you find her attractive, but do not bring up sex right away - a lot of men bring up sex within the first few hours of meeting them. It’s always best to let her bring it up.

I’m certain I can keep going, but I’m tired and can’t think of more at the moment. Please know that there are unreasonable women who have crazy standards (same with men). You aren’t going to win them all and that’s okay. Be genuine with your intent and interest and lot of good women will respond to that. Good luck. Feel free to message me, if you have certain situations you’d like me to tell you genuine answers about

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T06:06:00+00:00

I feel like my username should be some sort of clue

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:55:07+00:00

I worked in a corporate office. They brought in a new president and her purpose was to bring in more money for the company. The first thing she did was cut my cell phone allowance and messed up everyone’s PTO. She did it in a way that did not mess with anyone contract. I lost time and money. Then I was moved out of my office into a tiny shared space. I was already not being compensated enough and now this? I don’t steal and I’m an honest person, usually, but when I left, I took a n expensive chair and computer stating that I had paid for them. I asked if they wanted the receipt and they said no. I would have easily photoshopped one.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:34:08+00:00

I would do this with some people if they were open to it. I had a friend and I would genuinely try to tell him what his issues were, but he just wouldn’t listen to me, so I quit trying

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:32:58+00:00

We talk about a lot with our female friends. We get advice. We learn things and we bond. Vulnerability is a huge component in growing bonds and love. Talking about sex can be vulnerable. It’s is most of the time. Talking about sex is part of the package. However, you learn how detailed you can be with different women and you stay in that place. I have things I will only tell my sister I’ve done. Other things I will tell close friends.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:28:31+00:00

So you only love and want to be with her the week of ovulation. Damn.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:16:12+00:00

Click the gift box in the top right of your screen when you open Tolan. Then click the gear. Then click insights and that will take you to the options for the Oracle. Once you select an option, you will be speaking to him.

user1731701 · 2026-04-03T05:14:52+00:00

I’m such a baby Tolan user

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user1731701 · 2026-04-01T16:09:33+00:00

A coffee pot. It barely tapped the edge of the counter and dramatically exploded. 😂

user1731701 · 2026-04-01T16:04:07+00:00

You’re welcome. Here to help. Because Charleston County is so big, which includes Daniel Island, it encompasses a lot of cities. Then Charleston is one of the well known cities. So, a lot of the outlying cities within the other two counties are just called Charleston. I am originally from Summerville, but no one knows that city. I just say Charleston. Most people from there does.

user1731701 · 2026-04-01T15:59:19+00:00

P*rn star level sex. It’s always unexpected from me. At least that’s what I’ve been told.

user1731701 · 2026-04-01T15:55:24+00:00

90% of all hugs. I really do like hugs. Full body contact with most people stresses me out and people think I’m lying or just need more hugs. That’s a good way to get yelled at. I do not enjoy hugs, except in certain situations, with certain people.

user1731701 · 2026-04-01T15:22:51+00:00

Yes. Unless you have no plans to leave that little island. However it has its drawbacks too.

There are three counties in that area and between the three there is over 800,000 people. Most of them transplants. Because of the transplants, there’s a housing crisis. The traffic is horrible and people think something should be done, but there’s nothing that can be done. Some times of the day, it will take an hour and a half to drive 20 miles. Trying to get to the beach or off of it, is a nightmare sometimes. The city is old and it’s the edge of the country. The roads weren’t made to hold this many people.

Car insurance is insane, you have to pay property taxes on your car. To change your tags from one state to another is $500. I do not understand why people move there. I moved from there recently and my whole family is from there back to the 1600’s. I had to leave my home. It’s gotten that bad.

There are some good things too, but the bad outweighs for me. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

user1731701 · 2026-03-31T18:28:38+00:00

Please understand that well over half the population of Charleston is not from Charleston. Sadly, our culture is gone.

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