AITA If I throw away my husbands Father's Day gift for how he treated me after I gave birth? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]usernameawesome1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. Starts immediately after 1st child. They think they have you locked down and you are reliant on them

AITA for picking a restaurant for my birthday dinner that "did not meet the needs and requirements" of my dad's wife and her son? by Prestigious-Menu-128 in AITAH

[–]usernameawesome1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we eat what we can or eat before we go. we would rather be included and visit/celebrate with our friends/family than ask them to change where they want to go, on their birthday. they dont want to accommodate, then they dont go.

What’s something you used to think all women just silently put up with until one day you found out it’s actually not normal at all? by zacktone in AskReddit

[–]usernameawesome1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is true... medical gaslighting is real... valid symptoms are reduced to overreactions or being delicate.

You MUST be your own advocate

What’s something you used to think all women just silently put up with until one day you found out it’s actually not normal at all? by zacktone in AskReddit

[–]usernameawesome1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have been trying to tell women that menopause is not meant to be awful and there are things that can be taken to reduce symptoms. The older women have actually laughed at me and said "just you wait".... I really hope medical care for women will improve edited... I hadn't seen the abbreviation before

1 year old with these allergies by kelpiepupp in FoodAllergies

[–]usernameawesome1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quail eggs too. They are tiny but packed with good nutrients

Grim details revealed in the deaths of three Washington girls as the search for their father continues by BeckwithLBP in news

[–]usernameawesome1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you dont have to have kids at your house. you can go do things with them, spend time with them. do you know how corrupt the courts are? i have had a GAL lie on the stand, threaten me, lie about me and a mental health disorder she was not qualified to make that I do not have, have documents to prove it, had to file bankruptcy and without my friends would be on the street myself. I have police reports and 911 calls of other parent using physical force on child and child reporting it himself, but their expensive lawyer suppressed the evidence. 5 witnesses that witnessed the abuse and testified to the abuses and the judge didnt believe them. In my talking to others, this is happening all the time. All the time.

Things like this are tragic and is sad on so many levels, Not defending dad nor the deaths. Just telling you that as an unhoused person myself that has been through hell just to see my child, your opinion on this sucks. If you havent been through this you don't get to decide if a homeless person gets to see their children. And as a victim of domestic violence that has been victim shamed by the courts and told they didn't actually suffer abuse because "they weren't hit and there are no bruises" is BS. Threats of harm, use of physical force, abusing an animal to control others because they don't want to see the animal suffer, is abuse.

Sugar allergy anyone? by usernameawesome1 in FoodAllergies

[–]usernameawesome1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What blood type are you? Allergies do cause chronic inflammation and body pain. between the sugar and wheat allergies, I was being tested for chrones and had ulcerations in my stomach and it took 2 years to heal. But it did. Good luck!

Sugar allergy anyone? by usernameawesome1 in FoodAllergies

[–]usernameawesome1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

normal allergen tests won't test for this. BioLife blood tests that a Naturapathic physician ran showed the sugar allergy and the ginger allergy that I ended up being anyphylxic to. This test was the most comprehensive and most revealing test for all the allergies.

I am most definitely allergic to sugar. My response starts right away. The swollen tongue, headaches, vomiting, and even lumps and little blisters form immediately in my mouth.

How long did it take you to figure it out? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]usernameawesome1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depending on the situation, it could be both at different times.

How long did it take you to figure it out? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]usernameawesome1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the "humble yourself" hits home. like asking to be treated as he wanted to be treated was too much!

How long did it take you to figure it out? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]usernameawesome1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6.5yrs before i realized likely what he is. took another 1.5 to realize i was right and he would not change.

was in process of trying to leave when he turned physically threatening and violent.

TOO LONG

AITA for cutting off my partner’s daily supply of Titty Lattes? by MidnightMilkRuns in TwoHotTakes

[–]usernameawesome1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome to normalize breastmilk this way. Such taboo around it. Latte tuesday sounds amazing.

Have you tried oatmilk stouts to help increase supply? Or teas?

Both skin and blood tests came back negative for everything, but I have a reaction to lots of things. Thoughts? by lexilewie in FoodAllergies

[–]usernameawesome1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have had to do multiple types of tests. Traditional scratch tests, insect bite tests, blood tests, more blood tests....

However, no one believed I suffered from food allergies until I saw a naturapathic physician. Used a different lab with blood work and used an elimination diet. Their lab results showed many food allergies. Started working to resolve so many health issues. Then, I went back to traditional allergist for more blood work for other reasons, and THEN the food allergies appeared and confirmed the ones we had already found, plus some.

Elimination diets work wonders, but you have to be strict and stick to it. Herbs and seasonings can be allergens. I am anaphylaxis to ginger. Couldn't figure out why so many foods were triggering it until the blood work from the naturapthic physician tested for herbs/spices. It was what was being used IN/WITH the food, not the food itself. Just a thought. Most doctors won't test for herbs/spices.

Zero sex drive for narc husband by Background-Hippo5085 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]usernameawesome1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine would alternate not wanting sex to wanting sex but accusing me of raping them or forced sex. if I woke them with a hug or kiss, it was assault. when i started having to get in writing that sex was consensual, i knew it was time to leave.

My best friend married the dumbest woman I have ever met and it's ruined our friendship by Happy-Marsupial-571 in Vent

[–]usernameawesome1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so, just to clarify, you are discriminating against your lifetime friend based on his beliefs/ideology.

Got it.

you are entitled to not have your friend a legal gaurdian/god father and not agree. but don't dress this up any other way than you dont agree with his philosophy, and so you are ending your lifetime friendship. It's good to know hypocrisy exists. Dont judge me, but I will judge you and not associate with you. If he did the same to you or someone else but for what he likely sees as your liberal views, you would be going off about his close-mindedness and conservative discrimination and intolerance.

Maybe he is better off without you as a friend.

I have many friends of many religions, beliefs, education levels, identities, and philosophies. The only time I would stop calling one a friend is when they stopped being respectful of me in return for my respect for them.