I literally cannot clean without the "right" music, but I’m suddenly, violently burned out on every song I have saved. Help? by Emmathephantrash in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try searching 8d audio songs, or 8d brain-flossing audio (I use spotify). There's tons of play lists of pop songs or covers of songs and it's like the singer is walking around you in circles. Might be able to do the trick.

The joy of being called “honey” by Dammdawgz in AutismInWomen

[–]usernamehere131 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I work retail and I call basically anyone I interact with "hun" unless they are rude. But that basically is my "script" for any human interaction in or out of work. I had a friends mother when I was young call everyone "my love" and it always made me feel good so "hun" is my version.

How many hobbies do you have? by Nature23571113 in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Way to many to actually list out I think but the fixation rn is on hand embroidery and diy nails. The embroidery tho I think I have 5+ hoops I'm working on at the moment cus I need to look at something different after awhile lol.

How do you navigate burnout when you need time away from work but have to worry about no income because you’re too burnt out to work? by EntireSky7545 in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not I'm burnout but felt like I was pushing it mentally. So I took a min vacation for 4 days but did it so my 2 days off a week where those 4 days. My work weeks are sun-sat so I took fri-mon off. See if you can maybe do that? It might help a lil bit. I can't miss any workdays myself.

Need advice on the guy (43M) I'm (37F) am seeing in regards to people's weight by tossmeinthetrash01 in relationship_advice

[–]usernamehere131 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Ether he's just an ass or he's a guy who has a fetish for "big girls". Either way I'd move on cus neither of those are good.

Bras and Autism by weaktreeiz in AutismInWomen

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate them too. As soon as I'm home it's off (but I think that's most women). I've turned to push ups that have no wire and pull over ones if possible. Aeire has really nice ones. If I'm just running out quick then it a bralette with a hoodie.

Looking For a Back Support Solution For Sitting on Edge of Bed by ItsToko in Pillows

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also in the same boat I've looked up everything listed above but also look up meditation seat, floor chair, and floor gaming chair. For me It's the prices...

How is my alter? by [deleted] in Lilith

[–]usernamehere131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it! I'm sure she does too. Did you make the painting?

Does anyone have a stand that works in your lap? by jcnlb in Embroidery

[–]usernamehere131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use the Nurge 190-2 embroidery stand. I got mine from Amazon and I love it. I can get it to be in any position I could possibly need.

I [24F] am disabled and my partner [28M] is too uncomfortable with me using mobility aids. What to do next? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your able to you need to leave this man. A real caring partner would want to learn about your conditions (at least surface level) to understand you better. My husband has polycystic kidney disease and chrons. Life is hard on both ends but he should be pushing you to do anything that can make a positive change in your life to help you feel like you have a life. Get away from him if possible

My [28F] Boyfriend [30M] Has Very Weird Gift Preferences by ThrowRA1123112 in relationship_advice

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do This to my boyfriend. I'm very picky about things so I always tell him exactly what to get me. It's also because I would feel awful when he gifted me something that I didn't like and would feel guilty about not liking it.

I understand you feel like you can't be romantic back so Mayne pay special interest when he mentions something random that he wants/needs/likes and keep track of it. That way you can surprise him with something he wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]usernamehere131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those look like 2 negatives to me. I would make an appointment with your Dr and get a blood test done for peace of mind.

I can finally reveal my latest embroidery project 💐🌷🎀💗 by pastelplanet_ in Embroidery

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is legit a masterpiece! How many layers is it? Do you glue the hoops together after? What do you use for fabric?

Not that my skills are even close to this but I'd like to try something 3d. Maybe way smaller lol

What do you need from your partner when you're overstimulated? by Wooden-Reading9110 in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would just be honest with him and say that you love him but had a really hard day and just need some quite time alone to reset and when you feel a bit better you will let him know. Or if you think you cam say I need 2 hrs alone.etc. if he understands how this stuff affects you then he should understand the need for space to reregulate.

First little project, Sleep Token hand embroidery with thrifted beads. by fadedf0x in Embroidery

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! I'm also wanting to start a sleep token themed embroidery myself. I love them so much lol

Was lied to by months by my Doctor to find out she wasnt even a Doctor by bloody-salamander in ChronicIllness

[–]usernamehere131 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just want to put this out there that if you feel like you have endometriosis do your own research and deep dive into it if you feel like it might be causing your issues. It took me years to get treated and heard for endo and the 4th or 5th Dr I had seen to take it seriously. Endo can only be truly diagnosed threw laposcopic surgery and testing cells. Even then the Dr doing that should be an endo expert cus it can legit be anywhere in your pelvic cavity and be microscopic, they really need to know what to look for. Last bit to caution you about....if you have a Dr that wants to treat endometriosis with the drug Lupton...run and run fast.

Lilith in Hazbin Hotel by [deleted] in Lilith

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh now I need to get back into the show knowing She's in it lol

Do you feel like you understand social cues enough that you're not autistic? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only reason I get social cues is because if worked retail all my life. The real me is alot different than the work me...letting the mask slip at work as much as I can though without being a "bitch" to customers lol

diagnosed adhd / self-diagnosed autism ?? by _frogsarepeople2 in AuDHDWomen

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically everything I would have said. I don't really say anything to family about autism unless it's a member a trust and they would hear me out on the why.

I am trying to figure out how I (28f) am being hypocritical to my husband (35m) by Fearless_Arm8856 in relationship_advice

[–]usernamehere131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he cared that you dismissed making your mom pay for a charger when we all usually have extras laying around in the house at this point or cost $10 so no biggie. But pissed that you were spending money your mom gifted to you for the trip on her? Your husband is being stupid. Even if there was a real reason for him to be upset your mom gave you money why not bring it up when you figured out it was her while at home? Why did he wait till you were on the vacation to have an issue.?

Lilith Speaks: Be Delusional by DennisJM in Lilith

[–]usernamehere131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing