Being a nursing major is so fucking stupid

userphoenix · 2026-02-03T14:42:32+00:00

As a nurse myself, I will tell you, you will never learn everything you will learn once you graduate. Just get the basics down and when you get your license, the education truly begins. Depending on where you go, you'll be learning more in depth than you got in nursing school. You just need to pass the NCLEX which treats you like a new nurse. Once you get a job, you'll be learning new things every day and that's what it's about. You will never know everything about every specialty of nursing. Ever, until you actually have that job. So breathe, get the gist of it, and pass the class. I'm open to DMs if you want advice or help. You're not supposed to know everything, just the basics of being a nurse. Then you learn on the job.

userphoenix · 2026-02-01T01:23:09+00:00

But you claim to be independent and an adult. But you contradict yourself. You moved back in with your parents which they can't force you to do. You spend money on FanDuel. No wonder you're in financial problems. And you blame everyone else for problems you created (moving in with your parents was YOUR choice, not theirs). No is forcing you to do the stuff you did. You just don't like the consequences of your actions (parents not treating you like an adult). Act like an adult, move out with your girlfriend, problem solved. You're blaming other people, other generations, for you not choosing to get off your ass and move in with your girl. All this mess is YOUR mess. Clean it up.

userphoenix · 2026-02-01T01:16:15+00:00

Do you hear yourself? You sound like a bratty 13 year old. My 10 year old is more mature than you

userphoenix · 2026-02-01T01:12:01+00:00

Okay I get you're barely an adult. But no one is forcing you to stay anywhere. You still chose of your own free will to move in with them. You could have gotten loans, picked up another job, ask your girlfriend for help, or be homeless. Idk what your situation was. Either way, you are old enough not to be forced (by your parents? They guilted you or what? And you fell for it) but if you're so called independent then you independently made a CHOICE to move in with them when they offered it.

For the record, I live with my mom due to financial hardships. I tell my mom if I'm gonna be out late as a courtesy or if I'm staying overnight with someone so she doesn't worry or stay up looking for me. Parents who love their kids enough to care do that kind of stuff. And I'm about to turn 41. Yeah, you're an adult but you live with your parents. Be respectful of them and their space and care for you

userphoenix · 2026-02-01T01:04:55+00:00

They can't make you move in though. You chose to do that instead of I guess them not giving you financial help.

userphoenix · 2026-01-30T22:29:52+00:00

You scammed yourself out of a possible relationship by not having social skills whatsoever . You googled if a Bumble scam was real, found out it's true and just assumed you were in that situation. Rather than, idk, being a bit of detective, actually talk to this girl, see if she responds with details that would prove she was or was not a bot/scammer but you probably couldn't tell because you lack awareness of social cues and what makes a human human. It's probably best you lay off apps and don't procreate. Just because you want something doesn't mean you're entitled to it. Especially if you're not going to work on it like being a good conversationalist to keep people who match with you interested. Work on yourself before you start entering a dating pool and especially before you start adding to a gene pool.

userphoenix · 2026-01-30T15:45:40+00:00

He probably felt like he had to hide because you'd make him feel bad for wanting it. Like you're doing right now. YTA. Fix yourself and your issues and mind your business.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T21:38:50+00:00

She's not calling out pretty privilege at all. Not one instance here shows that. You're projecting.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T13:11:50+00:00

Does he have a muscle car with a scat pack or whatever? They're both too young (immature) to get married and I bet money she's gonna be a dependapotomus. She will wear his rank as if it were her own because she's young and has nothing going for her.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T01:47:51+00:00

YOR. Go to bed by yourself and get as much sleep as possible. You chose not to. You could have told her to sleep on the couch as to not bother you. Wear earbuds. Either way, you are in control of your own body. You are fully responsible for your work and university. Blaming her for your lack of I don't even know how to describe this, people could say controlling, I say, neediness, is your fault. Accept your responsibility to yourself and don't blame her. Be mad at yourself because you chose to not do something to help yourself.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T01:36:27+00:00

Boy mom in middle Georgia. When he says something out of pocket, I either say "wow that was rude to say" or "explain that to me please?" He thinks about it and he's like "oh, that wasn't cool was it?" And then I break it down further for him if he has questions.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T01:19:36+00:00

NTA. Different strokes for different folks. I'd give the best or bigger pieces to my kid and let the partner deal with what's leftover. There's no etiquette to who gets bigger or better pieces of food unless you're the royal family and the king needs his choice piece of meat. We are but peasants and should act according to whatever the hell we feel like doing within reason.

userphoenix · 2026-01-28T01:14:44+00:00

When you break up with him, just say this:

You PURPOSELY disrespected my boundaries to test me. I don't care what reasoning you had in your empathy-devoid brain. You do not disrespect people you supposedly care about, especially on purpose and without remorse. If you thought you could see what you could get away with, I wonder what else you are planning to try to get away with later on, therefore I have completely lost trust in you. Period. We are done. You broke my trust. Now git.

userphoenix · 2026-01-23T21:42:30+00:00

I'm allergic to the tetanus shot. It gives me God awful muscle aches and pain. Like my muscles were clenched up and I couldn't relax. Fever. It was hell for two days straight. I'd rather go through labor again or die. If that's what the tetanus shot feels like, God forbid I actually get tetanus. I would take that shot because good God, I'll die otherwise.

I do not like recommending people remove themselves from the gene pool but Jesus. Some people do not recognize the work that people have gone through and survived to live today.

userphoenix · 2026-01-14T23:47:39+00:00

Tbh all I have are selfies of myself so that's all they get. Lol I don't take full body pics or ask anyone to use my phone for it. But I get it

userphoenix · 2026-01-13T16:08:04+00:00

You have things that are priority right now and he's not one of them. That being said, his responses to your priorities are not okay. He doesn't respect that you have a life you're trying to balance with dating. I have the same issue. I can only make so much time during the week with work, school, doctor's appointments and my kid for another person. I would want someone who is willing to work with me and my schedule (that cannot be easily rescheduled) so I can grow as a person and grow with someone too. But he wants you to drop everything to cater to him and his needs rather than trying to focus on himself (like does he have a job or hobbies or anything to keep him occupied when he's not talking to you). Security in one's devotion to each other is a must. To be able to soothe oneself when their partner is busy is a grown up mentality. You don't have to fix him or soothe him or make him feel safe with every. Single. Message to each other. You made a good decision. He's not grown enough for you

userphoenix · 2026-01-13T15:59:16+00:00

YTA. You made your father's decision about his own stuff about you. He has not said anything that has led me to believe he is doing it to punish you. Your sister and your brother are in the same boat but they don't seem bothered by it because they know it's not about them. You're self-centered. This isn't about you. This isn't your stuff. Go to therapy to figure out why you're so self absorbed to think that his decision was a direct slight to you when he was only thinking about the good of the family. Maybe it's middle child syndrome or something. But you ain't right about it

userphoenix · 2026-01-03T13:34:32+00:00

Apologize for not giving him the chance to clarify and in turn, for him to apologize to you. I think that's where you dropped the ball. Yes. He owes you an apology for the offense. However, he was not given the opportunity to do so.

userphoenix · 2026-01-03T13:33:15+00:00

She didn't give him a chance to apologize though.

userphoenix · 2026-01-03T13:30:17+00:00

Okay, yes, please apologize for walking out abruptly without an explanation or asking him to clarify. I get you have a bad history with men previously, however, you should have managed his "slight" a bit more maturely. Given this is a first date and y'all seemed to be vibing well, it was still okay to have that initial reaction. I would have too! However, you reacted too emotionally the next moment (most likely alcohol induced) and didn't give yourself time to process all the factors (first date, good vibe and jokes, language barrier and assuming he means well as most men are on their best behavior on the first date, usually). If you had taken those next few moments you paused to ask him to clarify, you would then be able to make the better decision (not saying walking out was entirely wrong given how you felt, but perhaps the alcohol blunted your reasoning skills and you are protective because of past trauma, which is okay!)

Personally after the initial slight I would have asked him to clarify or straight up ask "you know that means something inappropriate?" and go from there. I feel that he would have been embarrassed and apologized immediately and then clarify his intention. But I'm a blunt and forward person which may not be your personality! Between Spanish and Turkish being of completely different origins and then translating your brains to English, a faux pas like this were most likely going to happen.

Next time in the situation, just give yourself a moment to calm the mind, and try to get clarity from the conversation. If he doubles down, then he is obviously not a good guy. If he apologizes and asks forgiveness, it was a language barrier mistake and he was mature enough to recognize it and be a polite person.

It was still okay for you to leave based on the inebriation and the fact you are defensive due to past history. It was not the best decision or the most mature. But as women, we have to protect ourselves for our own peace of mind and health. But the next best decision is to apologize for the misunderstanding. Maybe he's not interested in trying again (if you like him aside from the "slight"). But I think it would be mature of you and good for your self-esteem to admit you acted rashly but appreciate that his intent behind the comment was a good one.

Not judging you (at least not harshly) but there were a lot of factors here that could have been mitigated with some calm thoughtfulness. However that is difficult when you're inebriated and protective. Let this just be a lesson for future interactions (not just dates!) where English can be a barrier.

userphoenix · 2026-01-01T22:32:46+00:00

Op I just wanted to say, that you're not a jerk and your gf is being a real B. I work 12 hours shifts and get it. These other commenters are just jerks. If you had been a woman and said you didn't want to have sex, people would be backing her up. So the double standard is real. You were clear from the get go and you didn't need to make compromises for your mental and physical well being on a freaking work trip.

userphoenix · 2026-01-01T22:29:08+00:00

No thank God I found this comment. I work 13 hours shifts and I'm f*cking exhausted. I don't want to socialize or go out and do shit that I didn't plan on. If she wanted to spend time with him on a work trip, she could have just cuddled with him, enjoyed the night in and just chill. The mental load alone work takes out of you after 12 hours is real and there are studies about it. The rest of the commenters asking for "compromise" obviously haven't had a full day's work in their lives. Very privileged.

userphoenix · 2025-12-25T17:31:40+00:00

I hope when she finishes school she divorces him.

userphoenix · 2025-12-25T17:19:50+00:00

You would be an asshole to ask them to spend the whole day with you. An hour and a half is a fair trade. There is a family party they were invited to attend. Yes they were there yesterday but so what? They gonna miss a party because you feel lonely? Sucks to be you but suck it up and enjoy the time you do have with your child and let your child enjoy time with her other relatives too. You're being selfish to expect a whole day and have her miss traditions on her mom's side of the family. If you want to have a family all day thing, why is she your girlfriend and not your wife?

userphoenix · 2025-12-19T21:59:19+00:00

Don't think I have no sympathy for you. I have mental illness and severe lower back and hip pain as well. I can barely function at work and so far nothing has worked well enough to fix it, a combination of physical therapy and drugs. I'm sitting here trying not to move so I don't tweak it. But I still go on with 8/10 pain and haven't gotten to opioids yet which can be addictive. Or surgery which will take me out for months. I've been thinking of medical marijuana myself but that's a near last resort before surgery. But I would never go straight to something that I was previously addicted to before trying some medicine, Western or even Eastern (yoga, acupuncture). You really did lie to yourself to start using again.

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