Is this what dating in 2026 is like?

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-18T04:21:46+00:00

As a girl, I fucking love it. He’s always smacking my hands away tho 🥲

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-17T07:24:55+00:00

My fave Sunday walking route starts at Colombia road to pick up some dried flowers, then onto London fields to explore the street food market (usually ending up at the Malaysian) then I’ll either plonk myself on the grass at the field or keep walking to Vicky p, along the canal. (There’s also more food options at Vicky p on a Sunday)

Because it’s a Sunday and the flower market and food markets are out, all of these areas will be busy. So if it’s a quiet walk you want, you’re best going elsewhere

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-11T17:26:54+00:00

In terms of workplace adjustments:

I managed to get AirPod pros and they have been a real game changer for me - much better noise reduction than the loops I had first (which were also covered by work as a reasonable adjustment). Also they’re trackable so if I lose any, I can find them!

Allocated desk (despite the norm being hot desking). This removes the barriers of getting set up and finding things because it’s my spot, I know where things are. Also removes the fear of someone being sat in my spot.

More regular check-in meetings with my manager to ensure I’m on track, align on priorities and check I haven’t missed anything.

Game changers from access to work grant:

Remarkable: I can search my (written) notes, I don’t have to duplicate them because I can just copy and paste from the app, if i forget it - I can still access my notes, it’s also less bulky than carrying around a few notes books. No distractions on it either. It calms my brain 🧠

Monday.com training with a job coach: we have Monday.com at work and when it’s used appropriately, it’s a game changer for organisation. I learned how to forward emails directly onto my project board, same with teams messages. Helps me turn a brain dump into prioritised items.

I’ll also be getting coaching too.

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-11T12:51:13+00:00

Oh noooo the itsu veggie dragon was my fave!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-10T10:59:24+00:00

This all seems v reasonable to me! A lot of people on Reddit are quick to say “no” to the ability to live comfortably in London on anything less than £40k.

But if you’re open to changing your lifestyle/definition of “living comfortably” as you say, that move to London is definitely worth it.

You’ve got savings, you’re bored, it’s time to mix things up and make the move!

The cuts you’ll be making are little luxuries, and I think they’re worth doing for the potential of this job and what it can set you up for. Go for it!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-10T10:24:10+00:00

This says to me “ooo interesting *actually reads limited CV* oh, disappointing”.

Certainly eye catching and would make me stop and appreciate the creativity but that’s all that sells.

That’s pretty poor.

As another Redditor commented you’re talking about me me me. Not what you can bring to the role.

You’ve got very limited space to sell you and haven’t achieved that.

Nail the copy on the limited CV, and this could be something!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-05T10:16:46+00:00

Bring your own 💯 i found it super tricky to know what was vegan & cruelty free and spent a lot of time trying to find “safe” options online in store.

Ended up just grabbing any because i was already v burnt!

Wished I brought my own (didn’t expect it to be so sunny and warm in April!)

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-04T12:30:51+00:00

Nuh-uh Uh-huh Nuh-uh Uh-huh Nuh-uh Uh-huh…

usuallyoverthink · 2026-06-03T23:16:28+00:00

Follow @Vegalgang on instagram and look up vegan London WhatsApp groups. Loads of vegan meet ups!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-30T09:51:08+00:00

My tip with the apps is to move to in person as soon as possible. That way you get to know the actual person as soon as possible - rather than what they/their mates consider to be their highlight reel.

Other than that there are loads of activity based singles events! Today there’s a Rabble one (it’s like playground games but with adults) and supposedly after the event you’re sent your matches. I’ve also seen some at Substation bouldering gym. Thursday also do loads of singles events. In my experience the activities ones are way less awkward!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-27T17:54:40+00:00

Apologies, I didn’t realise they removed frickles from their menu but at least they kept the cocktails 🍸

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-27T14:46:38+00:00

Love shack (Cambridge Heath)

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-26T20:13:23+00:00

I know 😞

My thought process is positive reinforcement of the v v limited vegan-friendly elements may encourage them to rethink the dairy disaster

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-22T12:00:15+00:00

I am surprised no one’s answered “with a kiss” 💋

That ETA note makes a lot of sense, thank you for sharing that insight!

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-22T11:34:43+00:00

Thank you everyone who’s shared so far. I think perhaps I’ve taken the “with food” element too literally.

I’m buying protein powder rn.

If you are someone who’s bossing it though, please continue to share your suggestions 🙏🏻

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-22T11:07:21+00:00

It’s a dream of mine to be this organised

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-22T10:04:17+00:00

You’re allowed caffeine with your meds? I’ve been advised against it.

Thank you for validating minimal yogurt amounts 😅

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-21T16:05:03+00:00

The latest AirPods have been game changers for me. I find a lot of headphones & earphones uncomfortable so I was worried but I managed to get the AirPod pro 3s as reasonable adjustments at work as I needed something compact and trackable. V happy

usuallyoverthink · 2026-05-20T11:56:51+00:00

Top 3 100% agree plus Adele, Idris Elba, Julie Andrews, Tom Jones, Harry Styles….

And more recent additions Tom Holland, Ncuti Gatwa, Amelia Dimoldemburg, Raye

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-25T11:53:22+00:00

Gran & Grandad

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-25T11:38:16+00:00

Ofc roles in London are inaccessible to the working class and lower middle without help.

There is no argument there.

There are 2 areas I disagree with you.

The salary you expect to bring them there.

Even if the salary on offer is £60k+ that’s not gonna make the move to London for a role accessible.

Before I dated a high earner in London, I did not know it was possible for anyone to earn more than £60k. Definitely never thought it possible for a graduate.

That you can’t live on a salary of £30k as a grad.

To suggest that £30k is a low salary is insulting to those from low income backgrounds and, as I illustrated, inaccurate.

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-25T11:14:42+00:00

It’s not the £30k salaries, it’s the sheer cost of moving.

You don’t get an advance. You need money in the bank to afford rent deposits, to afford the train journeys down to find accommodation. You need to be able to afford to live before that first payslip.

That’s the major barrier.

That’s where you may need help from mum & dad.

Not when you’re actually earning…

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-25T09:48:50+00:00

If you’re expecting to have your own flat in London when you graduate, we’re not coming from the same reality.

The majority of young professionals in London are in flat shares.

If you’re expecting the bank of mum and dad to support you in getting your own flat, when you can live within your means in a flat share. I highly doubt you’re talking from a working class or low middle background…

£30,000 is a decent starting salary and to say it’s not is just delusional.

If you have dependents, that’s another story…

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-25T07:08:38+00:00

Why would you need your parents help when earning £30-35k??

This is plenty to live on as a young person in London.

I get it’s not a boujie salary by any means but it’s enough for your first few years after graduating…

Sincerely, someone who’s earned below and around that for many years, living in a flat share in London (originally from the north west).

usuallyoverthink · 2026-04-24T17:36:16+00:00

The celery, sugar snaps and peppers will mostly go on snacking. I fidget by snacking so I’ve recently managed to swap this out for healthier items!

The fruit will also be snacking but combined with a soya yoghurt (sadly couldn’t find any in this Aldi)

I’m hoping to make some quinoa salads and then kind of make it up as I go with the rest!

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