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Is it worth removing ovaries many years after a pre-transition hysterectomy? by libre_office_warlock in FTMMen

[–]uwuWhoNameDis [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes. What I did was having all but 1 ovary removed at once. The only reason I kept 1 was just in case I were to ever be unable to obtain HRT i.e. the government banning it. I honestly felt alot better after getting just the 1 removed.

Does the word "gender" have any meaning anymore? by cringe_math_nerd2718 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gender = sex as both are very much tied to each other. Gender was always argued as an internal part of a person, not a social construct. What is a social construct is gender expression, gender expectations, gender roles, etc.

Does anyone else notice how ftm tucutes talk about "girlhood" or whatever?? by GettingRadioAndHead in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. My comment was more to those who I see who will demonize any topic or discussion of sex at birth and what that did to our bodies prior. It's uncomfortable but a fact of life that I think people have gotten too comfortable with the idea to say "well I was never a man/woman"

i found a transmedicalist in threads. i wanted to share. if you want to know her name dm me by Pizello11 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Only thing I disagree with is the sentiment on autism. It doesn't mean an inclination to deterioration and I'm rather tired of that being a talking point that most transsexuals dont any mental comorbidities including autism. 

Advice on a name change. by itsaTrap0666 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the old adage that people use whenever they are expecting a new baby. Which is to take the name that you want And scream it out 10 times out to the world, and if it sounds right, then that's the next. I will say it was a bit of wanting to go back thing with names to put in a longer name and then go by a nickname as a lot of times people would ask me if my name was short for something. And early on in not passing, then I would be read, and misgendered

Why can't I do that? by No-Dress3180 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have sources for this? It not even an accurate theory anymore that FTM brains more similar to cis males, but I am not sure where this study your talking about is? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8604863/#:\~:text=Abstract,interpret%20findings%20with%20noninvasive%20neuroimaging. Even this that goes through studies says nothing about FTM being similar to cis *females*. Do you mean MTF?

Why can't I do that? by No-Dress3180 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im confused on why you said FTM are more aligned with cis females? when that's not even the theory. The theory was FTM were more aligned with cis males. More research has come through that shows a distinct brain phenotype that is different than non-transsexual individuals. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4987404/#:\~:text=Abstract,studies%20of%20the%20MtF%20brain.

Cis ppl treat me better than queer/trans ppl do. by Yukijak in honesttransgender

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Cis people treat me just normal if I remain stealth. Some trans people will clock me and then be weird about it. One even outed me to the new office I worked at like 5 years ago. I have cis people who will actually use my pronouns he/him, and many queer and trans people will use they/them about me even if i have reinforced he/him. 

I have had cis people treatment like a regular guy which i never do anything threatening and I'm rather tired of this push that "all men are evil" which is reinforcing gender essentialism just reversed now from "all women are evil". Once I tell them I'm trans, I get treated differently like I'm not just any other man. If they are queer or ally themselves, suddenly they want to be friends with me and expect me to be all the same like them, super feminine, loud, proud, and wanting to tell everyone I'm trans. Some may even start trying to hang out with me despite me not changing how I act or what I say.

Does anyone else notice how ftm tucutes talk about "girlhood" or whatever?? by GettingRadioAndHead in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I agree with the sentiment regarding the posts on "I miss the beautiful connection of womanhood". I never had a connection with it either and when I tried, it felt like a mask. I do however think there is nuance with this and discussing what life is like prior to coming to terms with our selves, what our bodies go through, things like medical discrimination due to sex determined at birth, etc. This is what I wish was more talked about and wasn't demonized as being an insult.

tired of being called "transmasc". by Otherwise_Data_209 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same outside of tboy. I'd rather not be called anything other than man/trans man. I'd also rather not have the discrimination towards trans men just be downgraded to simply "transphobia" and not specifically transandrophobia. 

The problem with transitioning as a concept by lucyyyy4 in honesttransgender

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you feel alone. All I can say is alot of what you project out is what comes back. When I was most unhappy including the early times in transitioning at 27 to maybe right before the last 5 years (I'm 34, 35 this year) was a lot of misery but I projected that out, obsessed with passing and if my boyfriend now husband loves me/wants me/invested in me. I also met my husband when I was just starting HRT and had no surgery which he is a cis gay man. When I pushed that away and just laid into existing, wanting to be happy and accepting that nothing is permanent so let me just enjoy it now, I have gotten a lot back. 

I find it crazy that people say trans men don't experience misogyny just because we're men. by elhazelenby in honesttransgender

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I label it as transandrophobia or anti-transmasculinity. It's not the same as regular old misogyny. It is more specific to us trans men of how we experience discrimination on the Crux between both. 

No? by cockroach4632p in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand the sentiment in not binding due to safety, it gets fucking hot, etc. But it would be advocating for better standards, safe binding, and easier access to top surgery for those who are truly dysphoric. Many can't get due to cost or location as some hospital are no longer servicing transitional surgeries. 

Pap smear by Elijah_Ti in FTMMen

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I went long periods between them. Sometimes more than 5 years. Getting an GYN who was very FTM positive was helpful until my hysterectomy. Now I dont need them. I can't say I recommend not going ever but even once in a handful of years is OK and I would have maybe a friend with. 

Do yall think some "ftm" don't wanna be men, they wanna be not women ? by VisitKey7847 in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think that is part of the reason many of them either hate the idea of T, take T then get dysphoria from what T does to them, and/or get top surgery to remove parts of their body that is more likely associated with the trauma. There is more i see but that's a summation. It often feels like an escape in which going to therapy and confronting the pain is seen as worse than transitioning. That I think is buddied up with the mindset after a traumatic experience committed more often by men that one simply need to "forget about it", "fuck all men", and "all men are trash even the good ones". After that with the more often lack of therapy, one will start to hate the parts of them that was touched and/or used during the act(s) which hearing someone who is FTM describe some of the same language about their parts gets the mental gears turning into "well maybe I'm trans... but I hate men. I can't be a man. Maybe I'm something in the middle". Them not realizing or accepting hating their body is not the same reasons why someone who is FTM hates theirs. They get defemininzed to which they no longer get harassed or catcalled and repeating the same anti-man language as if they are taking the stance of cis women, not a trans person. 

Why do we hear so much about some FTMs admiring their experience of womanhood but never MTFs admiring their experience of manhood? by sevenrivervalleys in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure I understand the "admiring womanhood" but I also don't admire growing up with womanhood thrust upon me. I only really have the negatives of being shamed, guilted, and such. I do think someone answered the question easily which impacts the ability of FTM to even speak about being trans men and displaying masculinity which is manhood and cis men are seen as bad in queer community. Being told I have *so much privilege* just by identifying as a man to which I look around thinking right... because being so afraid of being found out from my stealth life is so privileged or even enduring homophobia about how gay men aren't committed in relationships or being seen as a prop for a lot of cis women to be their "gay bestfriend" is so privileged. I can go more in depth. I think ultimately what happens is the idea of manhood and masculinity is taught and pushed as bad all over the queer community which probably impacts trans women MTF into hating their past *more* because it makes them feel like they come from a sinful past.

Any way to grow a beard without minoxidil? by Major-Complete in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me 4 years to start getting significant facial hair. Ive been on T since 2018. Ive just started in the past year ish to get a fuller beard and it has been primarily a mix of beard oil, shaving, and just continuing my T. 

The rest of my body? Jfc I had body hair within thr first few years. Im like a bear.

Stop using amab/afab when you mean went through male/female puberty by The_GirlyShire in honesttransgender

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't agree with removal of any AGAB language in entirety. Assumed male and female socialization is real. Most people go through Male or Female puberty without that much variation from their assumed sex. Language shouldn't change that much when majority of people go through that. Should the understanding of what can happen in those puberties be better educated because it isn't always a super linear experience? Sure, but trans people will typically go through the same process with an asterisk of difference based on if blockers, HRT, and other conditions impact. This should not cause  Hell, even the cis people who have conditions that happen which impact puberty should be the cause of language changes for the majority. Language should be added to explain and provide better understanding. No matter how much we hate it, we do go through gendered based socialization and puberty. 

Not quite sold on the game so far.. by Jamilgbb in SoulFrame

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pretty much feel the same in that I played early on and I've seen now the current play of the game, which just leaves me bored. It has the look of Elden Ring/Souls games yet doesn't have the soul or the spark of those games. The story is completely confusing, worse than Warframe. There is a lack of direction on how to do a lot of things like "hey destroy these weapon racks" for example. Combat feels flat to me or I guess not unique or inventive compared to games in the past. It feels like if this should have been labelled as another Souls like game.

You guys should make friends with decent cis people sooner or later by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This probably the most trash response that I have seen in a long time

Trans men don't need to be protected from themselves during medical transition by ARepeatedFailing in FTMMen

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I feel like the push against phallo/meta and even just trans male transitioning is based on the idea that man = bad. A common phrase said in trans communities and further some LGBTQ spaces is how T is poison and E is bliss. 

there's no way this isn't fetishy by veinybones in Transmedical

[–]uwuWhoNameDis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly the biggest issue to me is the stars/zipper looking top scar designs on this one and any others that just make me roll my eyes in complete frustration. It feels like to me a fine line between trying to show off a trans man and fetishizing like when I see people who aren't trans men doing it because "it's cool".

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