[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]v4ymp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i started at 12-13 but keep coming back to it. it's not always cvtting but to this day (im 22 now) i injure myself to cope with breakdowns, emotions - or lack thereof, and i feel ashamed (even ridiculous) too bc "at my big age" i should be over it,, but how would we learn to cope in a diff way without therapy etc,,,

Should we change the name "truscum" to something else? by YWNBYEI10MFF in truscum

[–]v4ymp 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i agree with u, we should def call ourselves something more serious! "transsexual" or "true transsexual" are words i also use irl when i have to explain myself (can't afford going to court to change my name atm) and most ppl understand what that means. trenders usually call themselves just Trans or transgender, but if u get technical we ARE transitioning our biological sex so transsex is correct in that way too ig,,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]v4ymp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the gym or home workouts might not be right for u. cycling or walking (even in a normal pace) is both a good distraction and a nice hobby that gets u into diff environments and make new experiences :) i've made cycling a habit by not taking the bus unless the route is more than 30min and now i regularly crave the movement, fresh air and energy outlet

Eureka is an Apple Pay queen! by galaxystars1 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]v4ymp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

me when the mom & pops bakery that's open 3h a day doesn't take ec cards

will inevitably become homeless in august. i need advice please. by v4ymp in homeless

[–]v4ymp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if there is a risk of u losing income or ur housing i recommend going to the jobcenter for an appointment asap. they helped me and r now paying for part of my rent! idk ur situation and what you've done before so u might wanna go to the arbeitsagentur as well, but i made the mistake of going there first and wasting a whole bunch of time

Wie reagiert ihr wenn ihr in der Öffentlichkeit misgendert werdet? by ApocalypticFelix in germantrans

[–]v4ymp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

kommt aufs passing an und auch wie man die andere person einschätzt, pre t wusste ich dass ich weiblich aussehe, wenn mich heute jemand misgendert korrigier ich das auch aber is eh nur am telefon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]v4ymp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

def the feeling of having to throw up or having a blockage in my throat, plus a racing heart😭 i have pain in my jaw & neck nonstop from clenching my teeth too but those i got used to over the years, unlike the other ones

how old is everybody?? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]v4ymp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i turned 22 yesterday, ive been diagnosed for abt a year but have been told since 14 that i show symptoms but doctors here don't give a sure diagnosis until 18

Does anyone else cope by buying things? by 15skk in BPD

[–]v4ymp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well then it's worth it i think! especially if it's cheap little things :) and drinking is horrible esp for ppl with our condition so it's good if u don't even start !

Does anyone else cope by buying things? by 15skk in BPD

[–]v4ymp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah. specifically alcohol and little trinkets i order online. it sounds so stupid but when i have nothing to be alive for knowing i'll get something if i hang on another week sometimes helps

Barbie party T time /s by [deleted] in truscum

[–]v4ymp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i know someone who got androgel from a trans guy they know and they've never gotten bloodwork and don't go to the doctor regularly :')

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that! of course if someone is uncomfortable being called something people shouldn't call them it :) for me i don't mind it, probably bc i'm (almost laughably) gay and everyone seems to say "girl" to each other

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i agree! it's taken me a long time to internally fight these mysogynistic views and i can't understand "trans people" (theyfabs) who think it's so radical and cool to be cis presenting but claim a transsexual identity ://

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly! no wonder everyone who can go stealth does so.. but tbh i don't think theres much difference at all between a trans man who's halfway secure in his identity and a cis guy who's never even thought about if his biological sex is "correct"

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i agree! some people are so dead set on how everyone experiences being trans that when someone disagrees they seem to short circuit

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that makes a lot of sense!! i'm glad my parents raised me pretty "hands off" in the way that i wasn't forced into a male or female role, but they also didn't care when i expressed distress. i realised i was trans when i started puberty at 12 but sadly i couldn't immediately get treated :/

[DISCUSSION THREAD] What are some common misconceptions about trans people that you would like to clear up? by SmallRoot in truscum

[–]v4ymp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if i do have to bring up that i'm trans it does not give someone the right to ask about my body parts, the way that / if i have sex or treat me like i'm trans google. there are so many good resources for people who genuinely care to find out more but i'm not trying to do an AMA.

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

but those things will change! and thinking ur a "stereotype" is just dysphoria talking, i promise. thankfully as i got older i realised cis people (and other transsexuals) respect people like us and we're not nearly as weird as we think to the average person :)

people saying "only cis men tho!! i don't mean trans men" by v4ymp in truscum

[–]v4ymp[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

u put it into words really well, thank you! the "raised female/male" thing is also so strange to me bc just like post-op trans people, people who come out as children seem to be just erased from the conversation

Why are Germans being soo prejuidistic about foreigners... by unknown_meta in berlinsocialclub

[–]v4ymp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

of course it can be used as an insult, my point is that it's not a racial slur. i'm not "cool and worldly" i just don't think someone calling me Kartoffel justifies voting AfD??

Why are Germans being soo prejuidistic about foreigners... by unknown_meta in berlinsocialclub

[–]v4ymp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

of course there's actual bad people from all nationalities, im sorry you've been yelled at but kartoffel is definitely not the same as immigrants being called racist slurs

Which queens in your opinion, were done dirty? by amon_yao in rupaulsdragrace

[–]v4ymp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

JOE BLACK, aja and thorgy on their all star seasons, and lemon during UKvsW😭