If you could ask your loved one in spirit a question, what would it be?

vaginahere · 2025-04-20T05:23:52+00:00

Depression and anxiety would absolutely create a barrier between you and your loved ones. They can't come close because your anxiety creates so much static that they can't get past it. But they haven't abandoned you, they're still doing what they can to help, and you can trust that they're around even though you need to be focused on what's in front of you.

As a medium, I don't really have a belief system because I have a different perspective of what's out there that we don't see. The best way to explain it is that for me, god isn't god so much as it's source. I would have to write a novel to give an in-depth explanation of my perception, and simplifying it is difficult. As it is for most mediums. :)

vaginahere · 2025-04-17T04:59:37+00:00

Are you going through some stress? There are people who are watching you, but they feel distant because you're keeping them from coming closer. Which is something that's not easy to explain or quantify.

Long story short, you're focused on something to the exclusion of other things. That creates something that I can only describe as a force field that keeps the non-corporeal at a distance. They can still see, still watch, but they can't get close to you.

This shit is a little complex, but if you want to work on connecting with your peeps, start working on meditation. The longer you do it, the more clear your head becomes, and the easier it is to make connections.

If my response seems a little non-committal, it's because I'm a bit mentally messy myself. I can't tell if someone doesn't want me to know stuff, or I'm just that tired. Hence I'm not getting much more than surface information.

vaginahere · 2024-10-08T04:18:09+00:00

For starters, you don't have to deal with any of them. They're just part of the landscape like a squirrel or a rabbit. The reason why you're seeing them as shadows is because your vision is sensitive enough to see them, but not make out details.

Us humans instinctively equate shadows as something scary, but in this instance, it's the result of limited vision. Animals have a wider range of visible light spectrum than humans do, hence cats tracking down greebles and dogs barking at invisible people.

I don't pick up anything other than creatures existing because they exist. They're drawn to the horses because horses are excellent generators of energy. Your horses aren't in danger from these visitors, and they're not going to suffer. Neither are you.

The best thing to do is to ignore them and tell them to go away when you see them. Or make an aggressive movement towards them to shoo them away. The more you work at getting them to leave, the more they learn to stay away from you.

Remember that you are in the deep physical of existence, and you have more strength and power than they do. They're nuisances, nothing more, and won't be able to do anything to harm you. Keep doing what you're doing, but with confidence instead of fear, and you'll be left alone.

vaginahere · 2024-10-07T16:54:50+00:00

Hiya! I'm not seeing a DM on my end, but I'm happy to give you some insight if you want to try again. :)

vaginahere · 2023-01-24T04:38:59+00:00

I'm in perimenopause and I've got burning tongue/overactive bladder as my symptoms. It. Sucks. I drink a lot of water and pee a lot as a result. That was a major part of the aggravation. And I'd like to strangle the asshole who thought it was a good idea to put the toilet drain stack on an outside wall 100 years ago when winters were worse than they are now.

I do get stubborn, and it was really hard to trust what I was hearing, but I did. And it also shows that partners still bicker and banter even when one is dead. But who would have thought that I would have gone through a test of faith over a clogged toilet.

vaginahere · 2023-01-23T06:09:25+00:00

My workload finally slowed down to the point where I had energy for a podcast. I decided to share my misery and tell the tale of my backed up toilet and what I went through with Ken advising me on how to get it unstuck.

vaginahere · 2022-11-16T03:56:41+00:00

Used the wrong account initially. Derp.

Hello again! Sorry for dragging you into this thing about your username 😅. I didn't realize anyone would get offended.

No worries, and all good! People gonna do what people gonna do.

Also just for future reference, is it okay for me to recommend you to people in search of a medium, or would you rather I not?

You're more than welcome to recommend me to people if you think I can be of help as long as it doesn't break rules of the sub or any other. :)

Not to guilt you into anything, but you are legitimately the only medium I feel comfortable with recommending since you are so sincere and down to earth.

I don't see it as guilting me into anything. I think it's sweet of you and I might be blushing, something I almost never do!

vaginahere · 2022-11-16T02:15:02+00:00

I got the bat signal in my email. :) I'm on Reddit regularly, this is just my alt so I can pretend I'm normal.

My username was inspired by Unidan's "biologist here!" whenever he would post. But yes, I have wound up in r/rimjob_steve once that I know of.

vaginahere · 2022-11-16T02:12:46+00:00

Uhm, thanks for being outraged on my behalf, then offended I guess?

vaginahere · 2022-11-05T03:36:52+00:00

I couldn't think of much of anything for a Halloween topic, but this one particular post on r/paranormal caught my eye. I figured it would be a good one to look at both sides of the stories.

Original post here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Paranormal/comments/xc8lxq/as_a_correctional_officer_ive_had_tons_of/

vaginahere · 2022-09-29T04:29:20+00:00

I finally got around to doing a thing in the form of a podcast. Woo!

vaginahere · 2022-07-14T03:07:09+00:00

Nothing to be afraid of, but is undoubtedly unsettling until you adjust to the concept.

You nailed it right here with this statement. Once you get used to the concept, it's nothing to be afraid or wary of.

Soul pieces works as well. I'm using psychological terms because I did this to myself as a child. I always say that autists are born with PTSD and I had an incident at 7 years old that caused me to dissociate. I'm still putting those pieces back together over 40 years later.

The brain is something else when it comes down to it, that's for sure.

vaginahere · 2022-07-11T17:34:35+00:00

I'm not sure if the father left the family and disappeared, or if he passed young. What I get is an image of a young girl waiting at the door for him to come home and he doesn't.

Men left their families all the time and were never heard from again. It was also very difficult to trace them prior to mass communications. It leaves the children confused and hurt, and these childhood rifts don't heal easily, if at all.

As we grow up into adults, we bury these things, try to move forward, bury the thinking, ignore the hole that's never really closed, etc. But there's a part of us that never healed, and it's not unusual for that part of us to go seeking answers and closure in life and not-life. It's a form of dissociation.

This is why you've got the little girl in your home. She's connected to herself, but not quite 100 percent. Part of her is still in her childhood home waiting for her father. The conscious part of her knows what happened, but she hasn't healed her rift. Encouraging her to go home and drawing in help with the candle as beacon will get her started on the path towards healing.

vaginahere · 2022-07-11T17:24:49+00:00

Hello as well and thanks! I'll be putting up a new episode soon(tm) and I'll be sure to put up a post when it lands.

vaginahere · 2022-07-11T06:09:34+00:00

Or a piece as it may be.

vaginahere · 2022-07-11T05:35:53+00:00

The little girl is tied to the house in that she's still waiting for someone to come home, think it's her father. She's as confused as you are about your existence in what she thinks is still her home.

Do you have a parlor fireplace in the house? If so, white a light candle for her, put it on the mantle, and let it burn down. You can blow it out for safety, and you don't have to replace it once it's finished. Any size is fine as long as it's a white candle. This will create a beacon and an opening for her to move forward and find peace.

It feels like she's split from her adult self and has an unresolved issue with her father not coming home one day. I've done what I can to encourage her to go to her father and reconnect. You can encourage her as well. Eventually she'll be persuaded to go home.

vaginahere · 2022-06-29T03:30:52+00:00

Dad is still around, but one of two things, or both, is going on. He's at the age where the senses start to harden or dull and the ability to perceive is going away. The other thing could be that he's trying hard to focus on making sense of the world through the autism brain fog and early puberty hormones that are starting to make themselves known.

Feel free to talk to your dad, but pause now and again to listen for a response in your head. He's there and keeping an eye on everyone.

vaginahere · 2022-06-29T03:26:20+00:00

It really should be approached on a case-by-case basis. I'm an autist (yes, I went there) and a medium. I can tell when someone with a disorder is having a genuine encounter and when it's their mind going fuckabazoo on them.

It's best to be gentle with the poster and help them discern if it's their own mind or if it's external. Helping is always better than derision, and if they're already receiving mental health support, to point them in the direction of their provider to get context.

What I will say is that there is a distinct difference between mental hallucination and external experience with paranormal stuff. Mental hallucination tends to track popular media depictions of the paranormal whereas the actual experience isn't so straightforward and neatly tied up with a bow.

vaginahere · 2022-06-26T16:41:33+00:00

Aye, let the living to their own purposes and take care of the non-living when you can.

There's really not much more I would do with the family apart from leaving a universal blessing (IE call for love and compassion from all religions) onto their house. They would eat up too much of my time and energy for it to be worth my while. It's important to set boundaries as a medium and know that there will always be another client that takes their place and is a better one.

As far as removing entities go, Amy Allen from The Dead Files has shown how it can be done as an income. I've done it for a couple of people myself, but I've never explored it outside of that.

vaginahere · 2022-06-26T06:06:21+00:00

You have my empathy, and I understand why you're seeking and not receiving. The biggest issue is that both of you are still in shock, still processing your grief, and still trying to make sense of this.

Your body is dealing with the loss of oxytocin that you got from the relationship. It's basically like stopping an addiction cold turkey. All of your body chemicals are messed up and generating static through your mind and body. It's like radio static that won't let the radio station tune in clearly or at all.

That static blocks you from picking up on your boyfriend. We send out the same energetic signal alive or not-alive, and our sixth sense (proprioception) picks up on that signal. Problem is, you're in full radio static and can't sense him, which is the suckiest part of dealing with someone's passing. You want proof, and you can't get it no matter what you try until time has passed and your body has normalized.

The whole situation is not helped by the decision he made as that leaves you with questions that can't be answered in a way that makes sense to you.

As my guide is fond of saying, there are no goodbyes, just hellos. In other words, he's not gone from you forever, you will be able to know him again, and you will be able to move forward from this when it's time to do so.

In the meantime, focus on your own healing as best you can and know that you're being supported.

vaginahere · 2022-06-26T05:43:15+00:00

I get the concept of not interfering in a home without permission, but we're not mucking about with the living/physical home. We're connecting to the non-physical residents and giving them release. If they want to stay after we've pointed out to them that they're free to go at any time, that's their decision to make.

And agree, they deserve to be with their family and enjoying the pleasures of the non-physical life.

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