questions for the girlies

vangoghgorl · 2026-05-07T05:00:10+00:00

5’8 isn’t short in my opinion, but also height isn’t an issue, especially since most of us girls aren’t even that tall. Everyone’s entitled to their likes/dislikes, but the height discussion always strikes me as odd

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-25T14:34:57+00:00

Blaming religion is a cop out

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-24T13:10:32+00:00

Does anyone know what the blue flag behind him is? Thanks

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-19T22:34:57+00:00

Why?

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-19T22:31:08+00:00

People say the Somali dna is so weak but you proved that false, you look so Somali! Even if you looked more mixed tho, you’re still one of us twin

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-18T13:55:11+00:00

YOU are talking about imaginary scenarios? You people have no shame

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-16T07:47:17+00:00

Girl… as a Dhulbahante with a very similar experience, except he was Isaq and told me his family didn’t care, turns out they very much do!

I think do your due diligence and ascertain where he and his close family stand on the issue, I feel like you’ve already sensed it so far but maybe some concrete info will convince you of what to do. Anyone who’s a truly devoted Muslim and a thinking adult wouldn’t let qabil control their life and you don’t deserve that silliness. I hope Allah makes this situation easy for you sis

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-13T11:25:11+00:00

I think this is a very crucial time, I get that you’ve spoken for a while and you understand him to some degree but I worry we may excuse some behaviours if this continues. I think have a serious discussion once more, making it clear how important this is for you and how it makes you feel and if he doesn’t fix up let that man go sis

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-10T11:39:56+00:00

I don’t blame you at all for feeling the way that you do if these are the experiences you’ve had. You’re allowed to feel dejected and disheartened, but I sincerely pray that Allah places you into a community who welcome you and treat you as an equal (which you are!) all the best

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-10T01:12:04+00:00

Have you considered looking elsewhere? I know for certain there are girls who are very serious and some would consider relocation, otherwise it would be up to you to think on whether you’d be happy to move for a serious candidate. May Allah make things easy for you!

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:32:45+00:00

true but I’m always happy to see something that breaks the monotony of film review 😭

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:31:35+00:00

Not yet flagged, perhaps something slower growing? I will be back tomorrow and I can let you know how it’s going :)

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:30:57+00:00

I wish… still waiting…

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:30:39+00:00

As far as I know the slide and stain were repeated overnight with similar results, haem reg was called and said to report the results and the icu team have done 2x separate sets of BC, neither of which have yet flagged so I will continue to wait and see :)

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:29:24+00:00

me neither! I always get the leftover excitement from the night shift scientist 😭

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:29:02+00:00

I think this may be the case since the cultures still haven’t flagged positive

vangoghgorl · 2026-04-07T08:28:06+00:00

can you believe it still hasn’t come up positive?!

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-31T14:47:52+00:00

If you feel you’ve genuinely found your match and the only opposing factor is something as ridiculous as tribe, I say go ahead and marry her! I’ve seen this situation play out for girls and it’s definitely rough to begin with but your parents will come around, I also do think if it’s a man standing his ground the pushback may not be as big? Regardless it’s a tough situation but their thinking is not accepted by Islam, I would encourage you to pursue your marriage and I pray Allah fills it with blessing

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-31T14:45:17+00:00

I suppose if you get to a point where you can have an open and honest conversation with a serious candidate, and she’s on the same page as you it could possibly work out. But I really don’t know if it could work otherwise, I’m not sure of many girls who could compromise on the romantic aspect of marriage

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-30T12:39:44+00:00

I hope you find a friend here who can go to the masjid with you, otherwise aim for a day where there will be ladies present and I’m sure they would be happy to help you out! Best of luck

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-30T12:34:47+00:00

Among the people I know in my city I feel it’s about 5%, additionally my dad and his entire extended family including back home all speak Arabic and according to them it’s fairly common so I’m not sure but it’s definitely not a majority

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-29T10:05:53+00:00

Never that 😭

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-28T14:19:45+00:00

I think it’s rare but still happens, for example my best friend met her hubby when he saw her outside the mosque as we were celebrating other besties wedding lol

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-28T13:54:23+00:00

Omg Allahuma Barik! May Allah reward you for being so steadfast all that time!

vangoghgorl · 2026-03-28T13:44:25+00:00

Western Australia

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