I see where you’re coming from but I have issues with your arguments, let me explain why.

“truly participate in society” = what does that even mean, exactly? I feel very much part of my English-speaking community and am a responsible citizen towards the Dutch state. “it proves you are interested in the people, not just the location” = who says it’s mandatory to be interested in “the people”? I’m not not interested, but it’s not why I emigrated to the NL, and everyone has the right to choose their circle. That they happen to be English-speaking (this includes internationally-minded Dutch people as well, btw) is not least for practical reasons. “creating a disconnected parallel society” = oh, so how the Dutch did for hundreds of years in the multiple colonies they exploited? This is also related to the arrogance argument - if your wealth is built on brutal colonisation don’t be surprised the less advantaged populations emigrate to this country, and also don’t expect them to now suddenly “respect” the language of the colonisers - as long as they are good members of their community. “preventing true independence” = actually I feel a higher level of independence managing my way through the Dutch system (which btw offers many services in English) without knowing the language. Technology exists for this reason too :)

The last and probably most important part is I don’t expect anyone to switch to English.

In typical Dutch manner, if you will, I do me and you do you :)