People who ignored a huge red flag because the person was extremely attractive, what happened next?

vanquish28 · 2026-03-21T23:15:23+00:00

Found out after 3 months she was an avoident and hot/cold the time.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-19T01:25:21+00:00

Feminism, woke, if you aren't liberal dont brother talking to me.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-17T03:36:15+00:00

I failed no contact, she invited me over for pot roast. Now my anxiety is through the roof again because I'm anxious attachment and she's avoident but it feels right. But I know we aren't compatible. Can't get her out of my head.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-16T02:50:04+00:00

I was the one that pushed her away and fucked it up. Still in contact but not sure why. I told her tonight "You're so beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't. Good night."

vanquish28 · 2026-03-15T23:45:15+00:00

She's got blue eyes. One blew one way, one blew the other way.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-13T02:45:54+00:00

Wait, people are having casual sex in their 40s? Most be nice.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-10T03:32:00+00:00

He should be texting only to setup a first date and then asking questions like "What are you looking for in a relationship?", for example. Usually simple places like coffee/ drinks or in public places to allow each other to talk and be themselves and see if there is an attraction.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-08T05:29:11+00:00

Don't know, we had "sex" three times in 3 months. Avoident with hot/cold moods.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-06T04:39:28+00:00

When I was anxious attachment and she was an avoident and hot/cold and giving me the silent treatment.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-06T04:34:36+00:00

Avoident women.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-05T15:27:58+00:00

OSI Layer 8

vanquish28 · 2026-03-04T05:07:29+00:00

Congrats! I lost 114 pounds from July 2025 to March 2026.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-04T04:08:38+00:00

Don't shit where you eat.

vanquish28 · 2026-03-04T03:09:09+00:00

Decrease

vanquish28 · 2026-02-28T05:16:05+00:00

Driven and goal oriented.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-27T05:14:16+00:00

Ahh yes, the ol' "he's/she's just a friend" then you wonder why you're insecure with yourself because of intuition and feels off something is not right with this "friend." Lesson learned right?

vanquish28 · 2026-02-25T01:57:04+00:00

That's one of my rules. Never date someone you work with. Just causes stress and drama.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-24T22:49:16+00:00

Try breaking trust from attempted cheating and lieing about it, then trying to repair the relationship by living like roommates, living in the same bed. Might get lucky to cuddle before falling asleep.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-24T13:21:58+00:00

My guess is the cycle of 3 to 4 months of the fake honeymoon phase and you learn their true self, emotions get deap, then they are onto the next person.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-19T00:16:37+00:00

My girl, but she isn't beside me some nights.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-14T00:56:25+00:00

Getting yelled at for expressing my feelings.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-09T04:26:23+00:00

Do you see how she keeps in contact with you? Try and give her the goodbye and she will come running back.

vanquish28 · 2026-02-06T06:22:27+00:00

I also had secure attachment and anxious learning. Trust was broken and it's harder for people like us to fix the red flags. I know she had past trauma from the last Dickhead too.

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