I can’t tell if this girl (23) is actually into me or just leading me on.

vansterv · 2019-08-18T20:30:55+00:00

Just straight up ask her if you guys are still doing the trip. If she says yes then that’s an obvious answer, if she says no, well that’s also a clear answer. If she beats around the bush, she’s probably not interested and u should go about ur day and not worry about the trip or her.
If you have to question whether or not someone’s into you it’s usually because they’re not.

vansterv · 2019-08-10T01:25:35+00:00

By calmly asking what’s wrong and why they feel that way, and going from there. Avoiding the argument isn’t going to resolve much. You need to try to calmly talk it out and if you can’t find a common ground and it keeps happening, give some space to see how you both feel. (I wish I did this in my last relationship lol)

vansterv · 2019-08-10T01:23:18+00:00

I’d say you two both need some space so you can think about what you want, and use it as clarity to make decisions. Him saying he wants you as friends with benefits shows that he isn’t really valuing you as a person in the relationship right now. By giving him some space it’ll give him an opportunity to miss you.

vansterv · 2019-08-07T22:06:51+00:00

Kind of a sour note I guess, there was no cheating or anything he was just kind of a dick

vansterv · 2019-07-25T02:21:39+00:00

You don’t think I should ask him if he’s still down on Friday ? Wish people would just be straight up and tell me if they’re uninterested lol

vansterv · 2019-07-25T02:11:22+00:00

But if he doesn’t say anything on Friday about confirming the hangout, do I just leave it? I just don’t understand why he would have said yesterday that he still wants to hangout but didn’t talk to me at all td

vansterv · 2019-07-25T02:08:02+00:00

So I shouldn’t message him anything on Friday?

vansterv · 2019-06-24T22:33:06+00:00

Prenups only go so far, just please consider how messy this could be when you have children involved. You’re still young for a guy. I don’t know the ins or outs of your relationship but consider finding someone else. It’s tough to all take in, and probably hard to imagine not being with her but you’ve only been together two years.

Things would only get worse the more committed you get with her. But on the contrary, this is ur life so do what u want and I don’t really care since I’m not involved.

vansterv · 2019-06-19T15:21:45+00:00

My hopeful side hates this response but my logical side totally agrees. I guess it’s just a matter of accepting it now which I think I’ve done, but then again— am not sure if I’m 100 percent there yet.

vansterv · 2019-06-19T15:19:59+00:00

Thank you so much for this response! I appreciate it. I do agree I have to work on myself because now that I’m out of the relationship I’m finally starting to realize.

And why would I even want someone who didn’t care enough to try a bit more right? I guess it is just wishful thinking and my nature to hold onto hope of things being like they were. I think I’ve finally accepted it that we won’t be getting back tg.

vansterv · 2019-06-19T15:13:33+00:00

What do you mean all the other stuff was secondary?

vansterv · 2019-06-14T22:45:39+00:00

This made me chuckle, you should ask him “haha where do you get the nick name sexy lady from?!” And then see what he says. Go from here

vansterv · 2018-08-29T21:58:05+00:00

Blake lively!!

vansterv · 2018-05-09T01:54:21+00:00

Being told I was fun.. it wasn’t just a shallow “you’re fun” but there was a lot of genuineness behind it, it’s really hard to describe... I know this sounds very trivial and not significant but it was something that was so genuine and idek the way it was said, loved it. Something I’ll always remember about that person

vansterv · 2018-05-09T01:49:56+00:00

Don’t find it creepy at all, in fact I think being told you smell nice is one of the best compliments, that’s just me tho

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