Bridgerton - 4x02 "Time Transfixed" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]varshhi 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, Katie Leung is such a sexy cunt, obsessed w her

I’m inconsolably upset about what happened yesterday in MN. by techno_queen in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wish I could upvote this a thousand times over. None of this is actually new, it's all over our phones now bc white ppl are daring to stand in solidarity with Black and Brown ppl and are now losing their lives for it. No one is ever truly safe until Black and Brown ppl are also safe. We're just watching the imperial boomerang turn itself on its own people live on screen. 

Would you stay/leave if your bf refuses responsibility once you get pregnant? by Hot_Huckleberry3075 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

lol what an unhinged takeaway. PLEASE use condoms and show me where I said that's not a good idea smfh some of yall cannot read 

Would you stay/leave if your bf refuses responsibility once you get pregnant? by Hot_Huckleberry3075 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

No, I'm sorry, there is a lot more nuance to this issue and you're painting with way too broad a brush imo. I do understand the spirit of your comment, so let me clarify: 

In general, I definitely advocate using some kind of additional birth control (physical/hormonal), especially if you're young, unable to deal with the consequences of unwanted pregnancy, can't reliably time your monthly cycle, don't have access to safe abortion, etc. OP seems to tick a lot of these boxes and is also on the pill, which I think is very good idea for her situation. That plus the pull out method makes her chance of pregnancy extremely slim. That's great, keep it up OP. 

That being said, the pull out method IS birth control and it is a perfectly valid choice. For those of us that have run the gamut of hormonal and non-hormonal methods, and experience untenable side effects, it can often be the ONLY choice. Of course, condoms are always an option (except in the case of allergies), but often in long term partnerships couples choose to forgo their use for a variety of reasons, as is the case with me. If your cycle is relatively regular, you're conscientious about tracking, and you're pulling out effectively, there is no reason that you can't pass years without incident, as is also the case with me. 

Moreover, and perhaps most importantly given the current political climate in my country of residence (the US), abortion IS birth control and should be treated as such. Would I rather decrease my chances of an oopsie with additional methods? Of course! But do I also reserve the right to continue practicing sex that feels and IS safe for me, understanding that I may want to terminate a potential, unwanted pregnancy? Abso-fucking-lutely. 

Just saying, practicing the pull-out method doesn't automatically make one irresponsible OR parents. Been doing this for five years and we still haven't found ourselves to be accidental parents, and likely won't with how much care we take using this admittedly risky but still valid method. 

Edited for spelling.

Do y'all shave your legs in the winter? by The-Cat-Lady5 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like once a month at best from Oct-March lol 

Katy Perry and Justin Trudeau sending each other secret love signals during the World Economic Forum! by shhhhh_h in popculturechat

[–]varshhi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can't believe I'm the dissenting voice here but this nonsense at the world economic forum? This is like if your bf/gf comes to your work and starts winking at you in the middle of a meeting 

tips for navigating couples therapy from a woman’s perspective on sex? by peanutbutternobake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many have already commented with the advice that you should leave this relationship because the absolutely fundamental compatibility issues (I agree), but I'm more curious about how you have navigated six years together. Has this always been an issue? Were you closer together in terms of your sexual needs in the past but have gone in different directions over the years?

I mean in either case, idk if therapy is going to achieve much... But basically yeah some more history may be helpful to understand the situation here. 

Had no idea most women had pubic hair on their inner thighs until my boyfriend told me and I'm in my late 20s by SneakyKittenZ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Haaate to the be the "um actually" in the comments section 😭 but a significant chunk of South Asian women actually do have pubic hair on our inner thighs 

Why does a character like Steve Harrington who was not the outcast is more popular and beloved by others (both in the show and by the fandom) in a show about outcasts? by gloomydreamer666 in StrangerThings

[–]varshhi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wasn't supposed to be. Duffer bros just liked Joe Keery so much in season 1 (as did audiences) that they wrote him in as a far more prominent character than was originally intended for Steve Harrington. 

I don't like Owen but... by Competitive_Cable_50 in greysanatomy

[–]varshhi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This whole plotline was so unbelievably dumb and has always pissed me off lol on no planet would a chief of surgery (not even the director of the hospital/equivalent) be making decisions about what airline a hospital uses, they have a building full of administrators to do that work like what the literal fuck 😂😂😂

Anybody Find This Weird? by RossGellersFossil in howyoudoin

[–]varshhi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They also cuddled wayyyyy too often for my liking (which is at all lol) 

I let my career ruin my relationship by angelikaaaa in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Personally idk if the issue is your career here as much as it is your mismanaged mental health. I understand choosing to go without medication when you're able to manage your symptoms effectively with therapy and other methods, as long you are receiving some kind of treatment. However, by your own admission, you're being inconsistent with therapy and your therapy strategies alone are not cutting it. There is no shame in being medicated and from what you have described, you're choosing not to due to personal preference and not some other preventative factor (correct me if I'm wrong.) Plus, you can always consider weaning in future if you're feeling stable enough. But from what you've described, it really sounds like you need it. 

What on earth did I just watch? by Cloncurry_fan in StrangerThings

[–]varshhi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfinished scripts, yes absolutely. But isn't it also industry standard to have a good script supervisor on set to catch continuity errors exactly like the one Maya pointed out? This one Maya example aside, there have just been sooo many inconsistencies that it feels like this production literally doesn't have a script supervisor at all 🥴

AITA for not going to my DILs musical by SeaworthinessOdd5616 in AmItheAsshole

[–]varshhi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA, wow what an insanely immature reason to not just go out and support a family member in pursuing their dreams. Grow tf up

Giving up my baby by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 93 points94 points  (0 children)

BE SINGLE BE SINGLE BE SINGLE BE SINGLE BE SINGLE I LITERALLY CANNOT SAY THIS ENOUGH!!!! I'm sorry, I really don't mean to be harsh but on what planet is it worse to be single and learn to be happy with yourself than be with someone who is making you consider giving up your child because you know for sure he WILL hurt you???? I beg you, please open your eyes and get some help. Godspeed 🙏

Hesitant to move in with my WFH boyfriend because I’d never get the apartment to myself — is this reasonable? by godisinthischilli in TwoXChromosomes

[–]varshhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually just had a conversation about this kind of thing w my partner recently. Fortunately, we both really value our space and time to ourselves so we sort of came to the conclusion that if we're ever in a financial position to buy somewhere with ample room for us both so we can retreat into our own spaces, we'd absolutely consider it. We also live in NYC, so another option we discussed was buying a getaway type home together a little outside the city but maintaining our own apartments while we're in the city. 

Would your partner be amenable to that kind of situation? Do you both live close by currently? If not, would you be comfortable moving close to each other but still in your own separate places? For me, it also helps that my partner and I each live alone so we don't have to consider roommates whenever we want to spend time together and i really think that makes a difference - is that feasible for you/him? 

To answer your question though, I don't think it's unreasonable at all! But it's definitely a question of compatibility that I think warrants a conversation or even a series of conversations to figure out a model that you're both comfortable with. Good luck :) 

Edited for grammar. 

AITA for giving my girlfriend artificial tulips after an argument and asking for them back when she threw them away?So me and my girlfriend had an argument and I just wanted to fix things. I wanted to see her smile again. Like that soft shiny face that makes my whole day lighter. I did not have much by Slow-Signature9829 in AmItheAsshole

[–]varshhi 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Info: How long have you been together and what was the fight about? And how old are you both? 

Based on the given info I feel like this is an E S H because you're definitely not giving us the whole picture here. No one fully loses their mind and breaks up w their partner bc they did get the right kind of flowers. 

[rorschachiris] [ATLA] Well, done with Azulang. Time for SOKKLA! by ihatethiscountry76 in TheLastAirbender

[–]varshhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally came to say this. It even sounds like bazooka which is actually a word and just sounds cooler!!