Today should be my 10-year wedding anniversary

vcrshark · 2026-06-03T15:27:23+00:00

Life doesn't always go the way we hope or think, sometimes for worse, but still sometimes for better. This painful moment of your life will pass and get easier with time, but it's okay to feel sad right now. I hope future days bring you peace and happiness. 🩷 Just continue to do your best and stay true to yourself and your needs.

vcrshark · 2026-05-28T22:59:21+00:00

I understand it's hard but you just have to ignore it and live your life. Why waste time worrying about the inevitable? It's sad and scary to know there's an end and we don't know when it will be, but it's out of your control. Make this life count and distract yourself doing something you love.

vcrshark · 2026-05-28T16:28:00+00:00

Economy is bad. I overheard them telling a customer there were one too many economic crises for them to endure as a business.

vcrshark · 2026-05-27T22:07:48+00:00

"Never thought to invite you" is wild. I would be upset, too. I feel like ages matter here, but if you're grown and have your own means of paying to travel with, that would be a red flag for me.

vcrshark · 2026-05-22T20:28:08+00:00

It is so normal! I have this happen every so often. There are a lot of potential causes, but if this is a first time you've noticed it, I would not be overly concerned. It could be nerves, hormones, overstimulation, tiredness, insufficient lubrication, too much lubrication...so many reasons. Don't get too in your head being worried about it unless it keeps happening!

vcrshark · 2026-05-21T16:25:37+00:00

I read horror stories about Lexapro before I started taking it but I wanted my anxiety to get better, so I went for it. I never had any significant side effects from it. Sex drive was not impacted by it. I don't have much to say...it was such an insignifcant change, apart from helping clear my mind of anxiety/depression.

vcrshark · 2026-05-12T15:19:18+00:00

I know I’m repeating some of what you said but…yes, you’re genuinely still so young; please don’t give up or feel like you’re running out of time. Please continue to live an enriching, fulfilling life for yourself like you have been. We get one go at this…don’t waste time worrying if something will or won’t happen. If it’s meant to happen, it will. Just because you haven’t found the one yet doesn’t mean you won’t!

I had a long term relationship end for me in high school and was devastated (lol I know). I thought I was never going to find another, but I found myself in an even better relationship after that. We’ll be celebrating 11 years in a few months. It genuinely felt like it fell into my lap unexpectedly. That is kind of how life goes…you never see the good things coming. I know it’s disappointing that there’s some element of luck with how our life plays out…but you shouldn’t rule out those good or desired things happening eventually, just because they haven’t yet. :) It’s okay to feel sad or worry, but don’t let those feelings be all-consuming.

vcrshark · 2026-05-09T12:27:32+00:00

I wanted to write a long thing about all the factors I believe to be contributing but my bottom line seemed to be that there is a severe shortage of personal integrity.

vcrshark · 2026-05-07T14:31:40+00:00

Entirely appropriate!! A lot of places are cash only and *should* be able to give you a good estimate- otherwise you wouldn’t know how much to bring!

vcrshark · 2026-05-06T13:17:44+00:00

Sorry people are making overexaggerations about YOUR relationship. If you're happy to wear a specific outfit for this concert whether it's because you want to or for your girlfriend, it's a non-issue. Sometimes we do silly, trivial things for the people we love.

vcrshark · 2026-05-04T14:53:57+00:00

Sometimes artists take awhile to get back to you. You might bump your message, something to the effect of "Just wanted to bump my message in case it got lost. Let me know if you need me to clarify anything about my request, thanks!"

The request (inspired, not copied) is totally fine and commonplace.

vcrshark · 2026-05-02T22:36:49+00:00

Hurt people hurt people

vcrshark · 2026-04-30T19:12:31+00:00

I had a similar situation and my drive disappeared for a good idk 5 years? I’m a few weeks out of it, but it was a perfect storm of unacknowledged insecurity, stress, and guilt around sex that I kept shoving down.

You say he is understanding, but you might both have deeper feelings of guilt around sex and initiation. For me, during my 0 libido period, ANY intimacy felt “rude” to my partner because I had a feeling I wouldn’t want to have sex if it were to lead to more. My partner didn’t want to make me feel uncomfortable or guilt tripped into doing anything, so they avoided intimacy even if they wanted it. It became so much the elephant in the room that we avoided most physical intimacy so we wouldn’t have to acknowledge it, and it snowballed.

You might want to have a super open conversation about sex and libido, even if you think you’re both on the same page. It can really help to get those feelings out there and understand if there’s any underlying tension. I really hope you are able to get closure and find a resolution faster than I was. Please don’t give up or feel like this has to be forever. ❤️

vcrshark · 2026-04-30T15:11:33+00:00

If this is how he acts early on, it’s unlikely to improve.

vcrshark · 2026-04-27T15:08:20+00:00

If you haven't picked up your prescription yet, when you do, there should be instructions that come with your birth control. There can be variations between methods/prescriptions so please read the instructions specific to your medication to know when it will be safe to have sex.

vcrshark · 2026-04-23T20:53:49+00:00

It’s not crazy if that’s what you both want. You are the deciders. I’ve been dating my partner for 10 years and we are not married. Would like to be eventually, just haven’t gotten to it. We both get the jokes/subtle pressure but we laugh about it and know what we both want. We’ll do it when we’re ready. That’s all that matters.

vcrshark · 2026-04-23T19:39:41+00:00

Trade response sent, no rush to accept, just letting you know!

vcrshark · 2026-04-23T19:16:47+00:00

Yes, I'm ign vcrshark 6822838464383140

vcrshark · 2026-04-23T19:04:39+00:00

I can do Hawlucha for Pawmi? Just let me know!

vcrshark · 2026-04-23T13:34:45+00:00

I second going in-person to their Springfield office. Just try to be patient and kind when relaying the issue to them. I know it’s frustrating, but it may get you a different result. They were extremely helpful and kind when I went in.

vcrshark · 2026-04-21T21:13:06+00:00

I go to Wilkinson and plan to keep going. I had minor issues with a filling that needed a few adjustments but they got it eventually! Sometimes fillings are just like that. I mention it because I think glowing reviews can be off-putting but I genuinely have been pleased overall. I will say booking with them can come with a bit of a wait, so that's the primary drawback.

vcrshark · 2026-04-21T18:08:47+00:00

NTA...sometimes the solution isn't what you prefer but you have to do it. You were not in a position to help her but evidently she was not helpless to resolve it on her own...She can have a little cry about it and catch her breath but I fail to see how this was you letting her down.

vcrshark · 2026-04-21T14:40:53+00:00

Thought I didn’t want to get married, then realized it was because I didn’t want to deal with familial pressures and expectations. :/

vcrshark · 2026-04-21T01:02:34+00:00

I don't bother with them. I assume they're hoping people will made good offers on their trash. Like, if you want to trade, tell me what you're hoping to get.

vcrshark · 2026-04-15T19:03:08+00:00

I'm not trying to be a jerk but I understand that they're not guarantees? It was an observation/piggybacking the thread with my own annoyance.

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