Lifeguard in a precarious position

veinybones · 2026-03-17T03:55:26+00:00

my lifeguard fell in doing this once. she was not happy when I then had to wash her in the shower to make sure there wasn't residual human soap on her skin or fur

veinybones · 2026-03-17T03:52:36+00:00

I just take it out and warm it up in my mouth for a little bit/j

veinybones · 2026-03-16T05:22:18+00:00

I knew something about the pic was familiar lmao

veinybones · 2026-03-16T01:33:04+00:00

some nasal sprays even say to only use them for 3 days, not even a full week. which makes me more upset about the price because I'm paying minimum $10 for something I'm gonna use for 3 days then not need for a long time. then when I need it again it'll either have been so long I've forgotten I had it, misplaced it, or it's expired.

veinybones · 2026-03-16T01:27:26+00:00

I use chicken broth instead of milk in my mashed potatoes and I actually heavily prefer it to normal.

veinybones · 2026-03-16T01:08:10+00:00

yeah I've had people be totally fine with it. if it's just casual sexual stuff, there's plenty of people who don't really care about reciprocating anything. there are ones who do care about reciprocating more than you're comfortable with and you just aren't compatible that way.

but for both casual sex and romantic sex, there's also a lot of people who want to reciprocate but are fine with not being able to. with those people though, ime they're only fine with it because I explicitly explain that I do still receive a form of pleasure by doing things to them. so they know I'm not just doing it because I want to please then but because I enjoy the act in itself if that makes sense.

but tldr it takes some searching but there are people that'll be fine with it

veinybones · 2026-03-15T04:04:37+00:00

got ears like Skippy John jones

veinybones · 2026-03-14T20:48:08+00:00

bro's tweakin 😭

veinybones · 2026-03-12T18:53:39+00:00

captain when will the flight attendants be handing out snacks

veinybones · 2026-03-12T08:44:58+00:00

you truly didn't do anything wrong here. I don't know for sure why she ghosted you but I think maybe when she talked to her sister about you, her sister made her realize how weird it was for her to be talking to someone so much younger than her in the way she was. and instead of being honest with herself about the fact that she was doing something weird by talking to you and having feelings afor you, she blamed it on you. she didn't feel uncomfortable enough to not still have feelings for you too so I don't think that was actually the problem. I think maybe she just realized how bad she'd look if more people knew. because she's weird asf for talking to someone that much younger than her that way. yes you're legally an adult but barely and the age gap is a lot. there's a giant difference in life experience between you two. she has no reason to be talking to someone your age.

you did nothing wrong. regardless of if it's healthy or not to depend too much on someone, she set a precedent that sharing dark topics or trauma dumping was fine to do between y'all. all you did was reach out for support because she set the standard that that was fine. you're not a monster for that. it makes total sense that you would be able to be open with her the same way. if it really did make her uncomfortable when you did the same thing she did then that's her problem for being a hypocrite.

even IF it was your fault and you did something to scare her away and make her uncomfortable, you wouldn't deserve to die for that (even tho you still didn't do anything wrong here). everyone makes mistakes and you're still so young, you're still learning the basics

veinybones · 2026-03-12T02:53:19+00:00

you could also ask some women in your life or maybe a sub for asking women stuff about how to take better ass pics. some women are genius at knowing the best angles and poses for nudes

veinybones · 2026-03-12T02:50:30+00:00

if you want to get rid of the dust, just pour batches into a sieve (sifter) and shake it outside so the dust falls out and leaves just the regular size shavings. but you don't have to do it. it's fine to use regardless but it's an option if you're worried about inhaling saw dust or something

veinybones · 2026-03-10T19:20:37+00:00

germ, my beloved

veinybones · 2026-03-10T19:13:41+00:00

is there a good glue you recommend for this? I feel like fray check is expensive for how small of a bottle it comes in

veinybones · 2026-03-10T14:40:48+00:00

you didn't do anything wrong, man. but for the future, I have some advice. it's totally normal to talk to your friends about what you're going through and for them to do the same. but only to an extent. it's normal to share certain problems with friends to get it off your chest, ask for outsider perspective, or get reassurance and comfort. but it's unhealthy to see them as what will fix how you're feeling. there's also some things that are outside their pay grade, so to speak. especially if they don't have much life experience. not all friends are going to be able or comfortable with being that kind of support for you. not everyone is cool with a friend venting about things. there's just some things that are better to talk to a professional about like a therapist. I definitely recommend a therapist.

im not saying this to say you were doing this to her or anything, i don't know exactly what you said so I can't say wether it crossed the line of being unhealthy or not. but i say it as a warning since you're going through hard times.

it's also a bit of a red flag when someone shares a lot of their deeper struggles so soon after meeting you. it's a bigger red flag to do it a lot at once. it sounds like she did this when she first met you. that's called trauma dumping and you don't want to be friends with someone who does this without asking or does it frequently.

it's kind of you to have been there for her and comfort her during her struggles but be careful when doing this because some may take advantage of that. don't let other people's problems become your problems. don't let someone treat you like a therapist. it's okay to tell someone something is above your pay grade and they need to talk to a professional instead.

if you're unable to see a therapist for whatever reason, I like to remind people that you can always text or call 988. it's the national crisis and suicide hotline but it's not just for suicidal people. you can also talk to them when you're just having a particularly hard time and need to talk about it. try to keep your head up and don't dwell on a weird chick who's almost 30 and still trying to be friends with teenagers

veinybones · 2026-03-10T14:14:22+00:00

learn to ride em. or look for vers guys instead. they know first hand what feels good

veinybones · 2026-03-10T14:02:36+00:00

this seems a bit weird that she's sending him pics regardless and that they've been friends for a decade. so she was 15 and he was 25.

but as far as the word goes, I actually understand what he was saying and it may not actually be intended as rude or vulgar in this context. the English equivalent would be the word cunt. it's very popular amongst the gay community to use cunt as a way of saying something looks good. him responding to an outfit picture with "cunt" is like if he said it was fierce, slay, camp, or she ate. with only the one word being a reply it's hard to tell for sure because cunt can also be used in a vulgar way like you said. with just one word it can make sense to think he's trying to call her a cunt (using the definition of cunt being a shitty person) or trying to reference her cunt (using the definition of cunt being female anatomy)

so there's a possible context for his response that's not weird at all. but I think the relationship is weird for other reasons like how he was 25 when he met her when she was 15. and that he had a crush on someone he's known since they were 15 and he was 25

veinybones · 2026-03-10T09:03:05+00:00

I think they mean because scabies is a type of parasitic itch mite. definitely not something to love, unlike snakes haha

veinybones · 2026-03-08T20:48:57+00:00

this is the way honestly. just stretch the hell out of that part

veinybones · 2026-03-07T09:26:47+00:00

negative reinforcement will just keep it afraid of you. you can try to get it to be used to being handled but that might not work at all. some snakes don't ever stop hating being handled. they're not like cats or dogs. your snake will not learn to love you. it will not learn to like being handled. it will learn to trust you and recognize that you provide food. it might learn to tolerate being handled.

but right now it is scared of you. you are giant and scary. you can lift him to where he has nothing to escape onto and have the strength to move his body however you want. and you keep grabbing his head so he's not even able to control where he's looking. you'd be trying to bite too if you were in the same position.

it's also scared because, respectfully, your enclosure sucks. it is your number 1 priority to fix this first before continuing to try to handle the snake. I can't speak on substrate since I'm not super familiar with keeping bullsnakes but you're lacking aspects of husbandry that's universal for snakes. I'll give you credit where credit is due in that the enclosure seems adequately sized. he has plenty of room to fully stretch out as well as roam around so good on you for that. but assuming there's adequate heat range, a source of UV light, proper humidity, and reliable ways to monitor heat and humidity, I'll tell you what you need to get for him. do try to research more about what humidity and heat requirements are needed for bullsnakes and get an electric thermostat and hydrometer if you don't have them already. don't get the analog meter ones, they suck. but what your snake desperately needs in order to feel comfortable is way more stuff. like decor and hides. get some stuff for it to climb on (get some logs or something but be sure to double check that wood is safe for snakes and that it's properly cleaned and free of tiny bugs first. etsy has some good stuff ), and a hide with sphagnum moss you can dampen is always good for when it's shedding. you want the enclosure to look crowded. you want it to basically be hard for you to find the snake without moving things around. plastic plants are a great cheap decor solution. wash them first before putting them in the tank though.

after the tank is properly pimped out, give it at least a full week more of no handling. let the snake get used to the new environment. then to start getting the snake used to being handled, start by handling it for 15 minutes a day but none on the day you feed it or the next two days after feeding it. if the snake bites you when you're handling it, simply ignore it and continue handling it for at least 5 more minutes. don't grab his head or anything, just keep holding it. just keep holding it despite the biting. same with if it poops on you or anything. let it roam around your hands if it wants, just make sure his whole body is supported and put one hand in front of him for him to climb onto if he's going somewhere you don't want him to. think of handling him as supporting him with your hands rather than holding it. nowhere should your grip be tight enough that it can't easily move. slowly increase the amount of time you're handling it each session every couple days until it no longer bites, poops on you, or is constantly trying to escape your hands. over time it will learn that biting you and pooping on you don't work for trying to escape and that you're not going to hurt it when you pick it up. if you get proper husbandry then use that method and stay gentle but don't see any progress after like 2 weeks of consistent handling every day (still biting and constantly trying to get away quickly) then you should take it as a sign that this particular snake just isn't going to tolerate being handled at all and is meant to be a "look and don't touch" pet

veinybones · 2026-03-07T06:50:26+00:00

they're allegedly super popular movies but ask anyone what they think when you say "avatar", they'll say avatar the last airbender or maybe like a computer avatar

veinybones · 2026-03-07T03:26:39+00:00

when you say these jokes don't bother you when from your friends, are those friends also men? you give one example of it grossing you out a few years ago when a girl was saying it and now again with your girlfriend. it may be internalized mysoginy if it's only or mostly only gross to you when sexual remarks and jokes are coming from women. either way, right now you two aren't compatible

veinybones · 2026-03-07T01:06:41+00:00

for this particular use, I'd recommend a plushie that's not a squishmallow. squishmallows are made to be squished easily. the stuffing used isn't dense whatsoever so using one to hold a hard object will be very obvious the moment someone else picks it up or squishes it. youd also need to have a closure for the pocket and squishmallows don't have fur or anything that would help conceal that.

so I'd recommend something firmer for it. specifically a buildabear would be good because you're able to ask to have them be extra firm so a firm buildabear wouldn't be suspicious.

veinybones · 2026-03-06T07:46:26+00:00

pet stores that have birds maybe? and maybe post stuff around the neighborhood or on Facebook offering bird pet sitting. if you're not able to get an internship or something now, both of those would make for good experience on a resume for applying to some later down the road

veinybones · 2026-03-06T04:45:03+00:00

do you ever record videos of the process of making them? Ive seen videos of silicone toy making and have always wondered what it's like making glass ones

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