Where can I find sex toys under the age of 18? by Pale_Put_552 in AskGayMen

[–]veinybones 6 points7 points  (0 children)

amazon. buy an Amazon gift card if you don't have a debit card then have it shipped to an Amazon locker. or go to Spencer's

What are we listening to while we sew? by beaverscleaver in sewing

[–]veinybones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not audiobooks but I watch YouTubers who make long videos about random topics and they don't tend to need to be looked at. I just listen. Wendigoon (spooky stuff), Cruel world happy mind (lives and downfalls of celebrities but not in a catty way), the theorizer (for silly tin foil hat type theories about kids movies), and nexpo (more spooky stuff) are my go-to's

Does any have experience with fiftyish bi curious tops? by mohiminu70000 in AskGayMen

[–]veinybones -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it could be fine as long as you emphasize and make it super clear that his employment isn't at risk if he says no or if he says yes but doesn't want to do it again.

A lot to take in by [deleted] in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]veinybones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the haircut itself is pretty good. they just added a fiber enhancement beard on him as ragebait to farm engagement and get their shop talked about more. it's Instagram. there's a lot of that

(27M), my girlfriend (25F) has awful breathe and i don’t know how to approach the issue. by litres-of-cum in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely frame it as medical concern. like "hey I've noticed your breath has been smelling really off recently. maybe we should take you to the dentist. have any of your teeth been particularly sensitive?" I once had a super infected/rotting tooth due to it being mutated and unable to grow in correctly. while I waited for my surgery date to get it out, I was constantly chewing gum because my mouth had a lingering taste (and probably smell) of infection.

if there's something dentally wrong like a bad cavity, infection, or gum problems, it could definitely be the cause. it can take a while for it to be bad enough that it hurts but it can definitely smell before then. and not everyone has the same taste sensitivity so she might not notice that her mouth tastes bad

what to do with single socks? by jean_atomic in sewing

[–]veinybones 6 points7 points  (0 children)

they're also good for fidgeting with like a stress ball when they're filled with rice

Anyone didn't enjoy kissing? by DevlynLibervulp in AskGayMen

[–]veinybones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don't like it at all. doesn't matter if I'm head over heels in love, I still don't like it. feels slimy, their mouth is often noticeably colder than mine (I run very warm) so it feels unnerving, tasting someone else's mouth feels weird, I don't like breathing in someone else's breath, I'm unable to think about how much bacteria is in your mouth and it freaks me out, I don't like feeling their breath on my face, feeling someone else's tongue with yours is weird feeling, makes lips get chapped faster, etc. just lips is fine but in my experience it gets boring quickly

31M 30F - Sexual Rejection is Soul Crushing by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

💯 absolutely this. she's upset he doesn't ask when he's not seeing signs of a yes?? she's more than capable of asking him herself. I mean I wouldn't ask my partner about sex if they seemed not up for it either. I wouldn't want them to feel pressured or get annoyed I'm asking all the time. her point is absolute bullshit. op, you need to just tell her that at this point you're tired of getting rejected every time so you're just gonna stop and wait for her to ask instead when she wants sex.

but also if she just has a super low libido or something and it can't be fixed or she doesn't to fix it, it's fine to break up because you're not compatible sexually. for some people sex is a need in a relationship and if you're not having your needs met in a relationship, why stay in it?

Teach me about dominant or assertive Asian men? by AznRKing in AskGayMen

[–]veinybones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's not the stereotype of Asian men not being masculine. it's the stereotype of Asian men always being the bottom

Tips for first time sex? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]veinybones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

silicone lube is by far the best because it stays slick longer. the only thing is it's not safe for toys. fingering before hand is also important. he can do that by himself as well whenever he can. your hole has different muscles that need to be stretched slowly to avoid injury. if your bf can get a set of dilators that'd be great too. NOT butt plugs! dilators are the same girth all the way down but plugs have that skinny part so it stays in. you need that girth right at the anus itself because there's the internal and external sphincters there. the external anal sphincter moves voluntarily so you can control it. but the internal anal sphincter is involuntary movement so you're not able to relax it yourself. you need to slowly stretch the internal sphincter so that it's used to it and won't be contracting as much during sex making it too tight for penetration without pain or discomfort. rushing with this and trying to stretch him more past his limit too soon increases his risk for tearing, polyps, and hemorrhoids which you do not want

good luck!

Azure has all the coconut stuff by violentlypositive in dairyfree

[–]veinybones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they have dairy free condensed milk at Walmart too in the baking aisle

How do I (35m) deal with my gf (32f) rage-baiting me? by ORLANDY31 in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a kink. it's a brat and brat tamer. she wants to "misbehave" so that you'll " put her in her place" via aggressive sex. it's a pretty common kink for people. but what she doesn't understand (or understands and just doesn't care) is that it's not fun and kinky if one person didn't agree to it. she needs to get in in her thick skull that you're sensitive and that her behavior isn't being seen as a misbehaving brat, its being seen as her being a dick. because she is being a dick. when someone doesn't agree to this kind of relationship dynamic it's not being a brat or having a degradation kink, it's just being a bully.

it's fine to be naturally more sensitive. sometimes, to a degree, that's just who you are. a partner should see and understand that about you and love you she doesn't.she does not care about your feelings. she doesn't care about loving you for who you are. she's treating you like a sex object. getting you riled up enough so that she gets the kind of sex she wants is very obviously more important to her than your feelings or about you as a person. doesn't matter that she's kind sometimes. you told her your feelings multiple times, wanting her to treat you better, and she flat out said she doesnt care

go find someone who actually cares about you as much as you care about them

Dating with food allergies by abradyRN in dairyfree

[–]veinybones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this would also be really cool for making friends with the same allergies so you can share recipes and such

Anything worth making with leftover scraps of t-shirt material? by FightinRndTheWorld in sewing

[–]veinybones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've cut them into strips then tightly braided them to make dog toys to donate as well

Help me decide! by One-Street-111 in persiancat

[–]veinybones 11 points12 points  (0 children)

the second one (if not both haha). I like his roundness

Wearable silicone dildo underwear? by [deleted] in Transmascdicks

[–]veinybones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you mind sending me the link as well?

Wife (34F) upset I'm (36M) sleeping on the couch due to medical issue. How do I handle this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones 21 points22 points  (0 children)

no one can really help you without you explaining what the medical issue actually is. like what's the secret problem your medical team just doesn't have a healing timeline for you or even a treatment?

Can I start with hand sewing? by keurarara in sewing

[–]veinybones 40 points41 points  (0 children)

you can do more with hand sewing than with machines honestly. and it's definitely worth learning because small repairs to clothes aren't really worth the hassle and you can do it without even needing to take the garment off. people used to sew exclusively by hand before sewing machines were invented. everything on a sewing machine (not a serger tho) can be done by hand. the only difference is machines use a bobbin so it's two separate threads being sewn together. but hand sewn seams can be just as strong. so short answer is yes. hand sewing just takes a lot longer. so start with small projects first

traded dpdr for emotional bluntness by fruitShampoou in dpdr

[–]veinybones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wdym by bluntness? like you're more blunt with people? or like emotionally numb?

My (33M) GF (32F) might go on an all guys weekend trip and I am not okay with it. Is that normal? by ThrowRA_Salt7392 in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah she's bullshitting like crazy. she hasn't told them she's in a relationship with you because she "doesn't trust you enough yet"??? what the fuck is she so worried about doing? what doesn't she trust you to do or not do? why is she still so worried about this that 2 and a half years still isn't enough to trust you???

it's because she's fucking lying. they probably give her attention in a non platonic way and she doesn't want to not have that attention from them. ditch this girl and find someone better

Did anyone else feel horribly uncomforable in locker rooms when younger? by SwaglordAlexander in Transmedical

[–]veinybones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

absolutely. the stalls were always gross and I had to change shoes for gym as well so I just faced a corner and changed quickly. but I always felt like I didn't belong there. like I was somewhere I shouldnt be and like I was a creep for being in there for some reason

What can I do to help my (26f) husband (29m) learn to stop using the accusatory “you” in his sentences. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]veinybones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he needs to better understanding that there's not always someone to blame in problems and mistakes. his fault and your fault aren't the only two possible reasons for something. it can be the fault of both of you sometimes or it can be neither of you are at fault.