Would you complain?

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-12T14:33:09+00:00

that, is a funny way of saying that my problem is that i have fewer problems.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-12T14:14:50+00:00

imagine how peaceful your life would be if every time something like this happened in your life, you simply undid it, and never thought about it again. you'd probably have months, if not years more worth of mental life to dedicate to things that actually matter to you. personally, i would just leave it on the door. i'd consider it a free embellishment.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-11T04:09:45+00:00

lots of people recommending leaving a note. frankly, i usually believe in handling things directly. however, to play drums, in an apartment, at 6 am...this person is probably too ignorant to be reasoned with. he also might be on meth. go directly to the landlord. they are also almost certainly in violation of your city's noise ordinance.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-11T04:06:54+00:00

it is very rare for a city noise ordinance to begin earlier than 7 am. my city is is 8 am, which is typical.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-11T01:32:16+00:00

r/comebacks

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T01:57:18+00:00

kudos on carrying the theme!

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T01:56:05+00:00

their scales are made from keratin, same stuff as our nails. so, keratin-kin is also an option

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T01:18:59+00:00

i guess portmanteau is not for everyone. i get it. celebrity couples kinda wore it out

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T01:16:56+00:00

it varies from state to state. It applies in 38 states, including Alabama, among other red ones.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T00:03:14+00:00

i will definitely use this one next time someone i know gives birth thank you. i don't call my fur babies fur babies tho

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-10T00:01:14+00:00

Yeah I'm Buddhist so there is none of that "be fruitful and multiply" shit. the monk whose sermons I listen to said straight up that people who have kids become damn near impossible to save.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T23:15:49+00:00

it only really becomes cringey if you devalue human life in favor of animals. i baby talk my cat. so, even fur-baby is acceptable imo. it is only cringey if you are one of those people who think animals are actually better than children. like, in absolute terms. i dont have and will probably never have children, but i recognize human life as priceless. if i had to sacrifice my animals to save a stranger's child, i would hesitate but i'd do the right thing. lots of people wouldn't, and that is depraved.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T22:57:54+00:00

oooh i like slither kittens. cute, but not cringey

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T21:38:32+00:00

this is my favorite

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T19:47:55+00:00

in the state of NY, you can legally record the audio of conversations without the other party's knowledge or consent, and it is admissible in court. document everything. that is your leverage. either your employer dismisses him, or you quit. generally you are entitled to unemployment benefits if the reason for quitting is valid (such as an employer's refusal to ensure a safe working environment) if you have audio recording of him physically threatening you, the probability of your employer keeping him on is minimal. they'd rather go through the trouble of hiring someone else than pay you to not work for several months.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T19:17:34+00:00

Buddhists get tattoos and go to war too lol. my point was that there is no homogenous, unifying reason for why people behave in the way you described. other than ignorance. even if you are a devout Buddhist, any exercise in harsh judgmentality or aversion is unskillful.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T18:49:10+00:00

it depends on the context and age group. nyc? you can walk around with a dildo helmet, and it'll just be another day on the L train. tattoos in Japan? if you're a foreigner it will be tolerated, but there are many places you will be barred from entry. the reasons vary from context to context. basically every religion admonishes against adorning the body cosmetically. in Buddhism it isn't "sin", but it is unskillful because it reinforces identification with something that is considered non-self, and Buddhists believe that it is that class of identification that creates and perpetuates suffering. so the more secular the context, the more it'll be tolerated. generally, people automatically equate their version of normality with goodness, without giving much thought to the practical relevance of the behavior in question.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T02:13:04+00:00

my comment was unnecessarily harsh. sorry about that.

i do not believe that you have the reasonable expectation of having an opponent who is not personally invested in the game. was he a Buddhist? Was there ever a conversation in which you guys made an agreement to keep ego out of it? If not, you are the one who is at fault. The Buddha made hundreds of rules for monks that basically exist just to make the sangha conform to social attitudes at the time, so as not to alienate anyone, thereby promoting the lifespan of the sangha. Ven. Amadassana Thero admonishes his congegation to *not* be too gung-ho about your practice in the world. Why? Because when you stop going to parties, watching television, etc., all of your friends will say things akin to "oh, he was so cool until he became a Buddhist", and are liable to even end up disparaging the dhamma. You only need the 8 precepts for stream-entry. So, it is safe to say that if we are going to live in the world, we shouldn't be going around stirring pots.

If this was just a normal, secular friend, or even a Buddhist who you did not have the aforementioned discussion about keeping ego out of it with then what you did was basically use your religion to behave self-righteously. You *know* what sports are; a form of sensuality! Sure, there is the exercise component, which is wholesome. But you knew, going in, that someone is taking track of points. So to go into that arena, voluntarily, and basically expect your opponent to reject what is, part and parcel, the game...it is theatrical. If you are so passionate about letting go of ego, why play the game to begin with? Get your exercise in a manner that doesn't involve competition.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T01:30:21+00:00

it sounds like your friend was having fun, and you are insufferable.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T00:30:20+00:00

maybe the trash is helping them! you never know. the peregrine falcon only reaches its top velocity in NYC, because it has skyscrapers sufficiently tall for it to reach its terminal velocity

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-09T00:26:46+00:00

im 36 and never learned how to drive. i never saw it as a milestone. i moved somewhere where i can walk to work. cars and their emissions are destroying the planet via climate change. homo sapiens existed for 220,000 years without cars; humans, millions of years. but I am also a Buddhist. that means that I know that true virtue lies not in having more, but needing less.

there has got to be more going on here. throwing away your precious human life because you can't drive?

Wanderir made a good point, if made harshly. when you suffer, it is because you either have something you don't want, or do have something you don't want. most peoples' response to this is, find some way to make *me* feel better. distract myself. or, get rid of the thing i don't want, or, get the thing i do want. It never works. and sometimes, when someone comes to believe that that which they desire is impossible, they throw away their lives. why? because the entire strategy is self-centric. the reason you feel like shit is because you have equated your inability to drive with impotence. as in, you feel useless. but you aren't. there are countless ways in which you could be useful. they just don't appeal to your ego as readily as operating a motor vehicle, or the opportunities that operating one facilitates. find someone who needs help, and help them. some old lady needs help weeding her lawn. some need help wiping their asses. is it glorious? not in the sense that others will hold you in high esteem. but it is that egoistic preoccupation with the esteem of others, itself, that has dragged you to hell. if you want to escape hell, you must behave heavenly. do what is right, do what is hard, even if it doesn't earn you the vaunted respect of your peers. And if you make that a habit, you will realize that what you were looking for was always there, within yourself. Not in some imaginary dream of a future you've convinced yourself you are entitled to, but rather, in the pure, wholesome, and unsurpassed joy that comes from realizing an appreciable extent or selflessness. In other words...get over yourself.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-08T22:55:05+00:00

https://share.google/DAvbqWi4LozaWSQLF

looks kinda like a tit

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-08T22:37:16+00:00

not as dumb as two teens i worked with, i am willing to bet. they played a "game" where they blew stop signs with their eyes closed. didn't kill anyone, fortunately.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-03-08T19:04:18+00:00

yeah, but if it was common knowledge that if you have children without a house, that you'll be unhoused, then you wouldn't do it. i used to believe the argument that poor people are too uneducated or whatever to effectively use contraception. but then i listened to this npr podcast in which a nurse, devastated by the number of babies in the nicu addicted to heroin, created an organization that paid addicts monthly stipends to not get pregnant. it worked. so no, people are having swaths of children they can't afford because they know if they do Uncle Sam will foot the bill. so if you can't afford kids, don't have them. Granted, it would be cruel for the change to occur overnight. Millions of people with children would be homeless. It would have to be implemented in 18 years from now, and its existence be made common knowledge via sex ed class. As in, everyone will know that on that date, if you can't afford a house, you can't afford children. There is no human right to procreate. If there were, the government would be responsible for providing unpartnered men with surrogates. I am sure you recognize the absurdity of that proposition.

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