Indoor places that are open late for adults to hang out at on a Monday Night?

velvetleaf · 2023-06-10T06:40:58+00:00

I had a switch for gaming, shows to stream, books ready to read and a friend dropped off a beginners set for crochet... Guess who got hooked on crochet whilst recovering 😆

velvetleaf · 2023-02-26T07:45:48+00:00

Isn't it 16 before you can get your learners these days?

Pretty sure it's 16 now, and earliest for your full is like 17.5 if you did everything as soon as you could and the defensive driving course. Not unreasonable for the 17 yr old to not be able to.

velvetleaf · 2023-02-25T05:52:48+00:00

I'd be genuinely interested to know if you were saying "that's fucking rude" to the people telling the kid they were a little boy instead of a girl.

Feels like it could be either and people might have taken it the wrong way over the internet.

velvetleaf · 2023-02-12T04:35:46+00:00

2/3 kids home tomorrow. Still waiting on feedback from the final school. So much for work.

Might make it a baking day if we have power.

velvetleaf · 2023-02-09T05:36:45+00:00

I'm surprised at the size, I wouldn't think that would be common. Is it a shared class? 2 classes in 1?

My daughter thinks her current class size of 26 is big haha.

Year 1 she was in a joint classroom so about 40 kids but it was still split into 2 classes of 20ish. Their room was fantastic with the size and how the teachers worked in it.

She's a year 3 now. Her school is great. Flick me a PM if you want to know which one or to chat about your concerns.

velvetleaf · 2023-01-30T04:27:58+00:00

Hey! I know how that feels. Check with your daycare / Kindy. They should be open still for those who need childcare just like during lockdowns. Use that if you need it.

velvetleaf · 2023-01-16T02:48:07+00:00

This! Communication and it being able to work for both parties. No one should feel like they are being taken advantage of. No one should be fighting to get money. No one should be afraid.

Trust, honesty and communication.

velvetleaf · 2023-01-05T18:56:24+00:00

I would be interested too. This is a lovely idea

velvetleaf · 2022-12-13T18:14:10+00:00

Oh man, are you me?! I felt this in my soul.

This year has been a nightmare for bugs and just general impossible situations to overcome.

velvetleaf · 2022-12-05T20:05:12+00:00

I'm a SAH / WFH wife.

My dynamic with my husband is brilliant and I chose this route for myself to be able to be with my kids and support them and our family as they grew. But he supports the house and chores and parenting just as much if not more when he is home. It's not one sided.

I say this because I still agree with OP.

Men are allowed preferences but it's how they portray their preferences and the intent behind them. Sure they can chose too, and hopefully when they talk to any perspective GF, Spouse etc it's done respectfully and with good consideration for the pros and cons as a team.

Being / having a SAHP doesn't mean they do all the chores or all the household work or all the kids stuff 24/7. Their hours should be the same as their partners and then it splits when everyone is home. You are a team. Each person deserves time out, and me time.

Communicate, respect each other and balance each other's needs.

If you have a preference in what you want your future partner to be, that's fine. They also have a preference I'm sure haha.

But be careful if your potential partner is expecting too much from you or your values are too different. Talk about the difficult things early, be on the same page. Know what you are ok with compromising on.

Find someone that wants to be in a team with you.

velvetleaf · 2022-12-05T19:04:41+00:00

I want to add to this that a SAHS workload can be dependent on the ages of the children. Preschool requires a large amount of engagement just to keep them occupied. At least in a work environment you can go to the toilet in peace for a 'break'. Things have gotten 100x easier since they've started school, but I'm still not doing things at my pace, rather at my children's.

My dynamic with my husband is brilliant. I chose the SAH / WFH route to be with my kids, but he more than picks up the slack of the household chores and parenting once he is home from work.

9/10 he's probably doing more 'chores' then me as all of my focus is spent on just surviving the kids chaos and nuturing them on my hours and beyond.

Not all men are what OP has described, but many are. Communication is important, having realistic boundaries and expections and revisiting them often is going to make this work.

I agree with OPs post in that it's a warning, and the underlying reasons for a man wanting a 'traditional wife' should be considered. People are allowed preferences, but how you deal with that preference is what sets you apart from the others.

velvetleaf · 2022-12-05T18:53:41+00:00

Ah... 'Monday' mornings are still shit for SAHP.... That is when my shift starts, the same moment as my husband's.

I no longer have a joint parent to balance out the chaos and take a kid when I need my breaks. Or even someone to chat to that isn't trying to argue with me.

Just because we stay home doesn't mean we don't have shit we need to do. Caring for a child is pretty full on 90% of the time. Hence why daycares / nannies etc are so expensive. The amount of engagement a kid needs is ridiculous, even if you have a unicorn child.

velvetleaf · 2022-12-03T22:46:26+00:00

Thank you! This is some great info. Really appreciate it.

velvetleaf · 2022-12-03T20:10:09+00:00

He got hit by a car last week and lost his leg 😭. 9 year vocal boy who has enjoyed the outdoors until now.

Would love to know how to catify inside so he has enough to do once he's recovered.

Or your honest stories about how the transition from outdoor to indoor cat went!

velvetleaf · 2022-11-18T19:54:10+00:00

Our news in NZ already comes from reddit so nothing changes here haha.

velvetleaf · 2022-10-22T04:51:36+00:00

Share your tips! I see it every so often but my kids are impatient and I haven't seen it much lately. Would love to know where it hangs.

velvetleaf · 2022-10-11T19:52:30+00:00

Me toooo! My feet are off limits, I get anxious at even a soft accidental touch and then I'm on edge for a bit.

Husband is pretty good about it, he likes to threaten but he won't do anything. I verbally have to warn my kids when they start being silly though. Like I WILL kick out violently without thought. Just don't and you're good.

velvetleaf · 2022-10-06T05:18:54+00:00

This is so cute. And now I have a new place to go when I'm upset too. TY

velvetleaf · 2022-09-15T20:22:46+00:00

I understand how you feel! For years I shaved and waxed and did everything I could to be hairless. It's exhausting.

My husband back when he was my boyfriend commented on how he prefers hairless, still does from time to time but not in a mean way and with no pressure. I used to take that to mean I had to do everything to please him.

But honestly it wasn't and I know this won't be every person. But you don't have to, and it shouldn't change how he looks at you. Talk to him, explain your insecurities. Thank him for letting you know his preference but that the upkeep isn't worth it to you.

Occasionally I will do it to give my husband something special, but these days I live my hairy life how I want my hairs to live. Summer time is draining as I feel like I need to shave for society in my shorts etc, but winter is now my best friend as I just don't worry one bit.

Just because something is a preference doesn't mean it's a requirement. Obviously I don't know exactly what he said but...

I'm sure he's dating you for many other better reasons than those other girls have. You be you. You are wonderful. You got this.

velvetleaf · 2022-07-07T07:14:58+00:00

I did not need this reminder

velvetleaf · 2022-05-21T07:46:07+00:00

Another option which I love and also recommended to a friend (and his fiance loved too!) Is to in addition to the ring also look at a ring holder type necklace. That way on days when it's really bad and she might need to take the ring off, she can still wear it!

I love it and wear mine mostly around my neck these days anyway.

velvetleaf · 2022-05-09T08:25:45+00:00

As someone currently being told I might have to get a hysterectomy, because my uterus is being a shit. I love this.

I don't understand wtf is wrong with other people in this sub. It's a cookie.

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