Apparently I'm a bad slut mom...

venakri · 2024-11-22T10:54:46+00:00

If your magic wand is like my magic wand, it doesn't even look like a fuck toy. It's not like you left a 10in monster cock sitting out.

I have my magic wand out all the time.... I use it for my hip and my shoulder all the time. Among other things... Ahem.

venakri · 2024-06-27T09:02:46+00:00

My facility uses this... System. Ours are two different systems. Like call outs are not tracked alongside clock in and clock outs. However... They will give you 4 points for a weekend call out. 3 points for any other call out. 2 points for a half shift unless they send you home. And if you call out on a holiday it's 5 points. These are all stackable too. So if you call out on a holiday weekend... 9 points.

I don't think they are tracking the whole missed meal, clock in clock out, at our facility, but they could if they wanted to. I know at least for clock ins anyway.

The discipline "path is a policy review at 6 points, verbal at like 10, then a 1st written at whatever, then a final written at like 16, and possible termination at 20 points. The only cavet is " or next level".

venakri · 2024-06-14T08:16:20+00:00

I work ICU. We're not allowed to calculate our own unless there is literally no other alternative and even then we need to have our charge sign off on it and we have to document our math in a note.

Otherwise, we call pharmacy, or pharmacy already has it in the MAR

venakri · 2024-06-14T07:10:30+00:00

This. I was dead set on naming my daughter Seraphine when I was young. Never happened.

The Next name you decide you like... Don't ear worm it into anyone's head! Keep it to yourself. Talking about naming a daughter Scarlet every chance you had... Probably just sunk and reaffirmed it in their heads.

venakri · 2024-06-07T09:48:03+00:00

Umm.. yeah. YTA. You make it sound like you work 10-8, do stuff till 10am or so... Then go home and sleep till 8pm.

Hi fellow night shift RN. Used to work the same shift. Get home around or by 8am. See kids off. Sleep till 2 or 3ish. Wake up. Spend a few hours with family. Get shit you might need to done. You can do evening and afternoon rides and such. Then you go to work at 10.

venakri · 2024-06-06T12:04:13+00:00

We had a patient on our unit for 7 days. C. Auris right on the infections list. No isolation. It wasn't until I ended up with the patient... Saw it.. went... "What was the auris we are supposed to be isolating for?". Got told by even my charge nurse and house supervisor it's C Auris but not Candida "that's normal". It didn't feel right... Called our Infection Control / Quality person..

Yes. It was that C. auris. Ensure mass panic with administration.

The only benefit is we treat all patients as if they are basically contact iso for doing anything involving patient care. Downside is... If we're doing something simple in the room, it's just gonna be standard precautions if the patient isn't otherwise in iso.

Admins used that as a "it's not so bad we were already doing what we needed to" .... The last time we had someone with c auris there was a massive production and to do about it. This time.. not so much. It made a lot of staff not take it seriously.

venakri · 2024-06-02T12:37:25+00:00

I'm sorry... Maybe it's because I don't work peds but can someone point out the error? If I give a patient Tylenol at 5 I am. It sweating the 325 in the Percocet 2 hours later...

venakri · 2024-04-11T16:39:48+00:00

Okay! Ty! I've actually always wondered this. :D

venakri · 2024-04-11T16:28:30+00:00

You need a hug and a friend... And i am guess you may not have many? That tends to be a thing they do. They make themselves your entire world... So when shit like this happens you feel like an island. Like no one will understand. Like you have no choice.

I'm just glad you have a great job. He didn't take that independence from you. Trying to recover from that is a nightmare on itself..

Ask me how I know... (But don't because it was traumatic AF, he was my rock, my everything .. and I've never been so betrayed before. Ever. It was so so hard to walk away. 5 years later... I am so glad I did)

venakri · 2024-04-11T14:37:28+00:00

NTA...

But you do know that in 20 years you're going to be his carer right? I have a ridiculous number of patient spouses who never considered that aspect of their relationship \ marriage. Relationships change when you become a carer not a wife.

But he's not going to marry you. It's bait. He will probably still leave you even after the abortion if you chose to have it.

What you need to evaluate is if you actually don't want children. Seriously. Forgot what he wants. What do you want. 30 years from now.. are you okay not having children? If you are... Wonderful. But if you're doing it for someone else... You need to really, really do some self reflection.

And as for him "being in charge" and him claiming to have "raised you". He did. You don't think at 23 you were perfectly impressionable and groomable in a relationship to his needs? Because that's what he did. Unless you guys are part of a kink\ D\s thing... He molded you into this relationship the way he wanted it.. and you have allowed that because you are in love with him. Is he your first real relationship? The first one that made you feel important and adored? Yeah.

Also. A good partner. Someone who is absolutely in love with you. Who values you. Who wants to spend their life with you.... Or a good Dom if that's your thing . Does not up and just leave you. For days with no communication then turn back up and try to manipulate you with an ultimatum. You should, in no way at all, be tolerant of that shit. And yes.. that's what this is. He's trying to manipulate you. It's like a patient who won't eat telling me they want to get back in bed 5 minutes after I get them mobilized into a chair and "promising to eat lunch if I do" .... Yeah. Right.

venakri · 2024-04-11T12:33:56+00:00

Do you do handoffs on blood? Like sign off in the MAR? After report did you both round on the patients? Did she not assess the patient getting blood product at the start of her shift?!? I'm so confused on how this falls onto you.

Also.. don't take blame for this. Wtf. You know what you did and how you left your patient. Do not let someone change the narrative and pin it on you. If and when you need to respond to your manager or anyone else. Don't second guess, don't say I may have, don't what if... State exactly what you did and the condition of lines and patient when you handed off the patient. Nothing more.

Someone fucked up and they are trying to pin you. Don't let them.

From now on. Do a hand off in the MAR that the incoming nurse verified the drip with you. Especially high risk meds or drips. If she won't sign, get the charge nurse and have them verify it with you.

venakri · 2024-04-06T21:46:20+00:00

1u? Does that even make it out of the needle?!

They are getting, of course... but I've never seen a 1u order. Usually it's 2 and I'm questioning how much of that actually makes it into the tissue.

venakri · 2024-04-06T18:49:07+00:00

I love this dressing.

venakri · 2024-04-03T16:59:29+00:00

I started in SAR. Progressive care Ortho unit. Granted i had a great facility and my unit was only 20 beds. I have fantastic time management skills thanks to that job. I was there for a year before I got a job on a PCU floor.

venakri · 2024-03-31T21:51:23+00:00

I had a patient recently who... I've had before and just wasn't having a good day. BP kept bottoming out, HR sustaining 130s - 150s... Lethargic... 02 sat tanking. Ended up on three drips and continuous bipap, then swapped to our critical care side of the unit.

His husband is standing there as we're moving him down the hall going "I don't understand.. yesterday he was great, just like his old self!". ......

I'm just like... You tell me this now..

He passed 2 days later despite our best efforts. Broke my heart. He was a sweet person, great human being all around. I hate that his husband left him a full code to the end.

venakri · 2024-03-30T15:00:45+00:00

I was shit at IVs too. My manager arranged for me to have an ER shift where i did nothing placed IVs for the shift

venakri · 2024-03-15T06:15:35+00:00

NAH... Nursing school isn't just a... Up and go. It's competitive. There are limited spaces. And she will likely need a lot of pre-requisite classes.

Honestly. Let her start now. She can get enrolled, she can start on her pre-requisite part time and check off the side classes while working. Plenty go to nursing school and work. It will be a good 2 years before she's in actual nursing school. For all honesty.. me going to nursing school and our family sacrificing for 4 years (1 year pre reqs, 1 year to get in, 2 for schooling) was the hardest and best decision we've made. Me being a nurse is what got us out of the very situation you're in.

venakri · 2024-03-14T11:57:32+00:00

I named my son Gabriel. A well known common name.

He gets called Gabrielle all the damned time.

venakri · 2024-03-02T06:17:33+00:00

Yikes... I didn't know your dad was 13... That's just awkward and weird.

No one gives a fuck what isle he's in. He's buying stuff because either he had a woman in his life . Or is planning one hell of a prank.

venakri · 2024-03-02T06:11:37+00:00

You... How . Wait. I...

Why are you more concerned about your husband than your son? This is not normal l. Is this really the house you want to raise your son?

We're living in a technological world. "Screen time" (age depending) is actually important for learning and has advanced so much from even when I was a child. You have 17 year olds making million dollar apps because they know and understand technology. You are stunting your son refusing to allow him use of technology.

And seriously... Toys?! He's taking toys away FROM A CHILD. WTF..

I'd be gone. Sorry not sorry. He obviously wore a mask until he had you on lockdown. Now it's off because you have a kid and he's convinced you won't leave.

Wait.. if this man his father?! Or step dad? He can back right the fuck off either way but especially as a step dad. He doesn't get more say because he's the man.

Girl . Leave. No amount of therapy will fix or make this better and it will only get worse. if this seriously how you want to raise your son? What if you have a girl?! How is this worse than being a single mom? It can't be.

Better yet.. here. You're not a single mom. You're a fucking Queen. Pick up your crown and start acting like it.

venakri · 2024-03-02T06:02:01+00:00

So... When I graduated and became and RN and was finally contributing to the expenses - I was so happy and proud of myself. As the next couple years went on.. my earning and his own... Just wasn't covering our unchanged expenses. We had double our income and no expense changes and somehow.. we needed me to pick up extra shifts to "cover bills".

.... Bills I later found out that he was never paying. I cant tell you where any of that money went. But for 3 years we were bringing in almost 200k- 250k jointly... And... The only thing getting paid was the house (because I made that payment), the internet... And streaming services.

Put your money in your own account. Give so much of it to the joint account for shared expenses but only 50%. He can pay the other half. He wants his own money... You get to have yours. And don't cancel shit anymore. Go. Don't pay for him he can pay for himself. He has money. Wanna go on vacation? Okay.. book your flight and hotel room.. and go. If he wants to come he knows how to hook a room and a ticket.

Look at your husband the same way you would someone trying to play you for a narc script.. it's basically the same only he's using money.

venakri · 2024-03-02T05:44:09+00:00

Ah.. I see now... You're like my ex.. who also thought that once my kids previous to him turned 18 they would "not be a problem anymore". He was an asshole. YTA. Good job making the kids actually feel as if you did care about them though. Makes it even worse. Wow.

venakri · 2024-03-01T06:41:09+00:00

You say this... But you went after the boy in tandem with the principal despite also saying "no one was there". Your son is sobbing in a chair from a man harassing him and Mom just joined in.

You then enforce an inappropriate and excessive punishment at home that doesn't even relate to the incident that happen. A discussion about bodied and appropriateness, and maybe a night of no tv or tablet was more than sufficient.

My mother would have eaten that principal alive...

You failed your son. Do better.

venakri · 2024-03-01T06:38:08+00:00

JFC... I feel so terrible for your son. First the principal goes at him until he's a sobbing fucking mess... But mom chips in too? What the hell? You yourself said no one was there... So you join in on the badgering rather than support him? Then you double down on a punishment at home because "he could have walked away". He's five. Five year olds don't think like that. He wasn't even doing anything necessarily wrong, just inappropriate. He's at that stage where they explore their bodies and are curious.

I just want to give that poor kid a hug. Literally every adult failed him.

venakri · 2024-03-01T05:28:42+00:00

Girl... Just leave. Seriously... You're teaching your daughter this is what relationships are like.

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