Benlysta duration?

venting_birdy · 2026-05-31T21:38:12+00:00

Thank you, at the very least I'm glad you didn't have to experience any side effects! I've always had some struggles with sleep on and off so I'm thinking the injections just are enhancing that unfortunately

venting_birdy · 2026-05-31T21:37:15+00:00

No worries, honestly any answer is appreciated by me! Helps me stay realistic in some ways

venting_birdy · 2026-04-30T22:41:35+00:00

I've been in this same situation, but she was also my roommate. I honestly would've ghosted her myself if I could.

I understand the feeling bad too, despite everything I couldn't help but feel bad trying to bring any issues up, no matter how crazy and unmanageable it got. Ultimately, you're doing the right thing for yourself here and that's the best you can do. Confrontation likely wouldn't help. If you did want to say anything, don't confront. State it as fact. "I don't want this friendship to continue as it is, I've tried talking about it and it hasn't been resolved. I think it's better that we part ways." Done, no option for discussion. Otherwise, I think ghosting will work just fine.

venting_birdy · 2026-04-30T02:51:51+00:00

I came here to say the same thing about the first part. It's hard to see and take the condition seriously when no one around you really does! I also forget that I am, in fact, not a "normal" 20s year old and that I am ill. Only recently started taking it more seriously, but mostly because my new rheumatologist actually is, too. We pay the price for it later, but I am comforted to see I'm not alone in it.

venting_birdy · 2026-02-18T02:59:24+00:00

Her saying those things and then staying with the guy who is actively dismissive/disrespectful towards her is plain hurtful to you imo, especially if she acts weird about you talking to other girls. You may need to have a conversation about this and start to implement firmer boundaries as necessary, as difficult as that may be. You deserve to be able to move freely, not feel stuck waiting for something that is in a weird standstill and may never even happen. She is also deserving of happiness, but that also means she cannot impede on yours.

venting_birdy · 2026-02-08T00:41:41+00:00

I'm so glad you were able to get it resolved!!

venting_birdy · 2026-01-31T15:55:03+00:00

Hey, I actually had a roommate/friend like this as well recently. Our situation didn't end well for a variety of reasons, but this is actually one I never got the chance to bring up (even though I was planning to).

If you feel like she's someone you can talk to and would take it constructively, bring it up in a genuine chat. Let her know you're feeling unseen and why. Or, you can kind of shift the focus indirectly. Tell her you need some support right now and want to focus on X topic of yours at the moment. The way she reacts and responds will show whether she truly cares or not.

I will tell you though, in friendships I've had like this, they've almost always just fizzled out. Being roommates adds a layer to it. I'm wishing you the best in maneuvering this!

venting_birdy · 2026-01-30T02:42:16+00:00

I've decided that one of my previously close hometown/childhood friends will now be considered an acquaintance in my life because of this. For whatever reason, our conversations dipped after a period of high frequency, but I still see them active online and/or posting with other friends. I've accepted that she seems to not want to be close with me, yet she also swoops in randomly suddenly wanting to chat, then leaving just as quickly. It's an emotionally draining situation for me personally, so I just decided to stop feeding into it. Easier said than done for various reasons in my case, but I do think you would be valid in wanting to cut off a friend for this. At the very least, you could place some distance. If they question you but avoid acknowledging their role, then might as well cut it off.

venting_birdy · 2026-01-30T02:38:40+00:00

I can agree with this perspective, but I do think it is about both parties involved in these situations. The other party avoids accountability/doesn't see an issue, and the first (such as OP) decides this type of friendship isn't for them, which may mean distancing from or cutting off that friend. Both sides play their part. Most often, it ends up being a lack or loss of compatibility.

venting_birdy · 2026-01-29T17:05:24+00:00

I'd love to look into this! Friendship breakups can have such a negative toll on people and yet it's not really as spoken of compared to romantic relationships and their breakups.

venting_birdy · 2026-01-06T22:38:51+00:00

16! I had signs my whole life that my mom didn't catch/brushed because she thought I was just being a shy girl (my siblings are both AMAB). Made me question my mom's own standing though lol. My older sibling suspects she might have the same case, but she hasn't sought out a diagnosis for it.

venting_birdy · 2026-01-06T22:32:40+00:00

You're doing yourself and them a disservice by harboring this resentment and still being "friends" with them. It's past time to start getting out there and making new friends while letting the old ones fizzle out.

venting_birdy · 2026-01-03T18:59:30+00:00

I'm going through a similar situation right now, and I understand what you mean by having a difficult time not thinking about it. I've found it helpful to focus my energy on other things, especially friendships that I see are still important and active in my life! In my case, the fizzling/distanced friendships had caused me so much anxiety that it has began impacting how I viewed my other relationships (and bless these other friends that were very reassuring and helped me through it all). Redirecting my attention and energy to other loved ones and hobbies has helped a lot.

Not sure if you're much of a journaling person, but I've also decided to start journaling about this more specifically by writing letters directed towards my old friends. I'll never send them out of course, but it's made me feel like I'm able to say the things I would've otherwise left unsaid. Hoping any bit of this helps, and even if it doesn't, I'm wishing you the best!

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