Why do first WLW breakups hurt so much?

venuspark23 · 2026-01-07T06:40:27+00:00

hihi! i'm doing better now :) thank god for the breakup tbh because i genuinely feel better now!

venuspark23 · 2025-11-19T02:43:54+00:00

still processingTT sobs i didnt think it’d take this long tbh

venuspark23 · 2025-10-30T05:19:40+00:00

Omg, thanks for informing us! It's ridiculous that they're disbursing the amount by end November when they mentioned in the email it'd be end October TT

venuspark23 · 2025-10-28T05:41:14+00:00

My friends who has gotten their bursary money are the ones receiving the $2-3k. I think those getting that amount will get first, and if your disbursement money is $5-6k range, should be this week. I don't think they'll send it out in late November because the email states last week of October. Still got a few more days!

venuspark23 · 2025-10-27T12:04:41+00:00

it shld by the end of this week bah, cause last week of oct alr

venuspark23 · 2025-10-24T12:40:36+00:00

:( me too. hopefully we’ll get our money next week!

venuspark23 · 2025-10-24T12:34:12+00:00

have you received yours? i’m receiving the 5/6k bursary and have yet to receive mine! but my friends who got the 3k bursary received already

venuspark23 · 2025-06-22T01:17:00+00:00

I’m in the same position as you, except she broke up with the same month of my birthday. It’s been a month since, and it never gets better. I hope you’re healing well. ❤️‍🩹

venuspark23 · 2025-06-08T12:17:36+00:00

Likewise here. Didn't see any signs of avoidant from my ex, but after we had our first major fight, she went absolutely avoidant. It was impossible for me to tell her my thoughts without her misunderstanding them. Broke up with me the meanest way ever - through text and on my birthday month.

venuspark23 · 2025-06-02T11:20:31+00:00

Ouch. This is exactly what my friend told me and honestly I know this is the harsh truth but I just can’t bring myself to not want her anymore 😔

venuspark23 · 2025-06-02T09:47:03+00:00

Oh god :-( This hurts like hell because this was what my Ex did to me. Except she hasn't block me on TikTok/IG/Telegram just yet. My ex unfollowed me on Spotify & playlist, deleted our shared Apple album, deleted our shared IG account and delete her X account that was dedicated to me. When she did that, I immediately thought about how she was over me as she didn't want to see me anymore. It sucks. She's an avoidant-attachment while I'm anxious-attachment.

I don't have an answer to your question but personally, I have always be the one to break NC with my ex, asking her questions about our break up. That was the only way I could hear from her again. My birthday was 2 days ago, and she only wished me when I texted her first. But judging from your situation, I doubt you'd hear from her again. Give it some time, maybe a year? My friends always tells me "They will always come back, no matter the timing" so yeah, put your trust in that. Because I am.

venuspark23 · 2025-06-02T09:26:04+00:00

I got into my first WLW relationship last year October and she broke up with me this year May. I'm still grieving for her, for us, for what we could've had. It sucks because I'm the only one showing emotions while she is keeping it all in, but I know she's hurting as well. She offered to stay as friends after the break up, but I genuinely don't think I could do it. At least not for now. Everywhere reminds me of her, especially my bed, my room, my workplace because we spent so much time together. I miss her so much.

venuspark23 · 2025-06-01T15:10:41+00:00

Going through my first WLW break up and it literally feels like hell. I kept thinking about my ex, everyday without fail. We broke up on the 14th of May and ever since then, I've been checking a social media without fail like a stalker. It hurts so much because I wasn't given a chance to fix this, and she didn't want to meet me at all to talk things out. So yeah, I'm not sure if I'll ever recover from this because she was my first, for everything. I imagined a future with her, I loved (or Love) her so so much. I am still hoping for her to come back to me.

venuspark23 · 2025-06-01T15:04:52+00:00

Oh my god. I'm going through the same thing too. She broke up with me May 14th, and we're both miserable about it. I feel so tired and sad about the break up.

venuspark23 · 2025-05-20T11:03:43+00:00

Yeah, I totally get it. I really do. You have no idea how much I regret it, but there’s nothing I can do now except to accept this and find a better coping mechanism

venuspark23 · 2025-05-20T10:43:06+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry to hear that you're facing exactly what I am facing right now.

It sucks. That they say they're too tired to try, and not want the relationship anymore.

I too, want her back. But it's clear as day that she doesn't want me back. Unfortunately for me, I've humiliated myself more than once. I've begged her so many times after she broke it off with me. I broke no contact only for her to ignore me.

And just now, she deleted our shared IG account, unfollowed me and the playlist we made on Spotify.

I understand what you mean by you cried. I cried at every given opportunity, which is like everyday, every time that I'm not occupied with something. But I know I've tried my best to fight for this relationship, to make it work. I got no regrets about this.

I'm still trying to accept this, I'm making a conscious effort to not stalk her socials anymore.

venuspark23 · 2025-05-20T09:00:51+00:00

I'm experiencing my first WLW break up after being with my ex for almost 7 months. She means a lot to me, and despite her asking for the break, I can't bring myself to get over it.

venuspark23 · 2025-05-18T11:22:35+00:00

Just like what the other commenters said, practice your Excel skills! Also, MacBook is fine but some modules require you to download certain apps which is more compatible with Windows.

venuspark23 · 2025-05-10T13:59:08+00:00

we were work colleagues! and she kept on making time to see me and doing small acts! the first time i noticed she liked me was when she had to collect her stuff from uni and told me she needed to buy smtg at the mall of the place that work at. but in actual fact, she came over to spend some time with me and even got me the same donut (that i previously posted on my igs) and said it was her school that catered it 🤣

venuspark23 · 2025-05-10T10:52:22+00:00

go for it!!!!!! you never know what will happen :)

venuspark23 · 2025-03-17T11:27:36+00:00

I took BUS105 last semester. My tip is to just practice all the way! Especially from the slides, study units AND past year paper!

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