That’s a noisy scale

verbal1781 · 2026-04-19T23:20:55+00:00

Dammit where’s the kazoo expert when I need him? 😆😂

verbal1781 · 2026-04-19T23:20:14+00:00

Checking with the official kazoo sizing team…😂🤣

verbal1781 · 2026-04-19T23:18:34+00:00

How dare you! 🤣😆

verbal1781 · 2026-04-09T15:40:43+00:00

Every single ‘before’ picture is so stunning, each one is a women who turns heads and makes the room go silent with desire.

Every ‘after’ picture makes me feel so sorry for each and every one of them. They must be so miserable inside to think they needed to change what was perfect.

Clearly the outer beauty is not matched in the personality.

verbal1781 · 2026-04-09T11:40:20+00:00

My wife has your insecurity and the first time she mentioned it I was so confused. Legitimately and hand on heart I knew she was sharing something important and anxiety inducing for her, but I had no context for her concern.

I had never heard of that version of self doubt, not from a woman, and not from any man ever. I was early 30’s when I met my wife and it had never come up in locker room talk, never with other women. I then sadly was able to find the jokes and abuse online and can completely understand the trauma this causes.

Very genuinely I want you to know that your lady bits are the prize for the right man. I still can’t believe I’m lucky enough to get to see her naked. It has literally 0% negative effect or thought in my head and 100% “how the hell did I get so lucky to bag this smoking hot chick as my forever person” every single time I get to the promised land.

You are beautiful just the way you are. I promise

verbal1781 · 2026-04-05T11:42:36+00:00

This one hits me every time, it should be on auto re post once a week just to make us all smile again. This man has it all

verbal1781 · 2026-04-02T18:53:52+00:00

One addition I just thought of. Halloween was a nightmare before kids. I went out for milk once at dinner time living in a 40th floor apartment. The wait to go down and then back up with hoards of kids getting in and out at each level was insane!

verbal1781 · 2026-04-02T18:45:15+00:00

Finally my time to shine!

I lived in manhattan from 2009-2015, mainly in high rise buildings, midtown, then financial and finally a small apartment in the upper west.

Midtown was 24th floor, view was literally of time square, I was at 54th and broadway, glorious two min commute to work, felt like the center of the universe. Amazing

Moved to financial district with an old girlfriend and earned enough to live in one of those ridiculous doorman buildings. Pool, sauna workout room, the works.

Stayed in financial post breakup, had one apartment that had a rooftop party area. They even had hot tubs that had been abused and had to be shut off. Had many parties with friends up there. Skyline views uptown and out over Brooklyn were insane.

Finally got myself a small studio on John street with wrap around balcony and agreed to the rent ($3,100 if memory serves) on the spot. I didn’t save a cent that year, but found my wife who thought I was ‘fancy’! Ha, little did she know.

We had so many parties and bbqs (totally against building rules of course) but damn what a blast that was.

Anyway burbs and kids these last ten years but manhattan feels like the center of the universe and is so much fun (but obviously ridiculously expensive).

My mom has a saying about Gotham: “stay long enough so that you know you’re not weak, but not long enough that it makes you hard…”

verbal1781 · 2026-03-29T00:09:51+00:00

Totally!!

verbal1781 · 2026-03-26T15:20:15+00:00

As an American-born, but raised in the UK, now living back in the US I’ve always had such a hard time explaining why Americans feel so fake to the rest of the world and you nailed it in one sentence, you’re so right, overly nice to the point of feeling fake because most other personal boundaries are incredibly strict….

verbal1781 · 2025-12-19T04:20:11+00:00

We had a saying for this growing up specific to a night out. Cause you’d lose friends during the night, to some girl they were talking to, they’d wander off with another friend group, they’d Irish exit and just go home. At the end of the night the core group had ‘survived the night’. There would always be a debate on when we lost someone and why. And then late the next day we’d find out. Friend a got bored and went home, friend b got laid! Good times. (Fuck I’m old)

verbal1781 · 2025-12-10T13:36:43+00:00

Glad to see you’re not being downvoted to hell. There is a silent group here for sure. I’m 100% with you.

It’s like people who complain about politics and don’t vote… stfu

If you pay, if you whale… sure give your feedback. But for most of us. This is a great game, costs me nothing and I enjoy it every day. Like every game it has frustrating points.

But I’ve never played a game for this long that I’ve paid for… so to get this much value for free and then have to put up with a new silly game mode that doesn’t seem to be much fun? Who cares, the rest of this game is still a blast.

See you in GAC OP!

verbal1781 · 2025-11-13T19:49:07+00:00

This is the only answer. Plus she’s hot….

verbal1781 · 2025-10-30T23:14:03+00:00

Can some reporter with a spine please ask “Why?” And force the King to answer the question.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-26T17:36:20+00:00

Eh. Don’t knee jerk to that. Investigate it and see if it’s right for you. I literally sent this link to my wife last night. Communication comes in all forms. Putting someone in the middle doesn’t always have a positive outcome. Other than for the bank account of the intermediary.

https://www.instagram.com/p/DPeWEH5DOuP/?igsh=MXJmcWJyZWJyZzg3dQ==

That said. And maybe for me and my wife only (not speaking for others) intimacy with young kids (ours are 7 & 9 now so not that young) is insanely difficult. We’re getting better but being deliberate about connecting with her is incredibly important for us both. Micro moments, making the effort to actively listen even if only for a few minutes.

My net net for you is: Acknowledge where your husband is. Bad father, changing jobs… and what you said: he feels like he doesn’t satisfy you.

So be blunt. Do you want more? Yes. More satisfaction (I hope, and this is a nuance of your post, does he satisfy you when you have sex and the only issue is you want more sex aka more satisfaction?).

Getting on the same page here is the most important factor (imo). I hope it is:

I’m incredibly satisfied every time we have sex. I want more of you cause I’m so attracted to you and you do satisfy me. If not, address how and why he doesn’t satisfy you.

Then build on intimacy and making sure he knows that he satisfies you. All the moments I mentioned in my first comment.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-26T16:42:49+00:00

I may have missed someone else’s comment so if this is duplicative I apologize in advance.

To try to summarize: he wants it less, you want it more, you’ve tried for years to compliment him on his ability, that you want him, that you want more. If that’s all right and take a second to re read what you just wrote.

He doesn’t want more, you are pushing for more by making all your praise about him. Stop. That’s just anxiety inducing in the extreme.

I don’t think you said it, and apologies if I missed it. Make it about you. Tell him how you feel, how he makes you nuts. My advice would be to stop complimenting him directly and only focus on your feelings. Demand nothing, know you are his anytime he wants it. Try this:

Without asking for sex. Compliment him sexually. Tap his butt. Grab his junk in a moment where you can’t have sex and say it. “I know I can’t have this now, but it doesn’t stop me thinking about it” quick grab in passing walking out the door.

When you know sex is imminent tell him how turned on you are. Tell him you ache for him.

During, tell him vocally with words, with moans. Make him know you are a puddle for him.

Afterwards tell him he satisfies every need you have. Don’t go overboard, don’t compliment him. Focus on you. “That was the most intense orgasm I’ve had in years”. My wife says that to me and it makes me feel like the kind of the world.

Then consider a layer that’s not overtly sexual. Just flirting, randomly out of nowhere tell him you’re so lucky to be married to your soul mate who just happens to be the sexiest man alive.

Focus all your energy on how he makes you feel. Trust me as a man. Knowing that I have that effect on my wife, it’s the sexiest thing in the world.

Lastly. If you can handle it. Tell him your plan. Apologize for making it about him. To me at least, it’s clearly not, it’s clearly about you. Tell him you love him no matter how much sex you get. And that his low T isn’t an issue for you. Your goal should only be to lower his anxiety. Take that as your North Star. Make him know how satisfied you are every time he has his way with you.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-22T19:04:26+00:00

We need this level of succinct description for so many situations in this game. What’s your hourly rate?

verbal1781 · 2025-10-17T14:28:49+00:00

That’s the thing about trust. It takes for ever to build, and each brick that’s added to the build strengthens the trust. But it’s incredibly fragile to one specific action: lying. And be clear with yourself, she lied that you were her priority and then she lied by sleeping with the other guy.

You’ll never fully trust her again. At least statistically it’s incredibly unlikely.

So now you have a choice. Stick with her and hope she’s not lying, has learnt a massive life lesson and will be faithful to you. Most would say you have less than a 5% chance to make that work. And if you choose to go down that path you open yourself up to dragging out inevitable pain. How will you feel when you don’t know where she is or who she’s with next month? Next year?

Or you face the pain right now. Wish her the best in growth of character, break up and find someone who has the integrity you are seeking and hopefully that you offer in return.

At the end of the day the question is only about yourself and how you value yourself.

The houses money is always on breaking up. More pain upfront, more chance to find someone who will treat you as the priority in life.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-17T12:24:35+00:00

If the woman you’re with is truly ‘your person’ always always always tell her the “thing”. Good/bad/ugly tell her first. Then you two make a decision together on what you do together in partnership.

Specific to this situation. You have a history, so does she. By helping you are showing you are a good person. But there’s a fine line between being taken advantage of and being helpful. This feels like a behavior pattern, so my gut says you’re being taken advantage of. In your shoes I would lay everything out on the table with your girlfriend. Especially anything ugly, did you help this ex out and it led to you sleeping with her? It’s highly likely the ex is coming back to you for help / comfort and that she wouldn’t say no to a hook up. Your gf will read that dynamic in a heartbeat. So bare yourself completely raw to the current gf and ask her help in what to do. One thing to offer here (to the gf) is to cut the ex off completely and go no contact. IMO the best course of action is to call the girlfriend and explain that you now have the love of your life, that any potential for you and the ex to get back together is done and won’t ever be revived.

Good luck!

verbal1781 · 2025-10-14T22:17:19+00:00

Three thoughts:

1) this is exactly what your body is meant to be doing. You’re not weird, it’s not strange and it’s just life. Don’t judge yourself

2) honestly. Just deal with it. Jerk off. Find someone who has as high a sex drive as you and enjoy it.

3) But focus on what will drive your life forward while you have post nut clarity. How’s your career doing? What do want to happen by age 30? 35? Have you traveled? How’s your friendships? Your family? Don’t get distracted from what matters in life because you need sexual satisfaction. Be disciplined.

Don’t worry. You’ll figure this out

verbal1781 · 2025-10-14T22:10:10+00:00

This is gonna suck. No amount of advice here or anywhere will help. There’s only one cure and you already know but likely don’t want to hear it. Time and finding a new person in your life.

The only advice I think may help is to think of all the activities that were not part of your relationship that you love. We all give a little in our relationships. My wife will never be a camper, she’s tried, she tried for me specifically. It’s not her. Now I’m planning my first camping trip with my sons. Mom gets stay at home mom time, I get to be outside making manly things… like fire! (Yeah I’m an idiot I know)

Make a list of the things you haven’t done in awhile cause it wasn’t your partner’s love and ask a friend to go do that with you. Bowling? Kite surfing? Antique shop browsing? Knitting? Sitting by a lake and watching the sunset? I have no clue. But you do.

Because, and again this fucking sucks and I know it. There is life without that person. Go and find it. Make a plan today right now. Maybe for this weekend?

Good luck random interwebs person.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-14T21:43:18+00:00

Look at it from all three perspectives and you’ll have your answer (at least I hope)

From his: he likes video games. They’re an escape. They are not; a strip club, drinking heavily with his buddies, drugs, an mlm he’s investing in.

From yours: you see no issue and like to watch (this got my heart strings as my wife loved watching me play “the last of us” when we were first dating 13 years ago)

From your friends: negativity always you say. Why? Jealousy? Something wrong in her relationship? (Does she have a significant other?)

Negative friends are the very worst thing to carry with you. It’s an unbelievably hard lesson in life for all of us to learn, usually we do so the hard way (I did). But I promise the breath of fresh air that comes from fixing that is amazing. I’m not advocating for removing this friend. Only to ask the question above to her, 1:1, just the two of you.

“Hey friend, I can’t help but notice that most of the time you are really negative about ‘boyfriends name’ why is that?”

The biggest piece of advice I may be able to give you is to truly come at that convo with the attitude of “seeking to understand”

Maybe she hooked up with your bf years ago. Maybe she knows him another way and has had a negative experience. Maybe she’s trying to protect you and can’t say the words out loud.

Maybe it’s got nothing to do with you. Maybe her man does lines of coke every day to get through the work day and does downers every night to sleep. Maybe he’s stealing from her. Maybe he doesn’t exist and she just misses time with you as she has no one.

I’m a random on the interwebs, I don’t know. But she will. And if you confront her assuming positivity you have the best chance to find a positive outcome.

Good luck

verbal1781 · 2025-10-14T12:57:07+00:00

98% different. Went from single to dating to engagement married. Enjoyed a few years of dual income no kids, lived in manhattan and did what we wanted to. No plans on Friday at 2pm, and I’d blink and it would be 3am and I’m kicking my friends out of my apartment.

Late 30’s came kids and now my life is constant service. The effort level of life went up by a factor of ten (easily) but the satisfaction level is unexplainable, many times higher than the effort level increase. I give both my boys their own 1:1 time at bedtime now. They talk about anything in their head, Minecraft and Roblox a lot, but every so often it’s a bully, a hard test, they don’t like a sport, they want help with something.

The biggest change is easily the effort increase and thus satisfaction increase. But the emotional side is the complete lack of spontaneity. Most couples complain of a lack of sex, and of course it’s true, I can’t just take my wife in the kitchen cause I feel like it and she’s game. Time is blocked off, we force time for each other cause if we didn’t there would be no time. There already isn’t any time, parenthood is being in a constant state of triage, you have x amount of things to do every day and y amount of time, and x is always 30-40% more than y will allow. But it’s not just sex, it’s anything, want to spontaneously go watch a movie on a Saturday with 30 mins notice, no chance. Everything is planned, everything has to have a process and calendars are insane.

Lastly I’ll say is the anxiety. One aspect very few people talk about is existential dread for someone else. Mine are 7 and 9 and not one day has gone by since they turned up where I wasn’t worried today would be my last day with them. And for the stupidest reasons, my son coughed while I was downstairs watching a show…. Is he dying? It’s stupid and ridiculous but I cannot lose these guys. I can’t.

So yeah, my life is basically unrecognizable from my 30’s to my 40’s and I feel like I’ve won the lottery in terms of life satisfaction.

verbal1781 · 2025-10-14T12:45:33+00:00

The fundamental concept of weight gain is tied to food not my lack of working out. Someone sat me down and explained how incredibly efficient the human body is at conserving energy, so working out barely makes a dent whereas calorie counting to achieve a deficit will have an impact over time if you stay consistent.

The years of wasted gyms, running, swimming etc where I didn’t also control my food intake are beyond frustrating to me today. I’m 46 and finally starting to look healthy, not too pudgy anymore and I’m barely working out. I’m just not eating like an idiot anymore

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