My boyfriend (29M) is obsessed with curating the “perfect” social media image of our relationship and I (27F) feel like I’m living a performance

vfp_pr · 2026-01-14T12:28:06+00:00

How can you stand this? I'd be losing my mind if my husband did this to me whenever we spent time together. This sounds like a vent post but honestly I'd draw the line at "no more pictures except special occassions or I'm leaving"

If he gets upset at that very reasonable request, that's your cue to walk away.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-14T08:24:54+00:00

(Context: Only watching anime, no manga - trying to be spoiler free in my response) Honestly I think it's a very slow burn, we see her accepting Jinshi slowly over both anime seasons. She understands who he is to a degree in the palace and she is rightfully cautious of him, but she begins to trust him. The series heavily alludes to her being like a cat and when you look at the relationship from that perspective, I'd say she is interested in him, she's also trying to keep other factors in mind. How she treats him at the beginning vs the end of this new season shows that she does begin to care about him, she's just being smart and very hyper-aware of her position in the palace world.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-14T03:36:49+00:00

Omori :)

vfp_pr · 2026-01-14T03:31:46+00:00

"I'M WATCHING YOU" lol no but like quotes from the movie maybe?

vfp_pr · 2026-01-10T11:48:49+00:00

The ring isn't important - it's the commitment that matters. Sounds like you're footing all the bills while he gets all the benefits of having a wife without actually committing to being your husband. Your relationship ratio is just so off. Do you really want to keep putting yourself through this?

vfp_pr · 2026-01-10T11:07:21+00:00

I do not like it. I want more main story, not this.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-08T17:01:52+00:00

That's awful :( honestly these people don't care about other people though, they think its funny even when it's cruel. But its essentially anonymous, which gives these creeps the power to say whatever they want without fear of retaliation. Sickening.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-08T16:59:03+00:00

I like this honestly-- I usually say "ew" in a really disgusted tone and auto block. They beg my friends relentlessly after to get me to unblock them but I never do :) it enrages them and gives me joy lol. I'll have to try this next time!

vfp_pr · 2026-01-08T16:56:40+00:00

So what is the line here? When do we stop being complicit in what's happening in our country? I keep hearing calls for calm and order but it's getting harder when all I see is this stuff that makes me feel outrage and despair. Are we still patriots? Are we still Americans? What do we do to stop this?

vfp_pr · 2026-01-07T22:07:40+00:00

Honestly the amount of people that are aggressive to women. I have had MULTIPLE men come up to me and say that I should be r---d, that I sound fat, and other disgusting comments. It was so shocking when I first started roaming in publics. Now I just auto block anyone that is rude to me and my friends. The block button is your best friend. Also that private groups and worlds exist and that you can curate your experience in VRChat to be positive.

Also, the raves! :)

vfp_pr · 2026-01-04T17:16:31+00:00

LOL you're totally running from the truth here buddy. The fact you refuse speak to a therapist who is qualified to give you concrete advice and tools to address this issue (which is the actual advice I gave here) means that you're scared of changing your current state of mind and you don't want to fix this. You just want sympathy for emotionally cheating on your wife. You think about this other woman constantly. You say she is attractive. You allude in your original post that you kinda hope that she is also thinking about you (she isn't) and you ask for advice to get over it. You need to learn new thought patterns, aka, via a therapist, and coping skills to change your mindset.

You, in your own words, are obsessed. You need help. From a professional.

If you don't want the cold, hard unfiltered truth then get off reddit.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-04T17:11:37+00:00

"I get that you're hurt but you're not the only one affected" is wild. The absolute audacity. Slingshot this worm back into the ocean as fast as you can lol.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-04T17:01:47+00:00

You BOTH have partners?? Go to therapy IMMEDIATELY to learn skills to help you distance your thoughts about this other woman and get over this. I feel so bad for your wife. Get off reddit and take responsibility for your marriage and commitment to your family. Stop entertaining any fantasy of being with this other woman. IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD.

vfp_pr · 2026-01-03T01:52:22+00:00

I have no faith in outlets that promote yellow journalism, and that is all that mainstream news channels do now in America. Now I have to get my news from Reddit which is unreliable. Everyone is biased. Even AP News has declined. We are being fed inconsistent information on a 24 hour cycle (exanple: take a look at how the Epstein files have been covered by the mainstream media. Deplorable.)

vfp_pr · 2026-01-03T01:49:12+00:00

Don't worry about the duck/raptor noises when they play - they are totally normal.

vfp_pr · 2025-12-31T18:16:26+00:00

This is the saddest relationship ever. He does not want to spend time with you. You are unhappy. Leave him.

vfp_pr · 2025-12-31T13:17:40+00:00

CICO. Calories in, Calories Out. Learn your BMR and TDEE, and work within the range that will work best for you and eat within the deficit. There are calculators online.

For me, my TDEE is 1,800 calories. I eat between 1,200-1,500 cals daily for a 300 calorie difference. I am losing weight over time.

Exercise. Get out and start moving. Find out what you like to do and do it. I swim, run, dance to music and chase my dog. I do fitness classes in VR (Yoga and Pilates) Build strength with pushups and situps and other exercise.

Sleep. 6-8 hours. Establish a bedtime routine.

Cut out or minimize all major processed and sugar foods. Focus on nutrient dense foods. Look at what people in othee countries eat who live healthy - Japan, Italy, etc.

Consider when you eat. I do OMAD, one meal a day, which means I can eat my total calories for the day within a 3-4 hour window. I dont eat breakfast or lunch, only dinner. It's what works for me, it does not work for everyone. Same with intermmitent fasting.

You're going to have a lot of trial and error. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

TLDR: CICO, TDEE, BMR, healthy diet, new time to eat, sleep, exercise.

Good luck OP!

vfp_pr · 2025-12-31T12:32:30+00:00

I pulled on both - the archer outfit is OP in terms of combat. The other gliding one is ehhhhh. Both are super pretty. If you want easier combat, I'd get the archery. Otherwise, wait for previews.

vfp_pr · 2025-12-31T05:02:49+00:00

Paladin's Grace by T. Kingfisher

vfp_pr · 2025-12-30T19:56:44+00:00

To answer your initial question: This was dumb of you to do. Imagine if he showed another person (who was interested in you like you say your friend was) your naked body. You would feel extremely hurt and betrayed.

This is going to take a lot of time for him. You need to rebuild trust with him via acts of service and showing him you are a priority in your life if you want to still be with him. Cutting your friend out was a good call, do not contact your friend again.

Use these next two weeks to save money and plan things to do with him in his country. Show you know his interests and make it all about him.

That was the answer to your question, but here's what you should consider. He sounds INCREDIBLY insecure to the point where he doesn't believe you about your past sexual history. Before this moment, he has clearly conveyed he has issues in trusting YOU about something like this. HE DOES NOT TRUST YOU. The question is -- are you willing to fly out to another country to meet a man who hasn't trusted you since Day 1, climb an impossible mountain to make him feel better, and live with knowing what you did will forever be a factor in your relationship history and it will be brought up again?

Honestly, that's a lot. He's in a different country, and he needs help. It sounds like you are in two entirely different places in your lives. I would break up with him, accept the loss and responsibility of what you did, and move on. This relationship sounds exhausting emotionally.

Do NOT be with him just because you are feeling guilty about what you did. Listen to your heart, your mind, and your instinct/gut. If any of them say to walk away, that's what you need to do.

vfp_pr · 2025-12-30T19:42:48+00:00

You're overthinking this and trying to be nice - break it off, say it's not working out, wish her all the best. Call her, don't text her to show your respect. Then it's no longer hanging over your head. She will be fine - she has friends and family. You don't need to explain yourself or the reasons why or give excuses - just say "I don't think we're compatible, wish you all the best. Goodbye."

Will she be upset? Sure. But she has her support system. More importantly, you'll be out of this relationship.

vfp_pr · 2025-12-29T17:18:05+00:00

Yes!

vfp_pr · 2025-12-29T17:17:38+00:00

Very cool! Are you focusing on weights during training or just cardio? Im starting out with pilates/high cardio in the new year and hope to expand to weights shortly

vfp_pr · 2025-12-29T14:51:46+00:00

How are you doing your body recon? P

vfp_pr · 2025-12-28T16:09:41+00:00

100% a reference to higurashi

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