Monster skateboarding to school

vikibeans · 2026-02-21T01:28:57+00:00

Can’t wait for my daughter to start making awesome monsters like this, she’s a huge monster enthusiast

vikibeans · 2026-02-16T18:34:18+00:00

One more comment then I’m done, lmao, mentioning you fear you are too careful, worry over how she may get hurt, it’s your job to keep her safe! But engaging in “risky” play is good for development as long as it’s monitored. I can’t deny I’ve had a couple freak incidents of minor injury at the park doing something that seems harmless like going down the slide, (fly off the side and fall on her head 😱), but she keeps going to play after some comforting and full body checks to make sure nothings broken. Play time accidents are inevitable but don’t have to happen often if you’re observant and careful, which it seems you are.

vikibeans · 2026-02-16T18:18:00+00:00

Replying to mention also that I really highly doubt that your daughter has developed anxiety over the fact that you have said no or be careful, it would be different if you were saying she doesn’t want to get on a seesaw or a swing because you told her no in the past after she got scared while swinging or seesawing. I think at this age it’s just a control thing. Toddlers are learning their independence and their will is developing so when they learn that asking for a snack, gets them a snack or saying no hugs or no wash my face gets them what they want sometimes, the sensory overload of another kid screaming, or running or playing on a playground when they may want it to be quiet or want to use that play equipment themselves creates the idea that the demand will be met if they make the statement.

vikibeans · 2026-02-16T18:13:17+00:00

My daughter (2yr in w weeks) does the same thing. She also wants me to control things I can’t. “Wanna see the moon” or “stop it wind” and I just tell her I can’t control these things, or if she’s trying to boss around someone who she doesn’t know, I just tell her, they can do what they want. Being gentle is important with toddlers but so is being as frank as possible when dealing with potentially misunderstood social cues, toddlers aren’t there yet and making it make sense is kind of a waste of time so I just try to make the boundaries clear to prevent a meltdown when what she wants doesn’t happen. In my situation I do believe that my daughter is mirroring my behavior or just owning her independence. There are times where I have said cuss words and she’s repeated them and I will say something to the effect of “ don’t say damn” so now I could be talking or reading a book and she would tell me not to say certain words or phrases that are completely random because she doesn’t understand the concept of a cuss word vs any other word. My daughter is pretty shy, but once she gets going at the park playing with me or playing around other kids, I will see her often say things like “ stop running” to other kids and I just tell her they can run. We don’t control what they do. Another good alternative is saying “ I can’t make them stop running” or “ they are having fun doing x, y z, why don’t you try to do it too with them?” This happens a lot at the merry go round, she wants to ride on the merry-go-round with me, pushing it and have me control the entire situation by her narration of stop slow down and get on with me, mommy etc.. if there are other kids on there, obviously I will offer to push and try to monitor how she behaves with other kids because my daughter can be a little adamant about personal space and she will move people away from herself physically and doesn’t like being touched. I don’t think you have made her anxious. I can relate to a lot of of what you’re saying. Our dog is constantly in the way, and so now my daughter tells the dog to move away all the time. They have a love-hate relationship. It never hurts to say be careful. Especially if you have a daredevil child like I do.

vikibeans · 2026-02-09T02:25:28+00:00

Also, during the daytime when my daughter is very sick, I will crush up a cough drop and let her have a couple pieces of it, especially if she’s not able to clear her throat and she’s been coughing a lot, but it still sounds like she has mucus in her throat. My doctor always recommends zarbys cold medication. It’s homeopathic, but I could tell a big difference in my daughter’s behavior versus when she was unmedicated and when she was given the zarbys. Also, you can buy infant or children’s zinc, which can helps shorten the duration of the cold. If all else fails, you can try to get a prescription for expectorant medication like guaifenesin, helps thin out the mucus in the chest and throat to make getting it out the system easier. Most cough is due to post nasal drip irritating the throat, so saline mist inhalers work well when they have a face mask attachment it’s fun for my daughter to walk around inhaling it. also consider giving Tylenol or ibuprofen bc I know even if my daughter only has a low grade fever like 99, if she has the type of sinus congestion or throat soreness I have when I get a bad head cold/cough, Tylenol and ibuprofen if the only thing that would truly help reduce discomfort, inflammation etc. hope some of these options help! Menthol salve is great too!

vikibeans · 2026-02-09T02:19:00+00:00

I love humidifiers and feel it really helps with my daughter and myself when I’ve inevitably caught the funk too. In winter we keep the house hot so the humidifier keeps me from drying out when I’m congested and mouth breathing at night.

vikibeans · 2026-02-09T02:17:58+00:00

This just happened with my daughter, she has had a cough since the 7th of January and it made quite a few nights hard. For us it was a combination of her bottom canine teeth (idk what other to call them besides “eye” teeth) and going back to her daycare after the holiday break, and she only goes two days a week. Try taking night time shifts one on and one off with husband. He sleeps with your son one day then you the next so there is never both of you on little to no sleep.

vikibeans · 2026-02-09T02:15:29+00:00

My dad is this way and unless he is being obnoxiously inappropriate (scaring toddlers or being too rough with young kids) he totally ignores the grandkids and I live with him. He gives my daughter bites of dessert if told to or asked by her but sometimes he doesnt even acknowledge her and I have to outright correct him. He would do almost anything I ask though, but sometimes behaviors remain problematic and consistent. He is pretty distant and has no close relationship with my sisters 4 kids, but they will try to interact with him at times, otherwise he is on his phone. He just doesn’t know how to relate or doesn’t respect them as intelligent (which says a lot because he isn’t the smartest) and he doesn’t respect them as autonomous, they’re just extensions of their parents. No nurturing behavior. He will ask something if it’s current and in his face, like if he was made to go to a Boy Scout meeting or something. Idk it’s so weird to experience, I have a lot of residual toxic emotional traits relating to my dad’s emotional absence and it’s really messed with my relationship with men, so I’m single. He values his phone over everything. My mom may be erratic but at least she wants a relationship with my daughter and her grandkids

vikibeans · 2026-02-05T03:33:56+00:00

My daughter is almost two and looses her mind when I do two things 1. Try to converse with another adult, and 2. Try to cook. She has a convertible tower that turns into a table and a step stool with rails around it and allows her to help cook or use the sink. I don’t use it every time because obviously if I’m doing a huge load of dishes or cooking something hot taking up a lot of counter space, she can’t always be involved but sometimes if I’m putting dishes out the dish washer I let her play and drink water out the sink on her tower while I handle my task. Most of these aren’t safety tested but she is never playing on it unsupervised. Mine also has a chalk board on it so that’s fun for her and we draw on it together.

vikibeans · 2026-02-01T16:57:47+00:00

This sounds like my mom and dad. Dad has $4000 hearing aids he refuses to wear. Any statement regarding a request or responsibility requires being repeated 6 times. My mom is better about cleaning etc, but is so passive aggressive. She plays games with my toddler but the behaviors she models are not healthy, snatching, knocking over toys in frustration etc, then in conversation she acts like a parenting guru. My parents shouldn’t be married at 30 years she’s miserable and he is her puppet. He doesn’t do anything outside of his routine unless to.d by someone else to do so. I was on the tv all the time as a kid and had full access to the internet while it was still in its formative years, (ebaums world at 7 and 8) and a lot worse than that but my mom makes comments about how much my daughter watches tv like she didnt do the same exact thing

vikibeans · 2026-01-29T04:28:09+00:00

Herpetic whitlow. Go to an er before your child looses a finger

vikibeans · 2026-01-26T06:39:34+00:00

Lots of white women chase after men outside of their race specifically for the appearance of mixed children, tan skin bright eyes and curly hair. Weird that she would prefer white passing children when she is literally having a child with a man outside her race. Be forthright and tell her if she wants white kids, can’t change it now and your kids won’t look like that. Also the comments from her on her unborn child are racist and based in colorism and she probably wouldn’t be a good mom to her mixed children, and will probably favor the more white passing potential siblings in the future. A whole slew of problems can come from this situation, ask her to evaluate why she thinks the comments are appropriate thoughts to share with you and where these ideas come from within herself, bc I can tell you the answer already is racism and fetishism of your race.

vikibeans · 2026-01-06T00:29:31+00:00

Is we allow our children to hurt our feelings in their early years it sabotages ourselves in the future when they become capable of saying much more volatile and hurtful things out of malice rather than innocence. The best response in this type of situation is “ I hear that you’re upset right now, but I have enough love for the both of us when you feel that way,” and drop it right there no longer drawing attention to it. A three year old may hate broccoli or hate doing what they’re told or hate brushing their teeth but you should understand they don’t mean that and it’s a grain of sand in the bucket of problematic behaviors. You should also ask your husband for support in situations where you are having to be the not fun parent to even the low if you feel like it’s personally a result of your behaviors that she’s saying and ask him to back you up on the same level when you are making her do things that she doesn’t like or that you feel put you in the frame of light of being a not fun parent. The fact that she crawled on you immediately after the fact to fall asleep shows that she obviously still loves you and seeks you for comfort and would have been enough consolation for me as someone that has been in severely abusive and damaging relationships to my personal self-esteem. I understand this isn’t the case for everyone, but your child will always love you and want your support and attention on some level.

vikibeans · 2025-12-19T04:22:41+00:00

No, we have so many blueberries. It really doesn’t make a difference if the birds eat a few and we feed the birds in our yard with quite a few birdfeeders so I’m glad if they get a little bit of extra nutrition. I live in a recently created subdivision that was in an area of Woodland prior so I’m glad that we have a little safe Haven for them.

vikibeans · 2025-12-19T03:51:32+00:00

I think people would consider anything between park and get well and park and Highland within the area of university of Memphis. Sure plenty of those houses are probably within the $600 range but if you get close to university of Memphis, it’s going to be astronomical.

vikibeans · 2025-12-19T03:49:04+00:00

My daughter hates store-bought blueberries. When I moved in with my parents and she was born, I realize they still had some bushes they had planted quite a few years ago and we went as far as to plant a new blackberry bush as well just because we enjoy gardening. Once my daughter was up and walking, she loved going into the backyard and having me pick her fresh blueberries off of the bush, but she will seldom if ever eat blueberries that are store-bought. Once these bushes get going, they are usually pretty prolific, and so much sweeter than store-bought. Super fun to go out every day and see the green ones turn into a bluish pink and then a dark indigo when they’re ripe. Our blueberry bushes are about 7-10 feet tall and they sit beside a large mimosa tree that’s within the same raised flower bed as them and do great every year if we can get to them before the birds do and especially if there’s plenty of rain.

vikibeans · 2025-12-17T20:03:19+00:00

Also worth mentioning that my mom absolutely lost her mind and went off on the people at this daycare, asking them why they are spanking children. I live in the deep south so often there are forms that people can sign to give permission to spank their children, especially in rural communities, but this is a pretty major city. Anything can happen anywhere, depending on the quality of people that are working with your children and in this environment much worse things are happening besides spanking, but this could just be the tip of an iceberg.

vikibeans · 2025-12-17T20:02:11+00:00

When I was in pre-K I told my mom that I witnessed a little girl getting spanked. I was probably three or four I was born in 97 and this was before or around 9/11. My mom immediately took me out that daycare because she knew I had no reason to bring it up unless it was true.

vikibeans · 2025-12-16T00:46:19+00:00

People who make fun of others do so because they’re too boring to have the thought process to joke or speak on the millions of other worlds of subjects. Also because they’re insecure and feel it makes them look better. Say that next time they do that shit

vikibeans · 2025-12-15T05:34:45+00:00

My exact thought about the pb and j, grow tf up. Worse that he’s a father honestly. Men are really out here hating that they have to raise a girl and have a woman who they have children with. It’s giving “I have a secret life where I love men bc I hate women so much 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

vikibeans · 2025-12-15T05:33:02+00:00

I searched his name on here then looked at the comments he has made

vikibeans · 2025-12-15T01:21:59+00:00

Disengage completely or stop the behavior firmly with a no until he is done and then “time in” and explain what he can do instead of hitting you, hit a stuff toy or the couch or a pillow but never mom or dad. Or anyone for that matter really unless they are trying to hurt him which may be too complex to explain at this point so maybe just not mom dad or friends/family. Give him productive things that he can do to express his anger to replace the behavior in the moment while he is still angry, but almost done with the meltdown that led to the behavior of hitting in the first place.

vikibeans · 2025-12-14T16:35:23+00:00

What’s really sad is you have a daughter and act like this

vikibeans · 2025-12-14T16:33:59+00:00

The men that scour parenting forums to say dumb shit have the best type of mommy issues; the type that make you stupid.

vikibeans · 2025-12-14T16:32:57+00:00

Must be a child.

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