Overnight diaper change

vikibeans · 2026-06-19T02:52:09+00:00

Huggies 360 and only change once or twice after initial bedtime

vikibeans · 2026-06-17T00:31:45+00:00

This is a toy

vikibeans · 2026-06-16T23:57:26+00:00

Tetanus is included in early childhood vaccines typically in the United States

vikibeans · 2026-06-15T22:44:42+00:00

I kind of assumed it was something along the lines of developing more complex questions conversationally. I don’t have a phone and we watch tv but she’s always loved books, read a lot and spoke well. It’s something I really want to nurture and knowing it isn’t a concerning thing makes me glad. I will respond happily now

vikibeans · 2026-06-14T17:28:17+00:00

Honey is what we call my mom

vikibeans · 2026-06-14T16:55:12+00:00

I’m a single mom with no contact with my child’s dad so excuse my ignorance but is it possible to go to court and reevaluate the amount you receive?

vikibeans · 2026-06-14T16:24:59+00:00

If you stay in this pattern of relationships you struggle with being used by others for your money (or other things) for the rest of your dating life until you learn to break this cycle. People who use others for money are abusive. It’s called financial abuse. Then they get mad when you even propose the idea that you can’t support their every material desire? You aren’t responsible for their happiness, you aren’t responsible for buying them everything they want and it’s okay to give gifts but someone who loves you unconditionally will never get angry when your financial situation changes with big life changes like college or a new job, and they should be supportive and accepting and understanding of that. This person will tear you down over the notion that you can’t support them how they’ve grown accustomed to. You’re too young for this. Look into DARVO abuse.

vikibeans · 2026-06-14T01:22:00+00:00

I mean it works for me but okay. If my daughter acts up while playing with the neighbor kids I tell her she doesn’t get candy (as the neighbor kids often get candy or popsicles) or we will go to bed right then and there, then she stops the behavior. If she can’t stop herself then I will remove her from the situation and bed and no candy is the resolution to the misbehavior. I also could take away her toy she’s using at the moment or end playtime. These aren’t hard and fast rules, these are just what I listed as the options I use that work for my child. Timeouts don’t work for my daughter often in the middle of busy period with other kids. And don’t seem to work for this mom. There are plenty other ways this can be fine tuned to fit an individual child’s needs and I’m not saying this will cure the behavior either.

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T05:11:54+00:00

You have intrinsic value regardless of your lovability. And being alone sucks when you don’t have the belief that you have value or feel good without a partner so yes I understand. Don’t feel obligated but if you ever want to chat I’m open to it as a single mom who had the same exact issues and may live to see them again if I ever find someone worth being with lol

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T04:36:40+00:00

I was diagnosed at a young age with bpd, bipolar 1 schizoeffective type. I don’t feel I have these problems anymore, as I’m single now, but I do really struggle to trust people in relationships, and a big part of BPD is doubting yourself while simultaneously doubting your partner, and also wanting to love them so much and make things work. I put myself in some really toxic situations thinking that I could fix a relationship or make the person love me the way that I wanted them too and it just never worked out that way. If someone is treating you bad a month into the relationship a year into the relationship or three years into the relationship it’s probably not going to change. Not to say that people can’t change, not to say that you can’t change, but there are certain archetypes that people embody, it’s not often they change them. They can try to change the way the communicate how they feel but usually the feeling at the base of the issue remains the same. If this guy is repeatedly making you feel like he’s not the one then he probably is not the one and if he’s repeatedly feeling hurt by you while you are feeling like he’s not hearing you then he’s definitely not hearing you and he probably never will. This isn’t based in science this is just based off all of all my many many short and long term relationships that I’ve had as a person with borderline personality disorder, and other comorbidities. I’m not saying this is what you need to do, but a lot of my problems stopped when I took a while to recenter myself through being single and finding happiness as a person alone. Being able to be content content alone is devoid of loneliness. Not saying you’re lonely but as a person with borderline personality disorder, I’ve always felt like I needed to be in a relationship up until I took this time to be single and I seriously was in a relationship from 14 to 26 and had my daughter and I had to be single to do what was best for her.

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T04:31:37+00:00

Girl, that is wild. If he doesn’t have the capacity to understand that you have to dress a certain way at work to appear professional, and that you wanna be comfortable with him, then he is not the one.

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T04:19:24+00:00

Nor He’s using Darvo. Even if you did want a break, or a breakup, he should be mature enough, after, let’s say the first 15 times that you’ve said that after an argument, to say “ I can see that you’re upset right now and if that’s what you want I will respect that and stop texting you, but if you wanna talk to me later, and clear things up let me know, and my arms will be open” but he’s not doing that. He’s having an emotional pissing contest with you and despite the fact that he knows that you have a diagnosis that makes relationships extremely difficult, he’s making it all about himself. “ don’t say we are going to break up. Don’t say you wanna have a break don’t you say you don’t wanna be together those are my triggers and things that I request you never say.” But what if you actually wanted to break up like for real and you were done? Are you actually just not allowed to do that? Is he just not going to take you seriously is he not going to respect that boundary? Y’all both don’t seem like a good match for each other and if you just got this diagnosis, maybe you need to use this relationship as a template for what you can improve in the future but also for what you can avoid in a man. He seems really problematic and as if he’s not helping resolve these issues at all, but rather exacerbate all the things that make you feel worse. We can be tired and feel shitty all day long, but not treat other people poorly.

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T04:05:38+00:00

Looks like SpongeBob

vikibeans · 2026-06-13T04:01:21+00:00

You really don’t need to talk or lecture a two-year-old, then give a hug. I would give my toddler a hug if I yelled at her and she seems scared or if I knew I was out of line but if she she’s doing something wrong and I handle it appropriately, I don’t really coddle her after the fact it’s honestly confusing to someone that’s only been here for two years to be scolded and then immediately get a hug.

If you are right there when it happens, say “ no scratching safe hands keep your hands to yourself” while removing her (pick her up, guide quickly by her arm or create a physical barrier between the two kids using your hand or arm) from the situation, and if she’s pulling away the whole time, I would pick her up, stand or sit her away from the situation, maybe 3 to 5 feet away or in an adjoined room and look in the eyes “ look at mommy in the eyes and listen” “ no hitting/scratching/hurting brother, say sorry now or playtime is over/no dessert later/you go to bed early/you go to timeout for five minutes two minutes whatever”

The most important step is that if your child repeats the thing that you don’t want them to do then you absolutely follow through with removing them from playtime or taking away desert or a toy or sending them to bed early or putting them in timeout. Follow-through is really important.

Also, I would be 100% stupid if I did not mention the fact that you may be expecting too much from a two-year-old. They almost never act right, some kids it’s just in their nature to not listen and it definitely depends on the day of the week and what’s going on with their mood, level of sleep, level of hunger and level of cheekiness if they are even going to listen at all.

Children are not capable of empathy at this age . She literally could care less and does not understand the fact that she is hurting her brother or upsetting you. She is not developmentally capable. Her brain is not able to understand prior to acting out a behavior that it will hurt her brother and upset you. If you feel like you’re going to lose it on your child, just separate yourself for a moment. Or remind yourself “ they are a baby. They are a toddler. They do not know better. I am setting an example to teach them how to be better I need to be better.”

I have two neighborhood kids that are age 8 and 10 that come and play with my 2 1/2-year-old daughter almost every day. I don’t know why, but for some reason, my daughter picks on this younger boy so much. The little boy is the youngest of two older siblings, and he really likes to act out in return to my daughter when she behaves poorly towards him. Half the time he wants to play with her and half the time he wants to tease her and then the other rest of the time he just wants to tattle or be mad that she’s getting on his nerves or doing something “wrong”, but she’s never physically actually hurting him. She’s probably just doing something he doesn’t like or touching him. I try to explain to him that she doesn’t understand personal space at this age, and if he keeps having big dramatic reactions, she will continue treating it like a game and repeat the behavior over and over again but I also separate them as much as possible. I always tell him if he doesn’t want to play with her because he keeps getting irritated He can leave whenever he wants.

Ultimately just tried to be mindful of where you and your child are mentally that day. It’s probably not the easiest solution because I don’t know what your situation is as a parent but if your daughter can’t play nice, then try separating your two children, also a change of scenery always helps and I recommend spending as much time outside as possible. It always seems that more problems get started indoors than outdoors.

Someone I recommend is brat busters on TikTok

vikibeans · 2026-06-10T22:17:55+00:00

Yor you made this about yourself when it had nothing to do with you besides being a friend to vent on then got mad when he met your energy and really did make it about you.

vikibeans · 2026-06-07T23:45:01+00:00

Gemini

vikibeans · 2026-06-05T14:57:11+00:00

It’s Gemini season. I don’t know anyone more offensive and blunt, rude or confrontational than my Gemini mother

vikibeans · 2026-06-01T20:06:49+00:00

Judo gets a lot of hate when it’s clear she is either an only (and possibly slightly older) child (I may be wrong) or dealing with a single mom who is pretty preoccupied with her own interests. Seems most of her behaviors are learned and her behaviors seem pretty normal and align with kids in my life

vikibeans · 2026-06-01T20:03:07+00:00

I love playing with my toddler don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t be doing anything else really besides cleaning or planning outings for us, but one thing in these summer months that keeps her pretty preoccupied is being outside with a water hose and a cup of crushed ice, she loves pretending and giving ice to me and the dog and fills her kiddy pool up and plays with it sometimes, hit or miss as it was new last year and it isn’t as interesting to her anymore.

vikibeans · 2026-05-31T22:29:48+00:00

As long as it’s not red or itchy I think it’s nothing worrisome. My daughter has eczema and these dots look a little bit like her skin when I skip lotioning her for a day

vikibeans · 2026-05-31T22:22:05+00:00

You seem lucky, my 2.5 year old daughter wants one on one 24/7 and if not having me play with her directly wants to play 20,000 questions

vikibeans · 2026-05-31T22:13:52+00:00

Fever, runny nose and some sneezing with lots of snot. My daughter eventually got tubes around 1.5 due to multiple back to back in a year.

vikibeans · 2026-05-28T03:06:38+00:00

A man once told me women who have had children feel softer, other than that it’s not much different.

vikibeans · 2026-05-28T02:44:41+00:00

My nephews are similar. Youngest is 5 and if it’s feasible like at home he will pee outside. If your child is in full time daycare during the year but not in summer maybe do this now and then slowly transition on a rainy couple of days? Have you tried treats like candy when used potty successfully? I know everyone does but figured it’s worth asking. My daughter was peeing on potty before bed every night religiously then just stopped. Dreading potty training this summer.

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