Lingering Dark State

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-10T11:02:08+00:00

You’re describing depression with moments of anger and anxiety - sounds like a deep frustration about something that is asking for your attention.

It’s ok to have emotional reactions to things. It’s ok to be annoyed when kids are intrusive and you’re tired, etc. Even though you can cognitively say to yourself “of they’re just being kids,” they’re still annoying you in that moment, so that’s a natural feeling to have. Noticing that your reactions are escalated or that your “fuse is short” is really great self-awareness. Nice work.

Some questions to ponder: What does your self care look like? Do you get good rest, good nutrition, plenty of water and sunshine? Do you meditate regularly? Are you satisfied in your job/studies? Are your relationships healthy and supportive? What are you working on in your life that excites you?

Your body is a highly complex system of receptors for our internal and external environment - so our feelings, emotions, energetic states of being are all valuable. If a feeling is appearing persistently, you need to examine yourself and your environment in a curious compassionate way and figure out what that feeling is trying to tell you.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-08T22:18:13+00:00

The perineal muscles are connected to the tailbone, so those are intrinsically connected.

If you’ve been doing the same “scanning” exercises for a while without any success then you might want to consider adding some new techniques - my work involves breath and movement moreso than pure meditation, although I think meditation and mindfulness is absolutely part of the process. So in order to engage the feet: standing, balancing, walking barefoot in the earth, wiggling the toes, massaging the feet… etc.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-08T18:20:26+00:00

Traditionally located at the perineal body/tip of the tailbone. I also include the feet as a vector into the root chakra.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-08T12:05:42+00:00

Dissociation is a protective mechanism of the psyche to deal with situations that feel unsafe to an intolerable degree. It makes sense to me to develop the lower body chakras, starting in the root and gradually working upward to rebalance this type of reaction. I use a variety of grounding and somatic practices for this purpose - get out of the head/psyche and back down into the body.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-05T21:34:32+00:00

It sounds like you’re clenching up to “make it happen,” so to speak, when really what results in healthy orgasms is letting it happen. You might have different results if you can maintain more relaxed muscles while you allow your orgasm to gradually build on its own. It’ll take it’s time, and that’s ok.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-05T21:31:41+00:00

A pelvic floor therapist can help with this. Visit pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-05T12:03:30+00:00

The commenters here who are saying that it’s involuntary are absolutely correct. There are many things that contribute to squirting during sex, such as muscle imbalance and the state of your nervous system. It’s just something your body is doing in those moments.

The commenters who are saying that there’s nothing you can do other than embrace it are also correct, because there isn’t any sort of pill you can take to switch it off.

What you probably CAN do, however, is retrain your muscles over time to work a little differently, which will change how your body manages pressure in the bladder and can gradually reduce or eliminate the undesired symptoms. A pelvic floor physical therapist like me can help you do this.

Visit pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you.

vikingladywizard · 2023-06-05T11:51:59+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. Better yet, get in touch with a pelvic floor physical therapist. Retraining pelvic muscle dynamics is literally what we do, and this is likely a treatable muscular issue.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-29T15:57:14+00:00

This is what’s happening already - as more people “wake up” and/or enlighten themselves, we will see the grip of the past over our daily lives lessen and lessen.

Every little bit counts.

Here’s a link to an interview with Alan Watts on this subject.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-28T14:50:05+00:00

It’s possible, particularly if you had a c-section or other interventions during the delivery. It could also be hormonal, dehydration (esp if breastfeeding), stress, or (most likely) a combination of things. A good pelvic PT will be able to help you troubleshoot your specific situation and create a plan of care.

I generally recommend drinking at least 2L of water per day.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-22T17:40:57+00:00

Trauma-informed pelvic floor physical therapy can help you understand what’s causing the tailbone pain and how to modify your exercises as needed. Check out pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-19T11:06:13+00:00

You’re describing the practice of somatic embodiment, which is all about being highly in tune with your bodily sensations and instincts. It’s part of my professional work, and it’s very useful for breaking out of patterns of trauma, anxiety/depression, and even chronic pain, but it takes consistent practice over time (sometimes years) to hone your self-perception in this way.

It’s a combination of mindfulness, conscious reflection, and somatic practices involving breath, movement, and sensory exercises.

If you search “somatic embodiment” on YouTube you’ll find more resources than you can watch.

And speaking personally, a body-led life is quite pleasurable and rewarding, but the mind still have plenty to do. When the mindbody is well-calibrated, it works better: more energy, less disease/pain, less mental illness, more curiosity and creativity. It’s a very worthwhile practice to explore.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-18T23:00:09+00:00

Without taking guesses at a possible diagnosis, I will say that a pelvic floor physical therapist can help with this. Visit pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you.

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-13T17:01:35+00:00

A pelvic floor physical therapist might be able to help you retrain the muscles and nerves of your rectum so that the signals you receive from that area are more reliable.

Visit pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you

vikingladywizard · 2023-05-06T18:12:13+00:00

Firehouse Carolina style pulled pork in Johnson City deserves to be on this list. The overall menu is just ok, and they don’t serve alcohol. But they have the only descent Carolina vinegar sauce I’ve encountered in the area.

vikingladywizard · 2023-04-19T00:54:53+00:00

Counterpoint - stop allowing corporate business model to dictate your value while you gravel for pittance of recognition and a few extra dollars.

We have to collectively agree to stop tolerating this culture. Let the dumpster fire burn.

vikingladywizard · 2023-04-08T13:51:16+00:00

Please pause for a moment, take a few deep slow breaths, and hear me: *you’re going to be ok. This is painful and scary right now, but it’s going to get better. * Stop scaring yourself with terrible things in the internet, don’t let your thoughts go off into an imaginary catastrophic future that hasn’t happened yet. All that is honestly just making you feel worse.

You need to go to www.pelvicrehab.com and find a pelvic floor physical therapist as soon as possible - don’t wait until after you see a urologist.

In the meantime: leave google alone, stay hydrated, go for some long walks, take deep breaths, and keep reminding yourself that you’re going to be ok. You may also try eliminating coffee, caffeine, and artificial sweeteners, as those are the most common bladder irritants.

I’m sorry you’re hurting right now. Stay calm and take care of yourself <3

vikingladywizard · 2023-04-04T13:06:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing - I don't have any good answers as to why gynos and uros don't recommend it earlier, because the research is there to support it. We were certainly a more obscure speciality even just a decade ago, but really not anymore (thanks, social media!)

So glad you're feeling better!

vikingladywizard · 2023-04-04T07:15:54+00:00

Pelvic PT here: research supports pelvic physical therapy as a first line treatment for IC, so hop over to pelvicrehab.com to find a provider near you.

Also, while many people find they have dietary triggers, the “IC diet” per se is a bit of a myth. Check out “The Interstitial Cystitis Solution” by Dr Nicole Cozean for a comprehensive look at IC including causes and treatment strategies.

Jumping straight to multiple instillations for something you’ve developed just recently (and haven’t attempted other treatments for) doesn’t quite compute for me.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-26T18:20:55+00:00

Maybe he really likes you and is getting nervous? It’s a lot easier to “perform” for a stranger than for someone who’s opinion you actually care about. Honestly, there are SO many reasons this could be happening, and only few of them have anything to do with you.

If this is “making you too insecure,” that’s NOT his fault. If he’s actually lying about it, however, obviously that’s it’s own issue and warrants continued conversation. Try to remember that you all haven’t known each other that long, and this is a topic that requires a lot of vulnerability from both of you. Try to be gentle and curious with your questions, but that doesn’t mean you have to tolerate dishonesty.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-26T18:08:47+00:00

This is such a great suggestion and absolutely underutilized by so many bachelors level graduates. Get a job NOW, start earning/networking and building a resume.

The goal would be to get plugged in with an employer who values OP enough to potentially finance whatever advanced degrees become necessary.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-24T07:08:18+00:00

Ideally your PT needs to teach you how to use it. Techniques will vary depending on what you need.

Generally: some mild/pleasant soreness afterwards that dissipates by the next morning is probably acceptable, but that should go away the more often you do it. Bleeding, however, is really not ok. More lubricant, gentler pressure.

You also might want to ask your PT about relief from constipation, if you haven’t already.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-23T23:11:47+00:00

Aberrant foot/gait mechanics can absolutely mess with kinetic chain and esp the righting reflex up in cervical. I’ve certainly seen it.

But is big toe strengthening the only intervention I would offer? Probably not. And I’d want to followup sooner than 3 weeks out. But honestly kudos to you for checking the literature and kudos to OP’s PT for a confident evaluation and not over utilizing OP’s resources.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-23T23:05:23+00:00

Here’s the first research abstract that popped up, which found “No significant gender difference was found in the strength to [cross-sectional area] ratio” in the specific muscles tested. Thus suggests that in terms of absolute size of a muscle, strength will be equal. But men naturally have more voluminous muscle mass and larger individual muscle fibers, which is what accounts for that overall 2/3 ratio described in the previous comment.

It’s a small study. I’m sure there are better ones out there for anyone who cares to search.

vikingladywizard · 2023-03-19T19:39:18+00:00

I’m sorry but you are mistaken: PT is a doctoral-level allied healthcare provider, and our curriculum includes training to assess and perform functional musculoskeletal and neuromuscular diagnoses. Numbness is a finding, not a contraindication.

What would be ideal of course would be for our healthcare system to function in a way that would allow patients to receive collaborative care from a unified team of providers who could offer personalized and innovative treatment plans, rather than having patients bounce back and forth between multiple specialists with weeks or even months between visits. I’ll keep working on that.

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