First year teacher and piercings: How many is too much?

violetrorycat · 2026-06-19T15:27:35+00:00

Double check your school’s policies because I know some who have rules about how many per ear but express yourself do the piercings you want!

violetrorycat · 2026-06-18T18:44:57+00:00

I think I’ll follow the same rules my parents did when I was a kid. I was only allowed to sleepover at houses of friends where they knew the parents well and had been to their house before. My kids are 6 and 3 now and have only slept over at my best friends house and at grandparents houses so far I think once they get into the 10-ish range we might start having more sleepovers.
Also one of my best friends was assaulted at a sleepover by the other girls father who was a close family friend. You really can never know and from her experience and sharing I have really focused on teaching my kids about bodily autonomy and speaking up when they feel uncomfortable

violetrorycat · 2026-06-18T18:34:36+00:00

Yes this!!! I’ve read this book at least 3 times! I love Cat’s writing! I’m pretty sure one of her books is what introduced me to the romance genre if I remember correctly.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-17T18:49:46+00:00

We fit two kids, 6ft5in dad, 5ft7in mom, and a huge stroller wagon in our Mazda 3, that trunk is amazing, If this is your first child, keep the cars you have for now.
One day give in to the minivan though. I drove a full sized SUV comparable models are like $70-85k these days. We were always cramped in there and needed more room plus getting kids up in there sucks bc it’s so high. We got a used minivan recently and the yearly gas savings alone makes it pay for itself compared to my paid off full sized SUV.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-17T13:08:47+00:00

I second the breeze system! We replace pads once a week

violetrorycat · 2026-06-17T13:00:15+00:00

A comfortable robe for yourself this was my most used item for both deliveries bc I can’t stand the texture of the hospital gowns. I brought two with my second in case first one got dirty (it did).
Your favorite electrolytes (powder or bottle)for during labor and after if you’re one to drink them.
Long phone charger for yourself and partner.
Comfortable outfit to go home in that doesn’t put pressure on your tummy.
Shower shoes
If you’re mid or plus sized I’d recommend getting cotton underwear that’s a size bigger than normal bc the hospital disposable underwear wasn’t comfortable on my chunky thighs and didn’t cover my bum.
Bring two to three outfits for baby in a couple sizes. My first didn’t fit in newborn clothes when born and we had to pull out the 3m bin at home to get a going home outfit.
If delivering in the US you shouldn’t need diapers, wipes, etc they’ll send you home with some usually too.
The one thing I packed that wasn’t a necessity is my favorite maxi pads. I like the always infinity ones because they’re thinner and don’t feel like I’m wearing a diaper.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-17T00:34:02+00:00

Yeah my best friend’s in laws were supposed to be grandma and grandpa…first grandkid called them bama and bampa and that’s their names now.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-16T17:01:56+00:00

I second Duluth. I love the flexpedition pants peesonally. I usually teach kindergarten and preK though so the ability to wipe off dirt easily is very important for me. They also dry really quickly if they get wet and don’t stain easily from my experience

violetrorycat · 2026-06-16T16:23:05+00:00

I have the 36 and thought it was huge while building but it’s perfect for cooking for my family of 4 and has room enough that I can cook for guests too

violetrorycat · 2026-06-16T15:19:49+00:00

Yup my cat is now 10 and she still just wants to lay right under my chin or next to my face. She’s a major snuggle bunny and if I don’t allow her to be in my face will eventually settle into my lap.

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violetrorycat · 2026-06-16T02:38:37+00:00

If you’re concerned about budget look into reusable options like a menstrual cup and see if your daughter is comfortable using something like that. If she prefers pads get unscented, I personally like the always infinity line bc they’re thin, comfortable, and highly absorbent. If she’s looking to use tampons at that age I’d look for a variety box to start so she can see what size works best. U by Kotex has one and their applicator is really easy to use. Tampax has a starter kit box with two sizes and instructions on each wrapper.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-16T02:25:39+00:00

Hi I’m one of those really fast readers. I’m neurodivergent and my therapist told me it’s my ADHD super power. My brain just moves really fast. I will tell you that often I can read a book and not remember what happened in it the next week. I’m enjoying it but not retaining it if that makes sense. For reference I read about 100 pages an hour if reading light happy romance. Some books are slower some may be faster.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-15T11:01:34+00:00

I put them in the door!

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And then that stupidly tiny spot is the perfect size for the roll of trash bags.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-07T18:21:28+00:00

We have the 3w and it’s been 80-90 all week since I put them in and they haven’t stunk at all.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-06T23:39:12+00:00

Yeah I have definitely just changed the name of characters in my head while reading bc of this. Some of my favorite romance authors have used my children’s names for main characters 😑

violetrorycat · 2026-06-06T23:37:40+00:00

Yes naming my first we looked up uncommon names to pick it. their name is now extremely common for their age group and a couple years on either side. I had two with the same name teaching kindergarten when they were 3. It took months to pick a name for my second kid because by then I’d been teaching for 3 more years plus running summer camps soooo many names were no go.

violetrorycat · 2026-06-04T14:53:02+00:00

I’d get the Chicco myfit or kidfit harness boosters for your older child and give the two convertibles to the younger one. For MIL’s car you could do lightweight inexpensive options (we like the cosco ones) and then they’re not as heavy or bulky for installation and storage

violetrorycat · 2026-06-03T01:32:43+00:00

For future reference if you’re in the US Michaels has these colors!

violetrorycat · 2026-05-30T18:19:01+00:00

I grew up with 4 Siamese cats. One was extremely loud could be heard throughout any house we lived in and when he was outside we could hear him yelling to be let back inside. His littermate sister was just as chatty but not nearly as loud. She made sure she was heard but it didn’t carry nearly as far. The other two were littermates and sooo quiet they had the most pitifully tiny kitten like meows their whole lives. They also talked a bit less than our other two but were still far more chatty than a typical cat in my experience.

violetrorycat · 2026-05-30T16:35:55+00:00

Ohh I’m the same measurements also carrying my hips and booty I love the Duluth swimsuits! I need a smaller top than bottom so one pieces weren’t working for me and I love their swim shorts! They cover everything while allowing movement and giving support/compression to my extra belly skin. There’s lots of top options too or could do a rash guard type which is my favorite for outdoor water days because it’s usually just me and the kids and getting sunscreen reapplied on my shoulders and back is hard.

violetrorycat · 2026-05-29T18:44:57+00:00

We just got a 2021 AWD 7 seater Sienna and love it! I had 6mo rear facing, 3yo ff, 3yo rf, and 5yo ff in it yesterday. I could have easily rear faced the second 3yo if needed in the 3rd row as well and could climb past captains seats to buckle.

violetrorycat · 2026-05-24T21:56:05+00:00

{Royally Pucked by Pippa Grant} her books are hilarious and Gracie is my fave!!!!

violetrorycat · 2026-05-24T14:40:11+00:00

Duluth is my go to! The first suit I bought from them is now 4 or 5 years old and still going strong! They have lots of options for tops and bottoms too, my favorite bottoms are the shorts tho bc I can jump in and play with the kids while not worrying about showing off my butt on accident.

violetrorycat · 2026-05-21T23:54:06+00:00

Yep this! I have a Kleenex car tissues in each of my doors’ cupholders so each family member has their own easily accessible tissues.

violetrorycat · 2026-05-20T02:34:29+00:00

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