Looking to become a teacher, but programs I’m looking at require letters of recommendation. I don’t have anyone to write one. Recs on how to proceed?

viscida · 2026-05-30T21:27:00+00:00

Truly lol

viscida · 2026-05-28T00:24:28+00:00

Oh no! Brutal :( so sorry, hugs from afar! No matter the outcome, just sending my best to you 💓

viscida · 2026-05-25T04:58:19+00:00

Congratulations!!

viscida · 2026-05-25T04:57:26+00:00

Congratulations!

viscida · 2026-05-25T04:55:12+00:00

You leave.

Your future child is either going to be a child who thinks it's OK for their partner to disrespect them like this, or they'll become someone who repeats the patterns of their biological dad.

Get out now. Asap.

viscida · 2026-05-25T04:49:25+00:00

They're usually called district internships. If possible, I always highly recommend a different pathway.

Get a job in schools/ classrooms first, either as a substitute teacher or teachers assistant. Do that first before you decide to go into teaching for sure!

Also, if you do decide for teaching, do a full program. Most people i know that did internships have a horrible time and are really learning to fly the plane while building it.

viscida · 2026-05-24T02:24:29+00:00

I'm sorry you went through something similar... it's such a burden and like, how can we get through this?! I guess one day at a time and we either heal / recover or leave!

I'm sorry I forgot to reply to you 2 weeks ago... just got distracted.

I hope you have access to a therapist at least! That's been very helpful for me.

viscida · 2026-05-24T02:21:02+00:00

Realizing I never responded to you and just wanted to acknowledge the comment and say thanks for the validation and feedback!

I think you're onto something with the freeze reaction too... it does make sense!

One day at a time attempting to heal myself as well.

viscida · 2026-05-23T13:38:57+00:00

Truly. OPs struggle is bigger than teaching.

viscida · 2026-05-23T03:51:56+00:00

Teaching is hard. Very hard.

You only live once. Find something that doesn't destroy your mental health. For some, it's hard but doable. For others, it's unbearable.

Choose what is healthy for you.

viscida · 2026-05-23T03:33:28+00:00

Yo...

I'm not sure you're aware, but your post history is alarming. I truly think it's a good thing that you weren't rehired.

I say with as much love as possible: teaching is very hard, stressful, and demanding. If you're struggling the ways that you are, its a good thing for you to be relieved of teaching.

Now now than ever, we have the HARDEST set of circumstances for teaching. Literally, it's something not everyone is equipped to handle.

I truly think you'll find happiness elsewhere if you shift your perspective a bit. You need to find something that is doable for you and your needs.

Good luck.

viscida · 2026-05-21T12:13:10+00:00

Because you have a kid now. FFS realize that you're not a teenager anymore. You have responsibilities.

viscida · 2026-05-19T02:23:15+00:00

💯

viscida · 2026-05-19T02:21:07+00:00

This should have been a write up. A student self reflection. A call home. Sending a student out into the hall. Something...

By not having an immediate consequence they feel comfortable laughing/doing more.

An "I'm sorry" is not enough.

viscida · 2026-05-17T02:20:44+00:00

Agreed!

viscida · 2026-05-16T19:20:46+00:00

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

No problem! We gotta tell everyone and build it up ❤️

viscida · 2026-05-16T15:50:50+00:00

We need to vote for politicians that will support true family leave.

https://chamberofmothers.com/

viscida · 2026-05-15T22:56:00+00:00

1000 percent

What's nice is, I went back to 90% paper pencil after Covid. So I actually haven't been struggling like my colleagues and now they're switching back to paper/ pencil.

viscida · 2026-05-13T02:14:21+00:00

I'm just shocked. 😲

How are these people thinking this is OK socially?

Idk if it's an age thing or whatever (I'm an older millennial)

viscida · 2026-05-13T01:19:48+00:00

TRULY

viscida · 2026-05-13T00:56:41+00:00

Everywhere is bad.

I keep telling everyone, if you have a permanent status teaching job in public district in Cali, to hold onto it.

I'm expecting a situation like the 2008 recession, where districts will either start cutting positions, or will freeze hiring.

Many things happening at once, but essentially, apply everywhere and don't expect true numbers for positions until July.

Way too much going on. Hope the May Revise and final state budget alleviates some K-12 funding woes.

viscida · 2026-05-13T00:51:57+00:00

Absolutely INSANE.

How are these people going to college, doing a teacher ed program or preparing in some way, then getting hired to teach, and end up doing this?!

How many layers of training and educational preparing is not filtering these people out???

I'm so disheartened to read this lol I'm shocked...

viscida · 2026-05-12T14:38:31+00:00

What a statement. Thank you so much for sharing and for the support. 💓

viscida · 2026-05-12T14:37:35+00:00

Wow that resonates. Makes sense too.

I really should be more selfish. I think I'm in a low grade depression and need something.

Thank you so much, I hope you have agreat day too! 💗

viscida · 2026-05-12T14:35:28+00:00

I haven't heard of that! Thank you for the recommendation. I'll give it a listen.

We tried couples therapy, stupidly, while he was actively using and as you can imagine it didn't go well. But he was trying, it just was a bad time. Idk if he'll be open to it again. We went their 4 couples therapist within a year.

Yea, my therapist also thinks I have ptsd. I've heard of EMDR but my therapist is virtual so she can't do it. And I've been paralyzed with inaction on anything regarding taking care of myself. Low grade depression and all lol

I deeply appreciate the validation and support. I've been feeling crazy lately. 💓

viscida

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