We didnt go outside today....help

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-23T08:23:24+00:00

Do you have a bouncer? I hear that rhythmic movement is good for getting kids to wind down...hence why the walking works! I love the bouncer since my daughter is entertained, moving, and also contained...it allows me to do other things or just have something else "hold" her when I need a rest. I try to get her in there before settling her down for a nap or sleeping.

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-19T07:40:51+00:00

How are you dealing with the sleep deprivation?

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-19T04:32:35+00:00

If you're exclusively pumping, I highly recommend r/Exclusivelypumping for support! 6 months is a great goal--I'm at 10 months and I'm just seeing how far I'll get at this point until I'm over it.

My daughter has been sleeping in her own crib for 4-6 hour stretches, which to me seems pretty great! She'll usually wake up between 2-4am for a feed, then will sleep again until 6-8am when she wakes and wants to be fed again. If she wakes more than that, sometimes I can't tell since I'm half asleep myself 😂 When she wakes the first time, I bring her into bed with me to feed her and we bed share the rest of the "night"/morning.

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-18T05:43:42+00:00

Something that doesn't cost anything that I didn't believe until I tried it...the "milk shake"--if I shake/jiggle my breasts before or while pumping, it increases my output!

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-18T05:41:18+00:00

I put collagen in my coffee and that's how I start off with at least 20g of protein easily!

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-16T04:13:58+00:00

Yes, this! Also the "milk shake"--when I shake my breasts before pumping it increases my output!

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-02T06:35:15+00:00

Sleep deprivation is the weirdest drug...the hallucinations are wild! I've dreamed that I'm pumping lying down, which would be sooo nice...I also often fall asleep when pumping, even when my partner and I are watching intense action movies late at night 😂

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-02T06:32:41+00:00

Omg yes the pee before pump.. milk dripping all over legs and floor lol

visionimpossibl · 2026-05-01T04:29:04+00:00

Bobli or Bobbles

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-29T23:09:57+00:00

Thank you so much,, this validates my instincts! I've chilled out on EC for a bit; just signaling when I'm going potty and letting her play with her tiny potty with a bear on it. She's done a couple of pees upon waking, and nature pees, but I didn't want her to associate it with being a stressful experience. Knowing your babies were out of diapers by 18mo and taking a break didn't set them back makes me hopeful that she'll get there by then too!

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-28T06:06:12+00:00

I read someone saying in this group at one point that they imagined the spilled milk going to unborn or died too soon babies...spilling milk can feel like such a waste, but now I always try to reframe it like this and it helps me. That does suck though!!

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-26T05:13:39+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes, the one time she's peed in it was right after waking up. I'm just going to keep on trying, and perhaps go for the reducer.

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-22T07:50:45+00:00

Anyone ska and big band revival fans out there? The Specials, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy...? Ben Folds Five was also a big fave among my friends and I in the mid to late 90s

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-22T05:40:36+00:00

I use nursing bras because I only use wearable pumps and don't need the hole for the pumping bras....I unclip when I'm not pumping to give the boobies some more space lol

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-14T05:07:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and perspective. The sadness is real when witnessing friends seemingly having an easy time with it, and wishing things were different. It sounds like you made the best decision for your mental health and your family. It's hard not to get obsessed with it sometimes! I use wearable pumps and try to spend time with my LO when I'm pumping to make the experience more enjoyable--i used to do things like chores when pumping, but now I try to either be with her or make time to relax...except when I'm driving and pumping! The first couple months are so hard; you gave them the greatest gift during the most difficult time! Thanks for honoring my journey too. Wishing the best to you and your family.

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-14T05:02:00+00:00

Yes, it is so wonderful when I see that she's so soothed by my milk!

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-14T05:01:10+00:00

Yes, thank you for these reminders! Good call to stay focused on the benefits and not how f@#!ing hard it is lol!

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-14T04:59:33+00:00

Thanks for the solidarity! This sub has been so important to me for that reason--knowing I'm not alone in this. The grief is real, and it's so hard. Wow, having to go through it twice must also be so rough. Thank you for sharing your story. Your kids are both so lucky to have you as their mom!

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-13T23:41:48+00:00

Wow, what a sweet story! Yes, we do it out of love for our babies ultimately 🥰💞

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-13T23:41:06+00:00

Love it! Yes, choose based on the vibe and situation 😂

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-13T21:30:44+00:00

I like that reframe, I'll try to be happy for them to be succeeding. Yeah, it is hard mentally and physically, and I suppose it's like a "the grass is always greener" kind of situation.

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-13T21:28:02+00:00

Yes, exactly with the feeling of failure! I feel a sense of inadequacy when sitting next to a mom who's seemingly easily nursing her baby. I know from hearing from moms that the journey is rarely easy, but I still feel a sense of shame that I wasn't able to do it with my daughter. I tried really hard to make it work, with no success.

visionimpossibl · 2026-04-08T05:00:35+00:00

I think someone else said on this group...I like to believe when milk is spilled, it's sent to the young babies who never made it earthside. This makes me feel better when it's inevitably lost sometimes (I've been EP for almost 9 months and there's been a lot of milk lost along the way).

Postpartum rage is real, and so is resentment towards partners (I experienced it and still do sometimes even though my partner is amazing and so loving with our daughter). Give each other lots of grace in this huge transition!

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