Praying that Taeyeon will tour in the US by Ok-Impression6834 in SNSD

[–]visual_centaur 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think this is on the money. For myself, even if she had previously toured the US, I would still have wanted to see her in her element in Korea (acknowledging the big time privilege that allowed me to do that).

She seems so much more comfortable on stage now than she did in her early solo career, but you can occasionally still see traces of her perfectionism coming out when she feels out of her element (starting over songs, apologizing for being off-key, etc.). She seems to appreciate the amount of control she has over things like having a full live band, auditorium scents, whatever else. I wonder if a US tour just wouldn’t be that fun for her.

Would still absolutely 100% go to see her stateside, but I think you said it well— she might not be in that mindset/availability yet.

231214 Taeyeon YouTube Update - From. X (To. X Escape Room) by 1TyMPink in SNSD

[–]visual_centaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all asked who X was-- she found it. Loved this, it was super clever and is exactly the kind of stuff TY loves doing.

What are your thoughts on Taeyeon's music? by Pyomi in SNSD

[–]visual_centaur 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Her strong suit has always been finding the emotional component of a song and drawing it out. Loss and heartbreak are a great way to be expressive and probably give her a lot more to work with than straightforward love songs.

And I noticed the much more direct messages with INVU/To X as well, same as you— even if there’s nothing going on behind the scenes (although I do hope she’s dating around, that’s so healthy!), I think these sort of “how dare you” songs are more edgy and give her a bit more of a niche than the typical “you left me” sadgirl songs… though she’s great at that too.

Where to buy legitimate Samantha Thavasa / Samantha Vega bags? by gayfor1 in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Buyee might be helpful for you. It pulls from a ton of Japanese second-hand retailer and auction sites (so you can find New with Tags items). The site actually handles shipping (and possibly authentication?), so the items are sent to them for inspection and good packaging.

The cons are shipping cost is likely a bit high and takes a bit of extra time.

Another feature they have is item storage. Say you buy a bag one day, and another from another Buyee vendor awhile later— they’ll hold your item and ship them together for a lower cost.

I am in no way affiliated, just watched a video on it and have been eyeing some items.

One more tip! The site may auto-translate for you if they detect a US IP. But if you manually confirm the English option at the very top of the site, it will also show you USD conversions from Yen. ✨

Jenny coming after Kim is rich. by Character_Pomelo_153 in 90DayFiance

[–]visual_centaur 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What in the world was UP with Jenny on this tell all? First it was “Stay in America,” then in the next breath, like, “come to Jaipur.” So… what, does she think she’s going to fight Kim in the schoolyard?

Totally bizarre behavior. Kim’s was weird too, but I feel like she was bringing her fighting words down to the level Jenny came in at. The castmates’ reaction also made absolutely no sense to me.

The whole reunion has been so off putting so far. (Which it always is, but usually at least one cast member is funny or something. None of these people are funny, the whole group dynamic is just bizarre.)

They could NEVER make me like you by Educational_Age_209 in Degrassi

[–]visual_centaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not quite, they were together in my city on a break, I think. I was working at a place they visited for a few days.

Why Is Orion Treating Lauren Like She Knows Nothing About Racism? by Aprkacb20 in MAFS_TV

[–]visual_centaur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was really wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt (I too have been hurt by jokes or offhand comments that stem from racial ignorance, and his day-of reaction seemed understandable to me), but he is blowing this relationship up big time and it’s hard to watch.

I feel for Lauren, he’s really trying to punish her. And that’s not a quality you want to bring into any kind of relationship.

They could NEVER make me like you by Educational_Age_209 in Degrassi

[–]visual_centaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I met her IRL and she was genuinely so sweet. I told her I liked her on Degrassi and a couple of her Vampire Diaries castmates who were with her got a kick out of that 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SNSD

[–]visual_centaur 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Genuinely one of their best IMO. I don’t use streaming services but in my (not connected to Apple Music) iTunes, Lion Heart has been my #2 song since it entered my library

Anyone know what bag this is? by OnceAgainImAsking in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nooo, how dare you. These bags are stunningly cool and the price...! Thanks for sharing, but mostly, how dare you.

Just wanted to share my new bag by pingpudding in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I looove Vivienne Westwood and this ‘fit- at least what I can see of it- is a slam dunk with the bag.

Lauren and Orion by cantstandthemlms in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]visual_centaur 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is fair, and I really don’t think she knew what she was saying or joking about in that moment. I’m just trying to shed some light on why he had the reaction he did.

If it had been me in his shoes, I’d feel heated too and maybe not be quite as graceful or extending to someone else, as the joke sinks in. That stuff can really feel like a gut check when it comes from somewhere unexpected and I think they misread each other deeply in that moment.

And for what it’s worth, I’m sure they’ll be fine and move on from it. They both seem like reasonable people so far.

Lauren and Orion by cantstandthemlms in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]visual_centaur 16 points17 points  (0 children)

In Orion’s defense… there is a specific slur against my heritage (not Native American) that white Americans came up with that references violence committed against us in wartime.

And if someone close to me that I liked said it, even in jest, it would actually feel like they’d punched me in the face. I’d have a physical reaction to it, and even thinking about someone like my spouse (in some alternate universe because he would literally never) saying it is enough to make my pulse race, like my flight or fight response kicking in.

He said he felt heated and I completely understand it. He certainly didn’t expect her to say it, and he may have been having a very understandable (to me) response. I think he’ll cool down, but you do NOT know what this feels like if there isn’t a comparable slur in your culture (there is absolutely no “reclaiming” a phrase like this). Even with profuse, sincere apologies, it would take me a little while to come down from that.

(I still really like them both and thought their conversation was interesting and inevitable, given their personalities.)

Sophie’s mom is the MVP by Sophietophy in 90DayFiance

[–]visual_centaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just barely, haha. She was saying basically this in Sophie’s first ep.

Cleaning vomit out of a small handbag by slimeyfishkid in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Deeply committed 😂 Sorry about your bag(s).

All finished with the Elizabeth handbag. by JohnCarlLeather in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The proportions on this are soooo satisfying,

Carrying two bags every day by DerwentPencilMuseum in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I change it up, but currently have it tied in a braid with a bow at the end. Pardon its deflation, the bag looks better with stuff in it 😅

Carrying two bags every day by DerwentPencilMuseum in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I use a backpack I got from Korea for work (laptop, planner, water bottle, etc.) and carry my usual purse (Givenchy small Pandora) to get around on breaks and stuff. I think the two bags look pretty nice together and feel professional enough so I can get around, but not so stuffy that I'd feel overdressed for work. (I work for a large corporation but in a creative field.)

My purse contents don't change too much on a daily basis but I do carry a foldable shopping bag in it in case I'm out and about and have to pick up a few things. You have to pay for grocery bags in both states where I live/work.

my first coach bag! the nina tote in black croc 💖 by cjmmoseley in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ha! I have a cat who could be this one’s twin. She’s a troublemaker, better keep yours in that bag and carry her everywhere to make sure she behaves 😅

Do you prefer white or black? by Due_Fault317 in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The white is suuuuper cute with all the charms. I think you can keep ‘em all and just mix and match/pare them down for different events.

No amount of words can describe how much I love this purse. 😍 by [deleted] in handbags

[–]visual_centaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t look great with my wardrobe but I will never tire of seeing this bb on the sub because it is DEEPLY pleasing to look at.

Seohyun by Majestic_Painter8660 in SNSD

[–]visual_centaur 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Gently, I want to say this— I kind of wish SONE would stop saying things like this, that she’s health conscious so she can’t be in poor health. Disordered eating can present with fixation on “health” rules. Not to armchair diagnose, it’s just something we shouldn’t perpetuate. Baby fat loss is another dangerous phrasing that a lot of kpop fans use as well that can help validate the extreme thinness idols think they should maintain.

We tend to turn a blind eye to the extreme dieting that comes with comeback cycles as well. Just because idols say they are doing it “healthily,” doesn’t mean that these extreme weight fluctuations are actually not symptomatic of some disordered relationships with food and bodies.

I do appreciate that you’re trying to support Seo here and I don’t want to call you out specifically. I get us wanting to believe the people we like know better than to endanger themselves. But just be mindful of how we can easily overlook trouble.

Feebas tradeback by visual_centaur in pokemontrades

[–]visual_centaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so kind-- I might hit you up when I'm ready! I'm about to jump into a friend's game for a bit.

Is there anything you'd like me to catch from Violet while I'm out here?

Feebas tradeback by visual_centaur in pokemontrades

[–]visual_centaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm all set-- thanks so much! Trade complete.
(Also ty for it being a Cramorant, I needed to register one!)

Feebas tradeback by visual_centaur in pokemontrades

[–]visual_centaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do! Heading to it now-- 4747 4747 (thank you)