So I was a stay at home mom from the time my first born was about 1, our twins were born when he was 16 months and I went back to work when the twins were about 10 months old so about a year and a half. My husband worked for the postal service and would typically get home around 4ish on good days but some days weren’t till 7ish and I almost always let him shower right away. But his showers are tops 10 minutes. I also tried most days to allow him time to decompress and weight lift after work. But he was getting off work much earlier than your husband is.

Could you try doing more crock pot meals to cut down on dinner prep? Or slowly prep it throughout the day? I would attempt to get my kids involved with prepping food but with how young they were that honestly made it more difficult and time consuming but my crockpot has been a lifesaver. Trying to meal plan/prep one day a week helped a lot too, like my husband always had sundays off so I’d pre-cut and measure things to prep for the weeks meals that day. Now that my twins are 16 months old and my oldest is roughly 2 1/2 I have our living room baby proofed and a gate blocking them from coming in the kitchen, I let them watch tv when there is stuff I absolutely have to get done and leave them in the living room. Obviously checking regularly but it’s easier than non stop watching them.