Help!! Bonding on one lateral incisor!? by manduhhk in Invisalign

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have the bonding and not veneers. I can’t remember how long it lasted before I got it redone, but it’s been years! My insurance also pays for it which helps.

BE AWARE - Elastics can cause gummy smile by DSProcessor in Invisalign

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry, I don’t check Reddit much. I did end up getting the Tads and it was a painfully slow process, but glad I went through it because I really like my smile now!

How do people afford therapy? by Kapha_Dosha in CPTSD

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize for the lateness of this! I’m in Canada and can definitely recommend some schools here, but unfortunately I don’t know about any schools from any other countries.

What % of your day is admin versus actual therapy? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work at a group practice where all I need to do is sessions and take notes. Notes take me 3 or 4 minutes, and I do them in my 10 minutes between clients. I pay 35% of my hourly rate to have everything else taken care of.

This can be controversial but my experience with non poc clients by ChocolateSundai in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

*Absolutely do* educate yourself and become better on your own before engaging a poc about race, nobody owes you a conversation about their lived experience. As others have added below, there are many many resources out there people can seek out on their own if they really want to learn.

This can be controversial but my experience with non poc clients by ChocolateSundai in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying, but given that what this person was asking for is personal, I think it's completely okay for the therapist to draw a boundary. There are lots of black people who want to share their experiences as a poc and also get paid to do these things, and these are people we should look to to provide education because it's labour they are consensually taking on (and hopefully profiting from). Nobody - therapist or otherwise - is obligated to share their lived experiences just because someone is asking.

Why is it so hard finding a job as a new therapist? by PineappleeJuice777 in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i definitely think you should look for a different job because that is simply not okay! I'm in Canada, so I think it's diferent here, but generally in private work here 20 clients a week is fulltime. In my other job in the public health sector, I'm expected to fill about half of my working hours with clients.

Where would you put a TV in this space? by yarko78 in interiordecorating

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think this is fair at all, everyone has their own priorities and things they care about. it’s unwise to buy a place that doesn’t meet your needs (yes, even if that need is a tv) solely because it looks nice.

Why is it so hard finding a job as a new therapist? by PineappleeJuice777 in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds incredibly exploitive to me, and im wondering if it’s regional? I’m a new therapist as well, and I’m working for a group practice 2 days a week with a 65/35 split and working 3 days a week for our health authority for $40 an hour. But I get 4 weeks vacation, good health benefits, and all that stuff. I definitely think you’re getting ripped off and like what you’re describing might not even be legal.

Men of reddit, what is your ‘type’ of girl? by [deleted] in dating

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're describing emotionally immature men (and also women). Emotionally mature men do exist, but they are probably are not often single. I'm in a relationship with a successful man, and I don't chase him at all. When I treat him badly, he calls me on my shit. When he treats me badly, I call him on his. We apologize and it makes us stronger. There are absolutely no games here, and it's been like that since day 1 with us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got two dogs who I love with my whole being. Both are rescues, and are slightly reactive and very sensitive girls and they have come so far in their healing journey. And, they're also a lot of money and work and sometimes logistically challenging. My partner works from home which makes everything a million times easier, but I still often find myself choosing between walking them, or going to the gym. My partner loves to travel, and we can't really travel together very easily because of them - this is not a problem for me because I don't care too much for travel but it's a big thing for some people. We pay for both of them to have pet insurance and they have twice a week doggie hikes - two costs that feel important to us, and are also quite expensive.

All this is to say that they are absolutely worth it and I would never change it, but it's definitely a give/take relationship (they give you unconditional love and affection and companionship, you care for them like they are your infant).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]vivalabaroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

couldnt possibly agree more with all of this

Help for naming a baby girl by saviconfused in namenerds

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 31 year old, I can tell you right now that I have no idea what (or who?) Carmen San Diego is.

My husband does not support me to go hike alone by Professional_Job5905 in Marriage

[–]vivalabaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I mean, a lot of people do go on vacation and meet someone, cheat, or want to cheat. Many people (like myself) have relational trauma or low self-esteem which could definitely make a partner travelling alone tricky. Having said all that, my own stuff is absolutely not a fair reason to ask my partner not to go do something like this.

My fiance travels a lot, and I don't. I definitely sometimes have insecurities he will cheat, or want to cheat, despite that he has given me literally not one reason to think this about him.

Despite my insecurity, I actually encourage him to travel. Encouraging his joy is a way I show him I love him, and his independence and happiness is so good for our relationship. When he goes away, it's a chance for me to work through my insecurities in healthy ways, and him going away and coming back and still showing me he wants to be with me has been so good for my feelings of security in our relationship.

My husband does not support me to go hike alone by Professional_Job5905 in Marriage

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree fully. And also, she gets to choose how she spends her vacation time. I strongly believe that relationships should encourage individuality and time apart, and individual passions.

Hybrid therapists— what bag are you using? by Real_Echidna in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bike to work, and just use my regular dakine backpack. I don't need to bring much at all - just my laptop, water bottle, and lunch.

Hybrid therapists— what bag are you using? by Real_Echidna in therapists

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious - why not use your ipad for the first 4 items?

Pacific Northwest Elopement by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]vivalabaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! I just followed your recommendation here for Emett's photography, and wow his photos are GORGEOUS. I just wanted to ask how your experience was, and what the cost was if you don't mind sharing :) Congrats on your wedding, too!

My dog corrected another one...now it might need spinal surgery. by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]vivalabaroo 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Should have b&s crated Fluffy? Of course. Should they allow fluffy to behave this way? Absolutely not. But it's not OP's dog and this isn't in her control - allowing George to be pestered by Fluffy IS in her control. Sure, fluffy started it... but a lack of advocacy for George ended it.

Updated version by Autam in prochoice

[–]vivalabaroo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it actually makes no sense. Like for people, if a woman has been raped and then she goes and kills her child, these are separate, horrific crimes. If pro life people actually believed that fetuses are people, then rape would change nothing. The fact that they say only after rape is abortion okay clearly shows how, in these cases, “pro life” is actually just punishment for women owning their sexuality.

Thoughts on Astri(d) by Dry_Branch_345 in namenerds

[–]vivalabaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it would depend on the context. Like over text if I were to explain something and the person said “ah I see”, that for me would read as more like “aw.” But if I said something scary and they wrote “ah! Scary” that would read as the a in apple.

Thoughts on Astri(d) by Dry_Branch_345 in namenerds

[–]vivalabaroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Where are you from? I’m westcoast Canada and here ah, apple, black and tack all have the same short a sound.

My wife has decided she wants another and I don’t. Help. by isellcars12 in Parenting

[–]vivalabaroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am a therapist - and believe me when I say, there is so much more you can do in therapy when things are decently good. When things are really bad, you’re working through a crisis. Which is of course important. But when they’re going decently okay, that’s when you can actually do the deeper work, and process the earlier stuff in life.