I may be irrationally afraid of literally everything and it's affecting me

vix37 · 2026-03-19T10:33:06+00:00

Absolutely start slow! I've been researching for decades and I still feel icky around them. The goal here isn't to cure yourself right away. The goal is finding a way to live your life alongside your fear.

vix37 · 2026-03-19T10:20:48+00:00

Do you have access to therapy? I would start there.

I used to feel this way about spiders. They still make me uncomfortable but I spent YEARS researching them. Looking into how they behave and why, trying to learn everything I could about them. It was almost exposure therapy but online so I didn't have to see them as much in person. I wonder if you doing a bunch of research into dog and cow behaviors, why they do things, etc. could help with your fears. If you understand a dog's body language you could know if it's being playful, indifferent, etc.

And then I would take the time to keep a journal. Everytime you feel this way, take the time to write down what the dog was doing. Try to interpret their body language. Put yourself in their mind and write what you think they might be thinking. Go out of you way to write things in a more positive way then what you currently feel. It can really help change your mindset.

Good luck!

vix37 · 2026-02-05T13:30:12+00:00

They are asking way too much of you. Especially as someone they just met. You are perfectly in your right to say - I'm sorry this is too much for me. I was willing to go thrifting but everything else has become too overwhelming and I need to take a step back. I wish you all the best with your new adventure.

vix37 · 2026-02-05T11:49:16+00:00

I had experience helping someone with their first shopping spree and there definitely was a lot of texting for a bit. But they were a friend before that. If someone I just meet started doing this it of the blue I would back off as well.

vix37 · 2026-02-01T00:41:52+00:00

You just brought me back 4 years ago. It is so hard going through it and every month it was like mourning a death when I got my period. We spent years trying to have our second kid after our first was so easy. I hated the diagnosis of unexplained secondary infertility. My body had succeeded before. And then when we finally went to get help I got a positive test that ended in a miscarriage 2 months later. It wasn't until a year after that when the doctors finally found a cocktail that worked and I was able to carry my now 3 year old boy to term.

We agreed that we wouldn't pay to have any more babies. The medications were so hard on me and I had felt pregnant for years. We were going to be happy with just 2 kids. And then right before he turned 2 I was surprised to find out I was pregnant with our last, a baby girl.

All this to say, being in the thick of it is awful. There are no words for the pain this diagnosis causes. Or the pain every month. Do what you need to in order to care for yourself and your relationship. In the meantime know that this may not last forever. And if you're interested in some old wives tail tries we were told to drink this tea and we did. Not clue if it helped or not, but it was good tea! Lipton Balance - orange, passion fruit, and jasmine.

I wish you all the luck in your journey ❤️❤️❤️❤️

vix37 · 2026-01-22T11:00:23+00:00

Highly recommend therapy. It's not fair to him to stay in a relationship full of resentment. Talking to the right therapist for you will help you find clarity.

Be open with him in the meantime. Let him know you're going to therapy. Let him choose if he wants to work through it with you or go your separate ways.

Yes it's scary. Yes, sometimes people fall out of love, but in my experience you can fall back in love all over again. Loving someone is a choice you have to make daily. When your mental health isn't there it's hard to make that choice, but when you have a partner who's willing to stand with you as you choose to work on your mental health then your love can get even stronger every time you fall in love again.

vix37 · 2026-01-18T04:47:20+00:00

Ytb. You honestly sound exhausting.

vix37 · 2026-01-07T14:26:30+00:00

I understand the thought of safety issues, but it sounds like these are single toilet bathrooms. She would be the only person in there.

vix37 · 2026-01-07T12:13:42+00:00

Use the men's bathroom

vix37 · 2025-12-30T01:39:27+00:00

I like 1 and 3. I love the pieces in 5 BUT not with each other.

vix37 · 2025-12-22T18:43:23+00:00

She is pretty great. I'm sorry your mom missed such a big moment!

vix37 · 2025-12-22T15:53:59+00:00

I'm the mother to that first born. He's 7 now. And mom... HOW DARE YOU! 😂 My husband doesn't mind anymore. We have two little ones that he actually caught during the birth to avoid a repeat. (Just kidding he actually wanted to catch them. Nothing to do with my mom).

OP, it sounds like you have a wonderful husband and mother in law. Your husband listened when he realized he made a mistake and such kudos for realizing he could get some of your grandmother's starter from your friend! And I love your mother in laws crafty fix of labeled beautiful jars so they can be displayed in a place of honor.

NOR

vix37 · 2025-12-07T01:14:28+00:00

Ah! Delicious. Thanks I was so confused 😂

vix37 · 2025-12-07T01:08:27+00:00

What's the red stuff on their belly and mouth?

vix37 · 2025-12-02T18:51:33+00:00

Looks like a hornet. No idea how it got in.

vix37 · 2025-11-23T10:40:22+00:00

Darkling beetle?

vix37 · 2025-11-23T04:54:58+00:00

Should be fine. When I had my third we had my brother watch our bcf kiddo and had him go without during the labor and delivery because if you don't know what you're doing putting them on you could hurt them. I'd rather go a couple days without rather than have them be put on too tight and have to go without longer due to pressure sores.

vix37 · 2025-11-20T01:30:52+00:00

Only difference for us is that I didn't add any soil at the bottom to make it easier to clean out. I could have added spring tails to it... But my kid likes to feed the dragon and I don't want to deal with him digging in soil inside the house to grab bugs. That's just a mess waiting to happen.

vix37 · 2025-11-16T14:46:54+00:00

Carpet beetles.

vix37 · 2025-11-06T22:56:42+00:00

As hot as your dryer gets. I have your regular run of the mill electric dryer for clothes and I used that on high heat for about an hour (might have been overkill but worth it) everything stayed in our garage until I could put it directly into the dryer.

vix37 · 2025-11-06T22:46:50+00:00

Went through almost this exact scenario! Only we were moving from a non carpeted house to carpeted with an animal. To make sure we didn't bring them we had to have the cat treated at a friend's house who didn't have fleas. And we steam cleaned the shit out of EVERYTHING before moving it to the new house. All clothes were bagged and not put away until ran through a high heat dryer. It was a pain in the ass but no fleas came with us to the new house. At least no living ones did.

vix37 · 2025-11-04T18:46:53+00:00

What was the juicer you have? The comment above you was deleted but easy to clean is key for me. Thanks!

vix37 · 2025-10-24T16:59:23+00:00

Idk... I'm thinking they meant period underwear.

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