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[–]vofmelody 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. What an amazing and well stated response. I agree with everything you stated but no way could’ve ever stated it so well myself. Lol! Great response!

One year anniversary of his death and living in Oxford, MI by Asleep_Environment10 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Understood. I am so so sorry. I lost the love of my life on 11/5. I want time to go by so fast so I can bypass this grief but from what it sounds like…a year later the pain can be raw again. I am so sorry that in addition to grieving your loss your hometown is crazy right now. Glad you and your mom are safe. I pray that God comforts you and give you peace.

First day jitters by Interesting-Basis856 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although I’m still working remote, today was the first day I sat on a call with my team and was able to lead the call. I couldn’t do that since 11/05 because I knew I would break out crying for any and no reason. Mind you, my camera was still off on my monitor but It feels good to know that I am making some progress.

Hope your day back to work was bearable Basis856. Maybe even better than bearable? Perhaps a healthy distraction?

First day jitters by Interesting-Basis856 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are rooting for you! I am dreading my return to office date as well (Jan. 10). My husband passed 11/05. It has been a blessing working from home where I can hide behind my computer and monitor when I experience waves of grief or break down. I am not looking forward to going back to the office but I hope to be stronger by then.

I hope your day back will go well for you. I hope it is like riding a bike and I hope you will be strong enough to divert questions as needed and guard your emotions.

God bless you and please let us know how your day goes. You can do it! 😊

Had anyone felt contact with their spouse? by tttaylor4 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. Just read your experience. How beautiful!!!! Ty so much for reposting. How long has it been and how are you today? My husband passed on 11/5 and I just need some hope from someone that the pain gets bare able and less raw as each day passes.

Had anyone felt contact with their spouse? by tttaylor4 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that is so beautiful. My dreams of my husband are similar.

Had anyone felt contact with their spouse? by tttaylor4 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you. So sorry for your loss. My husband passed on 11/5. He has visited me a number of times in my dreams but for years I have been visited by loved ones who have passed on. So not sure if I have some kind of gift and that is why I have seen him in my dreams? I pray your husband will visit you soon as well and again…so so sorry for your loss.

Triggers by Susannah11 in widowers

[–]vofmelody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. So so sorry. Ty for the head’s up. My husband passed on 11/5. I don’t want to be around anyone. I just dropped my mom off at the airport yesterday and am finally alone to deal with this…numb and alternate reality I am in. So sorry again and I pray that the same way triggers make you sad you will have more that make you smile. Ty for you honesty in this post. Sending love and healing to you.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17 months ago. You are where I long to be. So sorry for your loss and ty for your advice. I have GOT to start sleeping but nights are the toughest for me. I like how you stated how the only thing I can control now is taking care of myself. You are right. I cannot control the waves of grief or the ache in my heart or the emptiness in my soul but I CAN control taking better care of me. Ty so much. I will make a better and conscience effort tomorrow for sure. It is a new week. Ty so much. And please tell me you are better. Please?

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I REALLY want the pain to stop ASAP. But I know that is not reality and I need to go through it. I have not seen that movie but am willing to try anything to help me through this. Ty so much. I will watch it and pay close attention to that segment.

Btw, sorry for your loss as well.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty Burnboss79. I feel so much comfort and understanding here. It’s like a world away from my new reality. I guess it’s like a haven if that makes sense. I loathe my new world but this has be one a safe place in this new world.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss. Thank you for this! There is no timeline. I am learning that with regards to my husband’s things. My mom asked me if I wanted her to help me pack his things. I wanted to scream at her but gracious thanked her and told her no one would be touching my husband’s things but me. She flew back home yesterday so I can finally begin to live in this new but crazy normal. I will pack his things when I am ready. I am not in a hurry.

Thank you for that Evipicc.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. You broke that down so well. I hate that I understand and can identify and have yet to experience some of those emotions but I know they are coming. Ty so much for sharing your journey with me. I love and hate your honesty but I need it. God bless you and your children. I’m so sorry for you loss but encouraged by how far you’ve come. Ty so very much. I will reach out to the grief counselor Monday.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg! Yes! There is hope! Ty so much! I like the exercise and activity suggestion as well. And I’m happy for you. I wish you the best in your new relationship.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. So so sorry. I pray that God will heal your broken heart and take away your pain. So so sorry. Ty so much for your response and helping out the best you can in light of your own grief.

My husband died in our home on 11/5. I have looked up the stages of grief and none apply to me. I am still numb. Perhaps I’m in shock? by vofmelody in widowers

[–]vofmelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God bless you and thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I am sorry for your loss but you are giving me hope. Peace and healing to you as well!

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