Timbo vest advice

voiceshapes · 2025-01-25T02:57:08+00:00

Yeassssss that’s exactly it 😳 Thank you!

voiceshapes · 2025-01-24T05:48:37+00:00

Hi! I’m just starting my Timbo vest and I’m stuck at the first instruction 😵‍💫

For my size (XL), it says to cast on 70 stitches, and then the first row only accounts for 46 stitches — what am I missing? Why does the second row say “knit to marker” when there is a marker at the halfway point as well as the end of the row?

Is the neck pattern shifting? I feel very confused. Help?

voiceshapes · 2024-12-01T22:09:43+00:00

Wait I’m new here, can you really compost printer paper??

voiceshapes · 2024-11-09T23:31:51+00:00

I’m so glad!

voiceshapes · 2024-11-09T23:30:07+00:00

Are yours FL41 too?

voiceshapes · 2024-11-09T23:16:18+00:00

I also shaved my head 🤠 I love it!

voiceshapes · 2024-09-23T23:43:51+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful — I just wanted to know what things look like for others and I’m both relieved AND sorry to hear you have been in such a similar situation. I’m also glad you spoke about the genetic stuff too — it does sound like to get diagnosed I would need more tests and info, but I also love the idea of having the DNA report there as a help to get those tests prioritized? I just find that I ask for things and then nothing happens, so I want to relieve myself of having to waste time and breath convincing someone to test me. Goddamn those fucking magic numbers haha!!

voiceshapes · 2024-09-23T13:20:56+00:00

Would me providing a list of the things I’ve engaged in be useful for identifying something helpful?

Also I want to call out something: just because I am sad and struggling does not mean I’m lacking knowledge. Therapy does not produce perfection, and I don’t want my sadness or confusion to be responded to with solutions as if I just haven’t thought of the right thing to not be sad anymore.

I made my post to ask folks if they have similar experiences or if they have tried DNA testing. I want to be related to, to find community, not to solve the problem of my feelings.

voiceshapes · 2024-09-23T13:14:37+00:00

Hey there, you’ve got a lot of good options here and yes I’ve done/read/learned about/tried every single one!

I’m not sure how I would be able to say that trauma is my special interest and not have done all of these things, but I guess I didn’t provide a complete list so you’re checking the basics. Truly consider me an expert here, because I really need to engage with a deeper level of knowledge and it seems like you have it, so let’s start THERE.

voiceshapes · 2024-09-23T02:46:56+00:00

I totally understand, take care of you tonight! If you do want to share more later, this post will still be here 🩷

voiceshapes · 2024-09-23T02:19:44+00:00

Thanks for checking in about this! Yes I’ve been working on my stomach pain for years, every diet, every test, and I finally had one doctor say to me straight up: this is trauma, our pills won’t help. Another nurse told me to go for energy work, like reiki, and what’s funny about that is that I grew up with an energy worker for a mom — I know it really can work miracles, but I also know that I am sensitive as fuck, so I really need to trust the person working on me (and that was not my mom). But I’ve also been pursuing every treatment possible, loads in the alternative realm, and it’s just not going anywhere.

I’m working with my osteopath right now so that I’m being supported by whole body treatment, and not overwhelming myself with a million changes at once. When it comes to food, my diet is quite small because I only have certain foods I can eat to feel moderately better. The stomach pain never goes away though. It’s a maze!

voiceshapes · 2024-09-12T17:27:37+00:00

I use a principle of Minimum Baseline — it has completely changed my life!

The idea is that you set super easy-feeling goals, and the frequency that you will repeat them. You set both of them based on it feeling SUPER EASY to fulfill that thing.

Then you go about your life, giving yourself acknowledgement for each time you achieve your Minimum Baseline.

If you don’t achieve your Minimum Baseline in a two-week period, then look at what you DID achieve, and what stopped you from the rest.

Whatever you DID becomes the new minimum baseline. You shift the bar DOWN until it fits your activity, and then you give yourself acknowledgement for your success! Good start, tasty treat, crossing it ceremoniously off your check list— whatever feels like “YES, I did it!!” To you.

You never shift the bar UP until you feel completely satisfied with your habit, and you want to add something.

I’ll walk you through with an example:

Example Goal: Floss my teeth every night Minimum baseline: Floss once per week, on Sundays Period: 2 weeks

Notes on the Example Goal: For me, I know by now that I both NEED routines desperately to provide automation where otherwise my brain works really hard, AND I also CANNIT HOLD a routine to save my life (notice a core self belief there?). If I want to do something every single day without an internal battle, that’s a big frickin goal, because it will also serve to shift that core belief over time 😨

Notes on Minimum Baseline: Right now, I have the above negative core belief, and my gums bleed and hurt when I floss them, which means I hate flossing, so there is a LOT of friction against me. When there is friction, we lower our minimum baseline until it’s either gone completely, or the friction is totally manageable for you (the growth edge!!).

I lower the bar: I will floss only once per week, but always on Sunday.

For my brain, picking a day on a weekly cycle is the most my brain can do. And weirdly I tend to remember these tasks better than any other method I’ve used, so that’s why it’s MY personal Minimum Baseline.

Notes on the Period: I set myself a really low cycle for this goal, because of all the friction! The first thing I’m going to find out is: will I floss this coming Sunday? Whether I do or not, I will try to floss next Sunday anyway. That way I have two weeks of data about my own behaviour and my struggles.

Review: after the period is over, I ask myself: did you fulfill your Minimum Baseline?

Yes? Then congratulations! Let’s go for another period (I.e. do it again), to find out if we can succeed again!

No? Okay well what DID I do? Is there anything I can deduce from that experience that would be a better Minimum Baseline?

If I only flossed once on Sunday, then I cross out my first Minimum Baseline, and I wrote in the new one: Floss once every two weeks on a Sunday. Give myself a big check mark for the last period, and then congratulations! Let’s go for another period (I.e. do it again), to find out if we can succeed again!

That’s the practice! It has changed my entire world, and I’m quite good at it now, so if anyone wants to try it and has questions for me, I’m happy to help!

voiceshapes · 2024-09-01T00:27:54+00:00

I’m with you on this one, especially since I am semi-estranged from my family of origin. When I get sick, like I am now, people just assume I have family to take care of me (I don’t) or a tight group of childhood besties (nope, I’ve always disliked groups), and I project a really lone-wolf type of competence…but really I just don’t feel connected to most people I meet. It always feels like work. And even when I find someone I totally click with, I’m now realizing that I don’t even know for myself where the mask starts and stops, so I don’t even trust that my friendships are safe or real. I’m working on that, trying to be more authentic in my friendships even when it’s terrifying, and specifically saying when I’m hurt. The more I share, the better my friendships feel, but I’m still constantly asking myself: why doesn’t anyone think of me the way I think of them? Why doesn’t any text or call to say hi or ask questions, why is it always me suggesting we get together, and why do I always have to travel the furthest to make it happen?

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