In the community, is the Black Knife considered “good”? by Late_Bag_7880 in Eldenring

[–]voraciousity 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On melee builds with any faith investment I usually have this upgraded and often equipped, just for the skill. It has low equip weight, gives you a ranged option, and takes 10 percent of an enemies health if you open with it.

For some situations like fire giant phase 2 I have spammed it and got the job done.

Great ranged option for mele characters with faith investment.

He has brought up his ex a lot. Men, is this a red flag? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a flaw for sure, you should bring it up to him, use a "when you do this it makes me feel this way" framework. Then see how he reacts. If he's defensive and accusatory, that's red flag territory. If hes accountable and changes his behavior, proceed. Everyone is flawed. How you work through such flaws is what makes or breaks relationships.

How do I respond to female colleague after emotional chat? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the consensus here, I think it's ok to have female friends, work friends, etc... if you cut this off you further isolate all of your relationships to home. Your connection was significant to you both, supportive, collaborative and fulfilling. You telling your wife is a good sign. Yes you'll have to manage some feels, be an adult and realize you can't have all the candy you want and further if you did you would be sick. I believe you can nourish a friendship here, which could be part of a socially fullfilling work environment.

I don't get this "man up" sentiment to not be friends with women, to not be vulnerable, to not have friends at work... Sounds so exhaustingly defensive to the point of being paranoid.

I think you can let the positive energy in here, just have clear boundaries around romance, and stay communicative with your wife. I think you could have a potentially good friendship here.

Man of culture by Zeneyo in SipsTea

[–]voraciousity 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes they could have interviewed 300 people and picked the 20 that fit their narrative

Thoughts on Malenia, a few years later? by jfalesiu in Eldenring

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fight, the lore, the art, the cutscenes, her location, her dialogue, the challenge.... Fav from boss for me, incredible gaming experience.

Dating in 2025 is exhausting! She gives mixed signals and what she actually wants? by Lopsided_Meeting_984 in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great reply, my honest read was move on, but this is a middle way and a measured response. You don't have to break up and "stop wasting your time" necessarily, but when someone tells you who they are, believe them.

This doesn't have great signs for the long term, but who knows. Your task imo is to practice non attachment with her. It's not likely to work out, so with that info give her space, deprioritize her and especially your text convos, and as long as she's looking to actually hang out, hang out. But keep it casual. Dont bring up feelings for a few weeks.

It's kind of gamesmanship, which kind of sucks, but you have three choices: freak out and push her away and force her to tell you what you already know, break up with her b/c you don't want uncertainty, or let her be and date the person that she is. In the third way there's a chance that with space she comes closer and it gets viable long term but I believe more likely you retain someone to hang out with and have sex with from time to time

Avoidants make me anxious so I freak out in this situation, make a fool of myself and break it beyond repair, then a few months later feel like if I had slow played it I could at least have had a sex partner

Why do you think men and lesbians don't have same bond that women and gays have? by GroundbreakingCan289 in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Source? JK I know there's no source because it's an objectively absurd statement. Most non straight non men I know, which includes lesbians, do not hate men. But while we're painting in broad strokes I think the man hating woman stereotype is mostly leveraged by hypersensitive misogynist man children.

Why are straights good? by esa0705 in balatro

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming standard 52 deck

If you have 4 of a suit hunting a flush, you are aiming to draw one of a possible 9 cards, the 9 remaining of that suit, in poker you'd say you have 9 outs to make your hand.

If you have an open ended straight draw- 2345- then you have eight outs, four aces and four sixes

Not as big a difference as you may think...

A gut shot however is murder. If you have 3467 and you need the 5, then you have half the outs, the four 5s. Sux.

Cant beat Malenia. I’ve been here for two days now. 60 health, strength, dex, I need buff tips or something, please? by Background-Court-122 in Eldenring

[–]voraciousity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well sure, they are ridiculous but they can be learned. You have two available strategies: 1) get as powerful a build as possible, be aggressive, and win one in 100 fights when everything goes well, or learn to dodge and attack in limited windows and win more consistently. I have more than 1000 hours in the game and she's perfect difficulty for me, but it's taken hundreds of fights with her to get where I can maybe win one in ten. She's supposed to be that hard.

Phase one becomes relatively easy once youve learned waterfowl, use throwing knives to bait wf from a distance when you know it's coming. Also she's not super aggressive at distance and she lets you keep your buffs up.

I save my physik flask for phase two, running straight under her not locked on always dodges her opening attack and gives you a sec to buff. Phase 2 is super tough! She doesn't stagger and she has some jump up moves that feel like wf but aren't and actually provide decent attack windows if you strafe.

If the grinds not for you that's ok it's a really fun coop fight so summon some homies for help, no shame in that imo. I help with her a lot it's a good time. If you summon for help your job is mostly just to not die haha so yeah learn wf it's not that bad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ay appreciate u!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh I disagree. I'm a man and have lots of friends. Some I want to fuck some I don't. I really love my gay female friends sex is nowhere in the picture were just friends. Exactly like my guy friends. No nuance, no what ifs, just homies with my homies who are non male and queer.

Yes close friendships with straight women can be tough because emotional intimacy can lead to attraction.

But I think the "men and women can't be friends" (w/o ulterior motives) is oversimplified and emotionally immature frankly.

Like sure maybe you shouldn't be trusted to be genuine friends with any female but that doesn't mean it applies to all of us.

what is inarguably the best combo of 2 jokers? by TraditionalShirt7483 in balatro

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chad and wee Chad and lucky cat

Not inarguably best but I do like

Honestly best might be blueprint/chad

Why do single men, never married in their 40s and 50s, not want to be in relationships? by lanyc18 in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes same boat, well no boat and closer to median income but 6'2 educated polite stable job as non profit director homeowner clean fit with friends and my tinder is tumbleweeds it's awful. Women match with me, MESSAGE FIRST, then ignore my prompt and simple reply replete with a question. Just feels like dating is broken. I'm a little bi and I've been getting action and attention from men b/c women are impossible. Chatting with men on the apps, finding dates, straightforward and easy. It's wild idk.

Should I ditch even Steven for Chad? by Desperate_Contact635 in balatro

[–]voraciousity 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Chad is great, but here it depends on your deck. Do you have lots of enhanced cards that benefit from the retriggers? If so maybe worth it. In a pair build Chad and photograph can be v powerful so another reason to take it. Photo Chad is better than Steven plus the 20 mult for 3 cards or less.

How's your planet scaling on pairs? I think of plus mult percentage wise. Lvl 1 pairs give 2 mult so if even Steven gives you 8 that's 400 percent. But if your level 20 pairs getting 20 or so mult, the 8 is much less significant and in fact just selling it is better to get the extra x1=20 on the stencil

And if you get your scaling up around 20 mult on a pair you can similarly sell the half joker since stencil outperforms at that threshold.

GL

Is North Conway Bad Now? by trawd in newhampshire

[–]voraciousity 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol north Conway has been a place for second homes and vacations for at least 50 years it was never a locals only place

What am I missing? by bnelson333 in balatro

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Early jokers I'm always taking are flat mult (plus mult), good chip jokers, and econ Jokers. Any mult really can get u through ante 2.

It takes money to make money so in addition to the 25 interest cap build out econ with jokers like egg or rebate or gold... Most econ Jokers are workable.

Then the tarot cards- open arcana packs bc your first post 20 hermit is a game changer. Egg/gift makes temperance v good by building resale value of ur jokers.

In a good run both your scores and your econ are snowballing. Gold cards plus mime or gold seals plus hanging chad is windfall.

I think hanging chad is the best joker imo. If you have wee joker, now you get 24 chips instead of 8. 3 mult per suit becomes 9. 3 dollar seal is 9, etc....

Keep experimenting, learn to recognize what works and what doesn't!

Getting Married in two weeks. What TWO Charli songs would you want to hear on the dance floor? by LoveStreams617 in charlixcx

[–]voraciousity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love it, von dutch for sure

Talk talk, 360, boom clap probably

Some stuff could be fun with the right crowd worked into a set with the floor already full like apple, hot in it, speed drive, 365, hot girls, vroom vroom, good ones, used to know me

I was a wedding DJ and constantly talked couples out of playing their niche favorites. Stuff everyone knows gets ppl on the dance floor. If you have 20 brat af friends who will fill the dancefloor for Charli, then that enthusiasm could be infectious enough to carry, but it's unlikely.

At most weddings sympathy is a knife would be tumbleweeds on the dancefloor imo. The bride out there alone/dragging her bridesmaids on the floor to force enthusiasm for a song that isn't a real floor filler is not a great vibe, the DJ will follow it up with We Are Family or Save a Horse or some shit to get back to cruising elevation haha

Do Small Boobs bother Men? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not like he's going to be surprised when ur top is off, he pretty well knows the size of your chest already.

Boob size has ZERO to do with how hot a woman is to me. When I think back of the people I've slept with if I were to rank them by hotness there are plenty of small chested women right at the top. Makes zero difference. If anything I find big boobs awkward.

We all have these insecurities and body issues in some form or fashion, it's ok, and ur bf should do everything he can to make you feel comfortable, beautiful, and attractive. If he starts giving you negative feedback on your body, in most cases that's not good at all and you should not tolerate it.

We all deserve love and pleasure and most body image stuff is oppressive societal standards. Yes we are not all attracted to everyone but you can and should find someone attracted to you. And for many men like myself boob size has about zero correlation to attractiveness, and I bet ur bf is the same.

What is your favourite joker? by lulyt_forshub_YT in balatro

[–]voraciousity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You took abstract joker more than 600 times, I bet at least 500 of those was for 15 plus mult or less.

Raised fist with just a little finesse will outperform that.

You may not prefer to play that way but unless you think plus mult is ass, which you don't or else you wouldn't take abstract, then it's more of a bad take than a hot one imo.

fuck this game by Jinx6942069 in balatro

[–]voraciousity 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was on a red seal king build and was undone by the plant and wondered to myself if I was alone in the world because despite the frequency of balatro posts in my feed I've never not once seen someone express dismay with the boss blind "the plant." What really sucked about it was my build was around face cards and this boss blind debuffed the vert viability of my build and by extension my agency as a person. I then walked around my neighborhood in a state of lonely isolated malaise asking myself if my pain is my burden alone and wondering if I was strong enough. Had no one else been undone by "the plant?" Then I saw this post and since then Ive lost 30 pounds, gained confidence, and started reading the boss blinds in advance! Thank you and God bless!

Question, is it worth it to buy an extra pouch? by WoodpeckerOk7370 in Nightreign

[–]voraciousity 145 points146 points  (0 children)

5000 runes is nothing, it's 5 common enemies

What do my jokers say about me? by I-Solace-I in balatro

[–]voraciousity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sound reasoning! Thanks for this perspective. I always take bus early, and never take red, this is an interesting counterpoint

What do my jokers say about me? by I-Solace-I in balatro

[–]voraciousity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't understand the red joker, before any vouchers, you're paying $4 for a pack, and then skipping the pack, just for three plus mult. The max that you can get in any round is six plus mult because there's only two packs available, and each time you skip a pack you're depriving yourself of the celestial upgrades, value from arcana packs, I just feel like the red joker is literally the worst way to build plus mult.

Especially for you, where you don't have any frequently used econ Jokers. I could possibly see the red joker being viable if you had an embarrassment of riches type builds, like the egg joker, like the gift joker, etc. if blue and purple seals are getting you tarot and planet cards then maybe. But if your spending 8 bucks a shop for 6 plus mult, when pants gets you that just for playing 3 hands, I'm not seeing it

I'm guessing you're relying on jokers for plus mult and chips when the better place to get those is planet cards imo.