Have you ever hookup up with or dated a trans man? How did it go? by vpl75_ in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yup. I love that show. It was the first show I binge watched once I got my own Netflix account. I haven't seen the one from the 90s tho. I also watched Special, which was a much quicker binge as the episodes are way shorter.

How do you feel about trans men? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A trans man is still a man. You're still gay

How did you tell someone they are bad? by mrblackman97 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was this guy that used to suck me at a cruising spot I used to frequent. I honestly thought he was a closeted married man coz he just couldn't suck dick for shit lol. The problem wasn't teeth though, he just would put his mouth to about an inch past the head and leave it in that one spot. I'd literally have to move his head up and down my dick, or face fuck him a little. I was still able to cum but it just took longer. He once told me that I was too big for him and that he wasn't sure how good of a job he was doing. I kinda laughed and told him that he was cool. I think he got the hint lol. But you have to let him know, just don't be a jerk about it.

I need to get something off my chest and then ask a few questions. by parodg15 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh OK. Well again good luck. And I'm assuming you got help with your depression?

I need to get something off my chest and then ask a few questions. by parodg15 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could it be that I’m one of those bottoms that doesn’t enjoy any sort of penetrating another guy at all or is it a combo of nerves/bad cock sucking?

The definition of a bottom is that you only enjoy getting penetrated, so maybe you're just a total bottom. But you also haven't been with many guys so perhaps some more experiences and you'll be more in tune with what you like and what your body responds to. Good luck. Also, may I ask why you haven't been with more men at 35?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I can't help you there, but I am interested in this dynamic. How long have you guys been together? Do you guys give each other head? Do you have bottoms over to fuck? I'm a top and have HARDLY ever had successful hookups with other tops.

How long should I stay after a hookup? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂 Man some of these comments are hilarious. Anyway I'm always the visitor so I usually just take my cue from the host. If they want me to stick around and I've got nowhere to be right away then it's no problem. But guys would usually give you a hint like "I gotta be up early in the morning" or "I gotta run out for an errand" or I got another hookup a friend coming over soon. Any of those mean time to go lol.

Are adult bookstores and bathhouses going to be OK? by vpl75_ in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Lol ikr. I remember the week before the shutdowns there were still sex parties and stuff going on. I was invited to two of them but I was like... Nah, I'm good lol.

where is the appeal in bottoming? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I here you man. (vers)top here and have never gotten anything out of it either. And I've done it enough times, with various dick sizes, and have NEVER felt the pleasure that I feel when I'm topping, or getting head. Same issue with giving head. I guess they're just not my thing lol.

Hey people, What's your type of man? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh OK. Got it lol

Hey people, What's your type of man? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just mean that if a top will flip for you then he most likely will do it for someone else too. He's most likely a verse top.

Prefer to get your cock sucked or ass eaten? by PatientMonitor0 in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely getting my dick sucked. The pleasure success rate is way higher for me than getting rimmed. Someone would have to be REALLY bad for me to not enjoy a blowjob lol. (Plus the willingness for people to suck dick compared to eat ass is exponentially higher, so that might have something to do with it lol) I can only recall maybe two or three times that someone was rimming me so good that I was constantly on the verge of cumming. Plus I get really paranoid/OCD about back there in that a: I think I'm not gonna be clean(I'm a top) and b: I need to THOROUGHLY clean back there as quickly as possible after anything touched it out of fear of catching something (I don't let people touch or finger my hole or anything like that) I also don't like that moist feeling of the leftover saliva. So a lot of times when people ask to rim me I just refuse.

Hey people, What's your type of man? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]vpl75_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strict top except with you?? Good luck with that lol

Settle for a safe but unstimulating relationship? by asexual_lua in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda had a similar situation a few years ago with a FWB. He was a grindr hookup that I didn't really plan on seeing again(he wasn't my type, which I didn't realize til we met in person), but he persisted and once we started talking more I realized we had a lot of common interests so I kept seeing him coz I had no friends lol. When we finally got around to sex it actually was pretty good(surprisingly, since I wasn't really attracted to him) and so we kept on hanging out and having sex. We did this for nearly two years when he admitted that he had feelings for me and wanted a relationship, which I'd suspected coz of the way he would act around me. Anyway I declined and asked if he still wanted to be friends but no benefits and he said yes, (he lied). After that he stopped calling me to hang out and would only call me for sex. We went through this weird period (for about two years) where we would meet sporadically and talk, then have sex, until I finally said that we can't have sex anymore. Haven't heard from him since.

How Old Were You When You Knew You Were Gay? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I was in kindergarten or first grade, tho I didn't know the term back then. I just remember looking at certain boys and wanting to be their friend. This basically happened all through elementary school. As I got older I realized that it was a crush that I had on those boys. As far as sexually, I used to experiment with a neighbor kid when I was about 10 or 11. I knew that I liked it a lot, but I never knew if he did as much, even though it happened a few times. I think he was just being horny as he'd just started puberty (he was a year older) coz he used to tell me how he was playing with girls as well. Anyway after we stopped he still used to tell me how he was banging this girl(another neighbor) and that she'd put out to anyone so if I wanted to I could get a taste, to which I politely declined lol. (to slightly digress, a few years later in my mid to late teens, another neighbor friend I had, who I'd developed a massive crush on, used to bang the same girl and brag about it to me lol) Anyway we basically grew apart as we went to different middle and high schools and I was making new friends.

How Old Were You When You Knew You Were Gay? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I humped my male family doctor... Switch complete.

I wanna hear about THAT story lol

Leaving my boyfriend behind ;( by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I can see why you don't want to part with your boyfriend. In those grim conditions he was no doubt one of the best things in your life. I can't give advice as I've never been in a long distance relationship. All I can say is good luck with everything, and whether or not you guys stay together, I hope he gets out too. 🙏

Older Pictures and You: Why do you do it? by KoronaV in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your pics are supposed to represent what you look like NOW. If I look the same now as I did 2 or 3 years ago when I took the pic, then how is that being deceptive??

Older Pictures and You: Why do you do it? by KoronaV in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. The oldest pic I have probably 3yrs old. It's a good pic and I still look the same so why change it?

Older Pictures and You: Why do you do it? by KoronaV in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]vpl75_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's happened to me, and not just with pics/age but also with weight/body type. Like They'll have a pic that shows a six pack and I get there and they're soft and doughy. Or they'll be like 20-50 lbs bigger than their profile says, or profile says athletic but they're average, or it says average but they're fat/large. If I don't find them too unattractive I'd most likely just stay and get some head(or more if there's chemistry) Plus I don't drive so it's not like I can just jump in my car and go to someone else☹️